Dealing with Difficult Family Members
We come across different and difficult individuals everyday and we'd always try out best stay away from them either by setting boundaries or minding our business.
But being related to someone who always brings challenges your way can be very frustrating since you can't entirely cut them off. Such an action would definitely put a strain on family bond since are are no ordinary person unlike like friends, colleagues and neighbors.
You are often expected to go tge extra mile and tolerate excesses of a sibling, parent and sometimes a cousin for as long as you can even if it would seem as if they don't add anything to your life aside pressure.
Sometimes trying to fix the problem by having them reason with you might just complicate things further. Also, striving to make a relative realise a mistake by helping them become a better person may only accomplish the opposite. Infact, it might even seem that the more sacrifices that you make, the more they keep demanding from you.
In such cases, it's better to let them be by accepting the fact that they aren't ready to change rather than wasting time. Familiarity breeds contempt you know. Soon, you'd realise that all the stresses that they have made you pass through wasn't worth it in the first place. Especially when they begin to figure out things for themselves through learning from past mistakes or when they come to terms with the reality on ground and decide that you were right all along.
Needless and continuous arguments with a family member could really mess things up. It could get to a level above where the both of you wouldn't come to a conclusion. Instead the argument would just be about who would win at last. And when it comes to this, manipulation and mind control might me use against you. All this could lead to hot verbal exchange then someone might get hurt physically or emotionally.
So, it's very important that you don't get into a fight or any form of confrontation with a family member, not even if when they that relative assaults you first ether verbally or physically. Maintain your integrity and allow things to go the other way.
Wether family or not, surround yourself with people who respect and care for you. Not folks who incites you or push you to the wall.
You deserve your own love and attention more than anyone else
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Thanks for reading this. ♥️♥️
Good points. I have encountered this once with a family member, well an In Law. It was my wife's grandma. Oh what a mean person she was but we had to see her every Christmas at her house in the evening. One time she sent a Christmas card out to everyone that read, "No cheer, no food and no Christmas at Grandmas this year" I thought it was a blessing seeing that. Also I faked being sick going over there a few times, shhhh. She just liked to stir things up by insulting everyone. It was an equal opportunity because she did it to everyone. Definitely had to be in ignore mode. She passed about 10 years ago.