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Learn To Say No To Our Kids Blog #141 January 27, 2022 Scene #1 **"Mommy, I want this one. Buy this one for me**.**"** *"Yes baby, I will"* **"Oh, there's another beautiful toy, Mommy. I want it. Please include it too"** *"Okay, baby. I will include it"* **"Look Mommy, the teddy bear is so cute. I want to add it to my collection. Buy it for me, too."** *"Yeah, no problem."* In the next toy section, some new toys are displayed that can catch a kid's attention. **"Look, Mommy. There are lots of toys. Buy this one, and those too. I want all those."** *"No baby, you have enough already. You still have new toys at home and you haven't even opened them."* **"But Mommy you said that you will buy what I want. You told me that earlier when we are still at home."** *"Yes, I told you that baby. But we have bought many already. Next time again, alright"* **"No mommy, I want those. You should buy them".** *After saying these words, the kid started to throw tantrums. He started causing a scene just because his mommy doesn't buy what he want.* **Meanwhile,** Scene #2 **"Baby, remember what I told you earlier."** *"Yes, Mommy I won't ask for new toys. Besides, I still have toys at home. Those are enough for me."* **"That's my boy. I'm glad that you understand our situation right now."** *"I understand Mom. I am content with what I have now. As long as I can eat, I am happy already."* **"Okay, okay. We'll get going so that we can go home early."** *"Yes, mom. Let's go"* A child's behavior depends on how a mother raises him/her. That's why it's always important to teach them the important things that they should know when they are still young. They should be taught what is right and wrong and explained to them the reason behind those things. When we picture out those given scenarios, we can say that the first child is a spoiled one. A child who always wants to get what he likes. While the second one is a simple kid and contented with what he has at the moment. A child who understands his family's situation. I came up with this topic today, after remembering a child who always throws tantrums whenever his mother can't give him what he wants especially with those foods and toys that he likes. After thinking about that child's behavior, I realize one thing. Most kids that have that kind of behavior are the ones who are used to being given what they want by their parents. They are used that their parents will always say yes to their requests. That's why it's really important to teach the kids that not all they want will be given. We, parents, should learn to say NO to our kids if it's needed.
Say NO if it's not necessary for the kids. Say NO so that kids will not get used to getting what they want. Say NO so they will practice being contented and grateful for the things that they have. Say NO so they will know how to value things in life. Say NO so they will realize that not all things are easy to beget. Say NO and explain to them what's the reason for that No.
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It sadden me whenever I saw child with poor understanding of the situation because of how parents raised them. I know some parents thought that giving anything for their kids are kind of love which is correct. But when too much, its not love, its spoiling the kids.
***Yes, that's what others think because it's their way of expressing their love to their kids but there's should also be limitations to that...Yeah I agree with that, giving too much to the kids is not love anymore, that's spoiling their kids with those material things***
I know you are a parent now and can literally relate to this.
***Yes..That's what I always told my kids and glad that when I said no, they understand and respect it***
Nara gyud na nato nga parents dae kung patuyangan natu ilang gusto without explaining to them, kinahanglan jud e explained sa bata. sa ako nga situation dae bisan wala ko sa ilang duol but among koneksyon is intact pa gihapun kahibaw gihapun kos ilang mga batasan and kung naa silay gusto ipapalit pangutan on jud nako kung para Asa or needed ba jud kaayu kay kung dili ko satisfied sa ilang tubag kay dili jud nako ihatag and dapat e respect nila akong desisyon.
