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Times are changing and the sooner we realize that, the better.

When was the first time you heard about sex?

Approaching the sex talk the old-fashioned way isn't working anymore.

If you're a lady, the first and the only time your parents (your mom) had this conversation with you was probably when you saw your period for the first time.

I remember someone telling me that her mom told her that she should avoid touching the opposite sex and that once she does, she'll get pregnant.

That narrative probably worked in the 80s when there were no really social media or easy access to pornography but not anymore. It didn't even work when I was growing up even though access to social media isn't as common as it is now.

To answer the question, the first time I heard about sex, I mean when I really recognized the act for what it was in school. My final year of Primary school. I was ten, I think.

Of course, I've heard references to sex growing up, I wasn't quite sure how it worked until my social studies teacher entered the class and wrote sex education on the whiteboard.

She gave us notes about it, it was expectedly not detailed. She announced that she would explain it in her next class. We, the curious 10-year olds were impatient and we proceeded to check the meaning in the dictionary. We were required t0 take our dictionaries to school every day.

Funny how we never thought to check it until that moment. You can imagine my shock when we saw the words and it felt so vulgar to me like I was reading something I wasn't supposed to read. It felt forbidden but I read it anyway.

That gave us something to talk about for the rest of the week.

So, in the next class social studies, the teacher started to tell our class teacher that she couldn't take us on this topic. She started by asking us if we knew what sex was. No one volunteered any information and she didn't bother explaining, she just spent five minutes on parts that didn't make her blush as much as her mentioning sex.

My next question is why do the older generation(parents) act like it's something forbidden, something not to avoid talking about when every other thing is promoting it?

There's barely any movie that they don't show two people intensely making out and waking up on the bed half naked hinting at sex.

Social Media is aggressively promoting this, everyone talks about this everywhere.

It doesn't make sense for the young ones not to be curious, the main question is,

Do you want them to learn about it the wrong or right way?

Parents should really stop feigning ignorance about this, tell their children what they need to know, and tell them about their bodies.

When did your parents have 'the talk' with you?

This is what some call 'the birds and the bees' talk. This is a metaphorical story to explain sex to children. The reference to birds and the bees show that it's a natural activity. For example, birds laying eggs is similar to ovulation in women.

These days, people call the whole generally talking to your child about the activity the birds and the bees.

My parents indirectly talked about sex with us, especially my mom. My mom used to watch movies and kdramas with us. When she saw a misconception about any sexual activity, she would point it out. It was sort of weird then though.

My dad still does, he tells me not to trust any man, that men basically are scum. It can be weird too.

Someone asked me this question recently:

How would you feel if your life up till this moment was recorded and given to your parents or guardians to watch?

Would you allow it?

I can't allow it😂😂, their disappointment would be massive, what about you?

THEY ARE VERY SPECIAL PEOPLE.
PLEASE CHECK THEM OUT 

Thank you for reading 🤗

April 21, 2022.

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