Why won't she work?

Femi didn't marry early at the normal age when most of his friends got married because he was focused on chasing his dreams.

Now, at thirty nine, femi had built a successful business that would continue to thrive and he had already starting thinking about the idea of getting married.

Six months ago, femi had met a twenty-five years old Lola who was a banker at a prestigious bank where he always visit for most of his transactions. He had immediately taken an interest in her as Lola was not only beautiful but also very smart too. In no time, they began to date.

He finally promised Lola marriage, but on the condition that she resigns for her job. According to femi, there would be no need for her to keep up with her job after marriage as he feels he's rich enough to provide for all her needs. He only wants someone to take care of his home. He also promised to open a shop for her in front of the new house he was building where eshe could venture into whatever business that she wanted .

Lola found all these talks quite ridiculous and laughed out loud. Without wasting more of his time, she simply told femi that she was not the woman for him. She told him that there were tonnes of women out there who would gladly accept the offer of being a his house wife and he should go pick his choice from the multitude.

This really hurt femi's pride as he became angry and frustrated. Thier short relationship came to an abrupt end since both sides refused to yield after alot of back and forth.

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In this time and age, where career women are being admired and appreciated for the value they add to the society and economy, I find it quite ridiculous that some husbands would still kick against their wives working after marriage.

Well, I don't know about other regions of the world but there are some people who still restricts their wives from working in an organization in developing countries like mine. And ofcourse, they always have their reasons. That's why I had decided to write about it.

Sexual harassment of female employees sometimes happen at the offices. A woman might not be able to protest against the constant pestering by a male boss for fear of losing a good paying job, considering the terrible unemployment situation of the country.

We have all heard stories of a decadent boss who later met his Waterloo and afterwards a good number of women who had worked under him or had any association with him in the past came out to tell the world about their experiences.

So, it's possible that some husbands might have such fears for a wife who goes out to work. As a matter of fact, there's this common myth among traditional folks here that marrying a working class lady is quite synonymous to marrying trouble.

Some families might even condemn a union between their son and a young lady who goes out to work like other men. And since she comes to meet and have conversations with a lot of men for most parts of the day, they think anything could happen . By the way, Women are generally believed to be emotionally weak and some men could be emotionally manipulative. So, in the best interest of their son, they'd rather prefer he takes a lesser educated woman who would give him peace of mind as a wife ( housewife).

Also, as a lady, I know that there's definitely a thing like a" male ego". Some married men can't help imagine that their working wives accord a special level of respect to thier male bosses. And some cultures are of the belief that such special treatment and recognition should exclusively be reserved for a woman's husband and father only.

So, psychologically speaking, when a man gets into a small quarrel with a working class wife, he might invariably conclude in his mind that his wife never talks back or respond to her boss in such harsh tones. But funny enough, the husband would mostly fail to remember that his wife loves and adore him more. He'd most times linger on the train of thoughts that suits his confirmation bias. As a results, the marriage might continually be under strain and both partners would continue to push each other to the wall. Finally when push comes to shove, the wife might be asked to choose between her family and her job.

You would definitely agree with me that some of these reasons why some men would not allow thier wives to go out and work are quite shallow. I mean, Look at the bigger picture: The economy situation of the country is very distressing and the general prices of things are getting more appalling everyday. So, for a couple to be able to beat the times, both man and wife are expected to work hard together in their respective fields of specialization. Most women can even comfortably mange their house chores in addition to their office jobs.

What if the husband loses his job tomorrow due to economic reasons or what if an accidental or illness renders him incapacitated? Even worse, when he finally answers the glorious call from the creator. What then would be the fate of the woman and her kids since the head of the family had forced her to abandon her career or source of income.

By the way, unfaithfulness in marriage is a symbol that should not only be reserved to working class wives. We all know that cheating is also very common among domestic wives too, especially when their husbands are away. So, it's not a matter of a wife going out to work or staying back at home, but the level of faith and reliance couples have for each other. Recently, I heard a story of a woman, whowith the assistance of a clever husband busted and disgraced her licentious boss.

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