Marriage without the parents blessing

Yesterday, I was watching an Indian movie. The protagonist, a young man in his early twenties travelled abroad to further his studies. Four years after he had completed his University education, he returned back to his native India with a wife.

His parents were very happy to see him after a long time and they also readily welcome their daughter in-law into the family, a girl they had only met for the first time. soon, the girl got along with her husband's mom so well as if she had known her since childhood.

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I couldn't help ponder and wonder about these scenes for a long time. I wondered if such would ever be possible in my part of the world. Maybe it's because marriage is been overrated in my parts, but it is very important for parents to get to know the partner of the child so well before the issue of marriage could ever come up.

Infact, any child that goes ahead to marry the love of his life without the approval of his parents is termed "disrespectful" or "ill-trained" . It is believed that he wouldn't find happiness in his union. Since he never seek his parents blessings, sooner than later, the marriage would definitely hit a rock.

No doubt, there's no parents that wouldn't want their child's happiness but there might be a number of reasons why parents would frown at their child's marriage to his or her beloved.

In my parts of the world, a common reason why parents might kick against such marriage is due to religious or ethnic background of the other person. Your parents might have their reservations about the particular ethnic group or they might even have a past bitter experience with someone who was from thesame ethnic group with your fiancee. Hence they might come to a conclusion that folks belonging to such tribes are either traitors, egocentric , impatient or whatever negative qualities they had observed in people from that particular tribe.

They also might not be comfortable if their child's fiancee belonged to a different faith which is quite understandable. Sometimes, even within thesame faith, there might still be differences. I have seen where a parent frowned at daughter's fiance because the young man was not a member of their church.

Such reasons are no doubt ridiculous and in most cases, a child would ignore his parents and go ahead with the wedding. That shouldn't be a problem at all, the parents would definitely come around after much pleading and then bless their union. Especially when they fail to find any other negative quality associated with their child's partner.

• Also, a parent just by natural instinct might not accept his or her child's partner, especially when they have learnt about her background or just by mere observation. In native Africa, it is said that "whatever an elder sees when sitting down, a child wouldn't be able to see it even though he or she climbs to the top of the highest mountain".

Due to a parent's years of existence and wealth of experience, a parent might be able to notice a hidden flaw in their child's partner which ofcourse the child had failed to see. He or she is probably blinded by love, and such a flaw would definitely become manifest when they start to live as man and wife.

Some parents would even go as far as seeking the services of magicians to help reveal everything about the past and lineage of their son's fiancee, to know wether there's a curse in her family . Lol you wouldn't blame some parents for going this far would you? After painstakingly training a child for many years, one wouldn't want to them fall into evil for the most part of their lives

A child might fail to see reasons with his or her parents and might ultimately choose his or her spouse over their parents, thereby severing family ties.

Later in life, the marriage might start passing through hard times which is quite common in many marriages. But due to the disagreement prior to the marriage, a husband or wife might start thinking that maybe if he or she had listened to thier parents, they wouldn't have found themselves in such a regrettable position. Later on, things might pick up in the marriage, and the young man or young woman would then realize that it was just a mere "confirmation bias". But in some cases, the marriage might turn to a living nightmare, thereby, justifying the parent's initial disapproval.

In conclusion, there are beautiful marriages that are still waxing stronger despite one or both parents refusing consent. Also, there are consequences that might be suffered in a marriage when either of the partners ignored thier parents warnings.

Afterall, even after a religious leader had blessed a union, the parents blessings are equally important, if not more important.

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