People in our lives, especially our family, relatives, and loved ones, want only the best for us which sometimes leads them to set a high standard for our actions and expect the best from us.
We often feel like we are being strangled by them because of the things they want us to be. We think that they are trying to control our lives, which makes us feel like we're only living for them and not for ourselves. Their eyes are always looking at us as if we can't commit any mistake in life because they'll end up being disappointed. We often feel that we are kept in prison and that we have no right or freedom to be who we want to be, to do the things we want to do, and to just live our lives according to our own terms.
However, let us be guided and be open-minded that what our family and loved ones set for us is also for our bright and better future. They have been through more in life than us, so it is best to reconsider and think about the words they say. It's not to let them control our lives but for us to learn from them.
As young adults, hearing criticisms from someone important to us, whether it's our parents, relatives, former teachers, and friends, directs us to negativity, which should not be. Every time we hear our parents getting angry at our small decisions makes us feel as if they don't trust us and in our abilities.
We must set our goals in life and focus on achieving them. Focus yourself on studying and hustling. Strive harder. Do your best in all the things you are doing.
If people around you look down on all of your aspirations in life and tell to your face that you can't do it, prove them wrong. Just like what a quotation says,
"Work hard in silence. Let your success be the noise."
Make them your motivation in pursuing your dreams rather than listening to them and letting those words get into your head. Don't let their opinions stop you from getting to the top. Be deaf to negative thoughts and only listen to uplifting words and motivational messages if you want to achieve some or all of your dreams and goals in life.
It's not always bad to listen to the advice, opinion, and expectations of our parents, siblings, friends, and teachers from us. Sometimes, we can get ideas from them to develop and cultivate our insights. So always remember that we can always learn anything from anyone.
Meanwhile, the expectations we set for ourselves are even more draining than those expectations we receive from anyone around us. Sometimes, we even beat ourselves and blame our capabilities if we don't get to be where we expect us to be and if we don't achieve what we want to accomplish in life.
Most of the time, we are the ones who are putting too much pressure on ourselves, which becomes heavy baggage to carry on our shoulders. We set so many unrealistic deadlines for the goals we want to pursue. We have a lot of idealistic yet unfeasible plans influenced by the people around us that burn us out.
Always put in mind that you don't have to be where people your age are now. Yes, it's remarkable to be successful at such a young age because it will make people with high expectations of you be proud of you and you will become an inspiration to other people as well. However, there's also nothing wrong if you're still trying to figure out your life and the things you want to do to make it worthwhile. There's nothing to be ashamed of if you're still 5 steps behind your former classmates or colleagues. So just enjoy the process and this journey called "Life".
"Meanwhile, the expectations we set for ourselves are even more draining than those expectations we receive from anyone around us. Sometimes, we even beat ourselves and blame our capabilities if we don't get to be where we expect us to be and if we don't achieve what we want to accomplish in life."
This line tinamaan ako AHAHAH. I am lucky enough that my parents are not expecting me too much to excel in everything I do, kontento na sila kung ano ang capabilities ko. Ako mismo nagset ng expectations sa sarili ko kaya ang ending kapag hindi ko yon naabot, I will become disappointed in myself which is nakakapanlumo. Hanggang ngayon dala dala ko parin but I am trying to change it kasi I want to enjoy my life without putting too much pressure on myself. Sabi nga ang buhay dapat ineenjoy lang. Thank you for this!