Does Planning Get Marriage at 30 Yrs-Old a Near-Failure Plan?
Little thing do you know, and everyone has a plan. I don't believe in people who say I don't still have dreams; at the end of the day, when they say "I don't have a plan," there is something in their head consideration. I am single, but it does not reflect mine. I also want to enter into marriage soon, but when? Still in the process of planning.
It's 4th day of our running, I don't know, but my running buddy is much more motivated. One of the things I can't change about my fitness partner is her mouth. I always told her to keep silent, for I was embarrassed about what she was doing, especially when people were looking. She just laughed at me and continued her words; I made my walking faster so she shall stop.
She was my source of what was happening in my place, a natural face of Marites. Mind that I am not attacking her; I shall thank her for the daily dose of information in our place, lol.
Then I remembered her older brother, and I was in their home when they were planning his marriage. I asked her if June 2023 was the tentative date, and she said she didn't know, but it's not 2023 but 2022 at least. She says that her brother wasn't open to them, especially financially, like before. It seems like a sign that he was thoroughly planning for the marriage.
I nod and somehow understand her brother.
That's happened when married. Indeed we will be building our own family, and the flow of money won't forever be friendly, mind that our older siblings will end up with such thing, but we must consider their positions. Building his own is something.
Then I remembered one of my virtual friends whom I had never met. He talks about his plan and marriage. He told me that his relative had been arranging his wedding, I was shocked to hear the news, and I asked why.
He tells me that he was 30 years old, and if he agreed with that proposal, he would end up alone in his entire life. I don't know what to reply to him, but I also asked if it is really in their traditions. But he replies that he wasn't that good-looking man and finding a partner indeed becomes a problem for him.
Why are these stories connected? They were two in their thirties, which had a lot of pressure in getting into marriage. Filipino traditions where this age is the age of the process, people will question their capacity to build their children and more like a curse of people who will be in their mid-thirty to be obliged to have kids.
This is quite stressful, though. That's why I understand somehow the man who managed to choose to match someone even he doesn't love and the one that wanted this to be done as soon as possible. They want their own family as a matter of time.
That leads me to think, how about me? Am I will also one of those bachelors? When I am 23 and people my age and friends in the same brackets already have children, some are married and building their own; others are trying. When was my plan?
I will be honest that I am not looking yet, but I also want to build mine someday and become a father of at least two. But I am a bit worried actually, for things always happen precisely.
They said that thirty is a rushing age where men get pressured. Is that real? I think it was, for the reality of people I saw personally, this is the problem they face where they were over think more.
Most people also dreamed and wished that on the 30th, they would get marrieds so things would get smooth, but it feels like it wasn't for everyone. At 30 years old, not everyone thrives as we wish; the career or plan is still progressing at 30 years old. Does it have something?
This is such a sudden thought that is coming into my head, not to overthink or anything. Yet it's abused that the age of 30 is a pressure era most bachelors face.
Is it the fact that we planned wrong as we waited for 30? I wanted to open this as a discussion, and honestly, I am looking for some opinions.
Or maybe some of my readers face the same encounters with others or themselves?
Does planning to marry at 30+ is failure?
As long as comfortable ka na go. -The career or plan is still progressing at 30 years old- yes. May nabasa din ako dito na yong mga friends daw nya may family nya, sya inuna nya career money, kaso wala pang anak at asawa, gave up his childhood gf.
Sabi nya sana nagpakasal na sila noon para may inaalagan na sya mga babies ngayon. Yong money darating at kikitain, yong tao na para sayo, let go o keep forever. Kanya kanya naman tayo ng story. Malay mo db, start buidling your financial prowess too, support ka nila, namin pala and cheer.