I was in the middle of thinking and planning about my future, how I will live my life for the next couple of years, and the things I should do in order for me to accomplish the goals I have.
And then this random thought came into my mind.
"Should I just look for and marry a rich man in the future?"
Just like what I have said, this is just a random thought but here I am again, writing about it, as my mind couldn't just let this idea go and vanish.
Do you also have this childhood memory of when you used to joke around with your cousins about getting to marry a "4M" in the future to uplift your family out of poverty and to have a better life? 4M means "Matandang Mayamang Madaling Mamatay" or in English, "Rich old man who dies easily."
I remember when I was still a child, I used to hear my cousins poke fun at this statement. I mean, I'm sure they didn't really have any bad intentions about this joke. But now that I am old, isn't it that there are some cases where pretty young (but in their legal age) ladies would marry themselves into a rich old man just to really get their families out of poverty and to experience a more comfortable way of living? They wouldn't mind having a huge age gap with the man they're going to marry because of some sort of reason, most of the time, it's about their financial capabilities.
Just to be clear, I'm not being judgmental here and I have the utmost respect for those who engage in such relationships for the same reason. I'm just merely stating what is evident today.
But of course, this is not always the case as there are those women who marry men who are quite older than them because it is in them that they have found their "True Love" that they couldn't find from those who are of the same age or closer to their age range.
As for me, about the age gap, I really believe that when it comes to love, "Age is just a number". In fact, for my personal preference, I would prefer someone who is older than me than someone who is younger or is of the same age as mine. I just feel like they are more mature when it comes to handling relationships.
But then again, age has nothing to do with maturity. There are those who are already old yet still act childishly, and there are also those who are still young but are already thinking maturely because of their experiences in life.
Meanwhile, in my opinion about marrying a rich old man (or just a rich man that is not that old), I think there is also nothing wrong with it as long as there is love and respect between both parties. If you love that man and he could provide you with everything you need, then that would be even better.
Sometimes, there's nothing wrong with being practical, you know? You can't eat "love" or "love" can't pay your bills.
So going back to my own question,
"Should I just look for and marry a rich man in the future?"
No, I wouldn't. Why would I look for a rich man and then marry him? But I'd probably reconsider marrying a rich man if I love him more than I love myself.
Marriage is such an important thing for me and the financial capabilities of a person shouldn't be a defining factor of why you are marrying a person. You should marry because you love him, and not just because of the financial security he could give you. There are also some circumstances that which he could be rich, but he's not generous enough so the point of marrying him is invalid.
And just like what a Tweet that I quoted before says,
"My goal is to be a rich wife, not a rich man's wife."
So instead of looking for a rich man to marry, I should just work my ass off until I could be a rich wife, not a rich man's wife. If after doing everything I could just to reach my dreams and achieve my goals, I'm still nowhere near them, then I'll probably reconsider that option. Char!
Anyway, I'm still too young to think about marriage, and I'm also still single and I love my freedom so much that I don't want to engage in any kind of romantic relationship yet. I just want to focus on my goals and dreams for now instead of thinking about such things.
Eto 'yung kadalasan naming biruan ng mga friends ko kapag super stress na kami sa acads. Na mag-drop na lang kami tapos hanap ng sugar daddeh, hihiz. Pero syempre, biro lang. Mas maganda pa din 'yung sariling sikap talaga~
And, trueee. Dapat ang goal natin is maging "rich wife" at di lang basta wife ng mayamang lalaki. Okay lang din pala basta mayaman na din us para it's a tie, 😁.