Losing respect for someone

"Respect they say is reciprocal" . Sometimes a close friend or someone whom you trust might do something terrible. It could be so bad that it would literally shake the breathe off you. In your wildest imagination, you wouldn't have thought that such a person could be capable of behaving in such a shameful manner even if it were revealed to you by end angel

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And as soon as they had err, all the respect or esteem you had for such a fellow would automatically turn into contempt. You'd wish you never knew that person and you might even curse the day your paths cross.

Just by hearing someone mentioning his or her name in a conversation is enough to ruin your day and you'd remember all over again the hurt that they had caused you. It's possible you might even transfer the resultant anger to the one who had made you remember such a slimy fellow.

Someone that you have never seen before, especially a person who you look up to due to their success in their chosen profession or the impact they had made at one point in the society would behave in a very disgraceful manner. We all have heard countless stories of some popular faces who were caught or accused of sexual misconduct or domestic violence or any other degrading acts. And even after they had apologized to the victim and the society, they'd already lost respect forever and nothing else could ever fix the battered reputation.

Most of us have had personal experiences of been disappointed by someone close to us and the relationship with between you both never remained thesame again.

To be honest I have found myself in a similar situation. Based on reasons best known to them, rather than apologize and be full of remorse,such person would rather feign ignorance or try to justify his or her selfish behavior.

It might just be that they have become tired of pretending and had finally decided to reveal their true nature to you without caring how you feel about it.

Maybe you never meant as much to do them as you thought you did all this while. In such a situation, it's better not to engage in a further confrontation as you would only be hurting yourself the more. It's always best to allow them walk away from your life at this point.

On the flipside, that person might be truly sorry for what he or she had done especially when they hadn't behaved in such a manner before. But strangely enough, we still find it difficult to forgive and accept them back to our lives. Things just wouldn't be thesame again between you both after what had happened.

It's quite common to see or hear cases of beautiful friendships and relationships that came to an abrupt end because one of the partners did something that was so "unforgivable" and the other person couldn't just let it slide.

Sometimes, I can't help but wonder how the respect and admiration we have for someone could just vanish in a brief moment just because of a single fault they had made, even after he or she had already apologized. Maybe it's just the inherent pride in the human nature .

From a psychological point of view, if you really love, respect or care so much for a person, who had done something terrible, you wouldn't be in a hurry to crucify them yet. You would only do that to someone who never made a big impression on you from the onset. Or it's possible you have already lost the love or interest you once had for that partner or friend a long time ago and you have just found the perfect opportunity to throw them out.

You would always give that person you cherish a second chance and even multiple chances. This is because you would also love them to extend thesame previledge to you if the table were turned the other way.

We are humans and we have come live and tolerate each other no matter whatever happened amongst us. No one is above mistakes and ofcourse no one among us is a saint.

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