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Dealing with Difficult Family Members

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We come across different and difficult individuals everyday and we'd always try out best stay away from them either by setting boundaries or minding our business.

But being related to someone who always brings challenges your way can be very frustrating since you can't entirely cut them off. Such an action would definitely put a strain on family bond since are are no ordinary person unlike like friends, colleagues and neighbors.

You are often expected to go tge extra mile and tolerate excesses of a sibling, parent and sometimes a cousin for as long as you can even if it would seem as if they don't add anything to your life aside pressure.

Sometimes trying to fix the problem by having them reason with you might just complicate things further. Also, striving to make a relative realise a mistake by helping them become a better person may only accomplish the opposite. Infact, it might even seem that the more sacrifices that you make, the more they keep demanding from you.

In such cases, it's better to let them be by accepting the fact that they aren't ready to change rather than wasting time. Familiarity breeds contempt you know. Soon, you'd realise that all the stresses that they have made you pass through wasn't worth it in the first place. Especially when they begin to figure out things for themselves through learning from past mistakes or when they come to terms with the reality on ground and decide that you were right all along.

Needless and continuous arguments with a family member could really mess things up. It could get to a level above where the both of you wouldn't come to a conclusion. Instead the argument would just be about who would win at last. And when it comes to this, manipulation and mind control might me use against you. All this could lead to hot verbal exchange then someone might get hurt physically or emotionally.

So, it's very important that you don't get into a fight or any form of confrontation with a family member, not even if when they that relative assaults you first ether verbally or physically. Maintain your integrity and allow things to go the other way.

Wether family or not, surround yourself with people who respect and care for you. Not folks who incites you or push you to the wall.

You deserve your own love and attention more than anyone else

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Thanks for reading this. ♥️♥️

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Good points. I have encountered this once with a family member, well an In Law. It was my wife's grandma. Oh what a mean person she was but we had to see her every Christmas at her house in the evening. One time she sent a Christmas card out to everyone that read, "No cheer, no food and no Christmas at Grandmas this year" I thought it was a blessing seeing that. Also I faked being sick going over there a few times, shhhh. She just liked to stir things up by insulting everyone. It was an equal opportunity because she did it to everyone. Definitely had to be in ignore mode. She passed about 10 years ago.

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Lol. Some Grannies can be really dramatic. I guess it's second nature for some. 😁😁. May her soul RIP anyway

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Everybody in my family knows how to respect each other and we barely get into arguments. As for my cousins, everybody just dey their lane and don't meddle in each other lives, that's just the best way to avoid quarrel o

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Most of the times cousins no dey follow. They fit shock person at anytime

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It is better to always let them be and avoid their drama by not attending the show. The thing is, they won't always reason with your opinion because they are wired that way. I used to stress myself to make people see the point and the errors of their ways but I am always left frustrated the more. It's best to avoid the fights as you said and let them come to terms. Sometimes learning from their mistakes (hopefully not too detrimental) can give them the mental shift they need.

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I believe you sir. It's just unbelievable, almost laughable that someone would ever think of fighting a man like you

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Hahahaha people fight with everyone... I've just learned how to keep their energy at bay while I increase my "look away" game. I can get people angry even with my silence 🤣😂🤣😂

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In such cases, it's better to let them be by accepting the fact that they aren't ready to change rather than wasting time.

In the end, it's up to them. We can only be there for advice and such. No matter, we should be patient and understanding.

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Patience is a virtue sir. Perhaps the most important virtue

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True my friend. Seeing someone in the family that they were fighting o chaotic one, make us sad. It's really painful.

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It's really very unfortunate when family members fight, dear

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True my friend. It's really painful in our eyes.

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Some people allows confrontation to happens as long as it private and you have self- control Bilqees. Or bring one or two mediator with the elders to balance it.

Loving yourself teaches us to set healthy boundaries even from friends & akins we used to be as a child. May you find peace of mind.

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Thank you so much for your kind words julaine. Indeed patience would make all things beautiful in Time 🥰

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I totally agree with you, sometimes arguments with family members are completely hurtful, since your family is not supposed to argue with you, but you always come back with fact that they will always be there for you.

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That's true, and that's what keeps us holding on. The belief that they would always be there for us

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Different people inspite of bloodlines Mafer.

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Great article, all this ideas are great and useful

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