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It's A Scary World Out Here
Lead image by me True friendships have to be one of the rarest things you can have. The society is plagued with a bunch of unfriendly friends. The irking thing is that I see it occur right in front of me every time. I wrote an article a few weeks ago about friends and acquaintances, about drawing a clear line or boundary. It can help us know our real friends and differentiate them from unfriendly friends. But honestly, it's not enough. I think we need to come up with some bad friends filter system. Something happened years ago where I live now, I was new there so I made friends with some of my neighbors. I thought we were extremely close until one day. That fateful day, one of them came to inform me of my supposed friends' discussion with other people. They had not only been gossiping amongst themselves but with other people about some issues they had with me. The one that came to meet me probably thought I would be grateful. I later learnt that she was two-faced and was probably expecting me to flare up and talk bad about them too so she would inform them too. I merely looked at her and expressed my gratitude for the piece of information. I was extremely grateful because I won't have known if she hadn't told me. I cut them off since then. Then they started telling everyone I was proud. It was a crazy period for me then. Thank God I had my phone, I didn't need their company to live my life. This article was triggered by something that happened this morning. There's something I've noticed about gossiping, if you join a group of people gossiping, you never know when it's your turn. Minus even gossiping with people, have you ever been in a gathering of people talking about other people that you know that once you leave that place, they gossip about you too? It made me remember a set of roommates I had one year in the University, they were four friends, two of them were my roommates, the other two visited regularly and I saw a lot. They always gossiped about other people and it wasn't surprising to see them gossip about each other to the other roommates and me and each other in groups of twos and threes. What they said about each other always shocked me, they said so many vile things that shouldn't even be said about one's enemies. They'll be trash-talking one of them and when the person enters, they'll be all smiles and cute. They would even be all over each other on their social media. What kind of friend does that? Even if a friend did something, I feel talking to the friend is the best approach. I'm the kind of friend that'll call my friend out on their bullshit and I can say anything I say about them in their absence when they're present. It's that simple. So I didn't understand why they did that. I can understand if they weren't friends but they claimed to be besties, I was actually scared. I thought 'if they can say these things about their supposed besties, what are they saying about me?' I can't imagine what they would have said since we weren't friends. This was the same thing that happened this morning, people who claimed to be as close as a family saying things that should not be said in the absence of the other. It's a scary world indeed. We should really choose our friends carefully, if those friends can do that to their friends then they can do anything including physical harm. I saw a post on Instagram about someone's death after being poisoned by someone everyone said was his best friend. It's an extremely scary world. I pray God protects us from friends that have worse intentions than strangers. I pray we don't make friends with unfriendly friends. Amen!
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There is this word in the military world "Hand shake wey don pass elbow, na be careful o" It means don't be too open to another person, we were thought something in out training, don't be predictive, don't let anyone be able to predict you or your movement. How will you do that, learn to keep things to yourself. Too much talk na Wetin dey cause see finish
Actually, I like that quote. Lock up, don't trust anyone and you'll be alright
Yes o
It's such a wicked world. It's very cold outside these days. Nobody to trust, nobody to rely on. It's killing me inside😪. What exactly have we done to the world? Fake people everywhere😪 I'm devastated😪
I'm also devastated, we don't know how to trust
Fake friendship are the worst these days. I don't know why some people find pleasure in gossips, it breaks trust and endanger relationships. It's just so sad.
I know, right
I know, right
Friends that puts you to wrong sides and had bad intentions is the one we should cut off, we don't deserve toxic people that just pull us down and brings negativity in our life.
Yes, I hope we're able to figure it out before it's too late
Omo, God will save us from those that want our progress and not those who want us down. So many people that we call our friends aren't any cos of their wicked plan for us. We just need to be extra careful with so-called friends cos we don't know who is who.
Very extra careful because this world ehn
And this is where I love being in the virtual world often. In the real world, the more friends you have, the more the issue... I've experienced this backbiting and gossipping once. I once stayed with two roommates(plus me ...3), you need to see the way they talk...🤦
The virtual world is so much better, I prefer it too. You must have wondered if they gossiped about you too
The world is getting more cruel and dangerous. We do not know who to trust anymore. And that's a sad reality, that even your best friend can poison and kill you.
I knowwww and it's sad
No offense but ladies and gossip are like 5 and 6. I watched a video of woman who was asked to video a workout by a woman who own an iphone. This woman start talking about how expensive the woman's phone is and what she might have done to buy it. She totally forgot all what she was saying was being recorded in the video she was making.
None taken, men gossip too though. I saw the video too. People actually need to do better
That's the thing many people don't know; the people you're always gossiping with will also gossip about you with other people, I have seen it happened so many times and one thing I have actually discovered is that it's more prevalent among ladies
Ladies do that a lot, my gender hen😂😂😂