***Lage dae... Depende ra gyud na natong mga ginikanan kung ato ba sila pagustuhan sa ila gusto o Dili...*** ***Sakto jud ng imong gibuhat dae para makabalo sila nga katong mga kinahanglanon nga importante lang jud ang pwedeng ihatag sa ilaha. Kung Dili kaayo need, Dili na para makabalo sila kung unsay value sa mga butang***
Agree sis. We shouldn't spoiled our children about what they wants. Hindi nakakabuti sa kanila yun. Masasanay sila sa ganung attitude which is not good talaga at dadalhin nila yun hanggang sa lumaki sila. One of the reasons that they will become a hard headed person. Titigas ulo nila at magagalit na yan pag hindi masunod yung gusto nila kaya hangga't bata pa kailangan natin mag sabi din ng "No" at it's for their own goods din.
***Tama ka dyan sis, dapat habang bata tuturuan natin sila na hindi lahat ng gusto ay makukuha nila kasi para naman din yun sa kanila. Kung palagi natin pinagbigyan sila sa kanilang mga gusto, masasanay sila dyan at tayo ang kawawa pag lumaki na sila. Magagalit yan pag hindi nakukuha ang gusto. Kaya matuto tayong mag No***
Oo sis tama talaga kaya bata pa lang tuturuan na sila ng tama at hindi tama para din sa ikakabuti nila.
Saying no is definitely necessary in a child's upbringing. It teaches them how to deal with disappointments and to not be a brat.
***Exactly, that's why parents should learn to say No to their kids to avoid some problems in the future***
As what my mother always telling to me when I have something to ask her, he says we are not rich and producing money like waste.
***I told that line to my kids too. If they want something not important, i said no to their request***
Pamangkin ko napagbigyan lagi e kapag nag no kangrabe pagdadabog. Although nakakainis rin kasi di nya maintinsihan minsan na di nga pwede
***Naiinis din ako minsan sa mga batang di maka intindi pag sinabihan ng No lalo na pag sa public na lugar tapos magtatantrums. Ang sarap kurutin, hahaha...Yung sa kapitbahay namin, kulang nalang gumulong sa May kalsada, hays***
Ayannn ganyan pamqngkin kong lalake ate, since kasi na iwan syabdito ng step sis ko dina napagbibigyan sa gusto. Jusko alam mo ba minsan kapag hinindian mo magbabato ng gamit yun at maninira
***Hala grabe ang batang yan. Ganyan talaga pag sinanay ang bata na sinunod ang mga gusto. Naku sakit sa ulo yan kung lumaki na. Kaya importante talaga na pag bata pa matuto sila na hindi lahat pwede nilang makukuha***
Totoo ate, 12 nasta this year tas sobrang tigas ng ulo kase napagbibigyan nung bata sya. Di mo na masuway, lumalaban pa sa nakakatanda.
***Naku, yan ang di ko gusto sa bata, yung lumalaban sa mga nakakatanda. Ilang taon na yang pamangkin mo?***
Very well said 👍 I like how you shared this kind of scenario because mostly of the kids are like what you mention in your article spoiled. As a mother, I really tried my best not to spoil my son because I don't want him to be dependent his whole life. Then your right, it is really depending on how the child being raised and also how was the child community or the people around her/him.
***That's true sis, it really depends on us parents on how we upbring the child. If we want them to be someone who will not give headaches to us in the future, then we should let them know this things coz if not, then we will be the ones to suffer in the future***
exactly, that is why starting at their young age we should start disciplining them by not tolerating their mistakes and explaining to them the difference of right and wrong
***That's right sis. Disciplining our kids while they were young will make them a better ones someday***
Very well said. 👍
Naku ganyan ako kay Adrielle sis, if ndi pede ndi pede dahil ndi tayo mayaman para sundin or bilhin lahat ng gusto mo, eto lumalaki naman sya na naiintindhan nya ako
***Good job sis, at masaya ako dahil lumaking ganyan si Adrielle.*** *Ganyan din ako sa mga kids. Kaya masaya ako na pag nagsabi ako ng No, hindi na sila nangungulit kasi naiintindihan nila*
Naku sis ganyn ung pinsan ni Adrielle na halos same age sila ay naku sobra kahit laruan ng iba kapag nagustuhan nya tlgang ndi sya papayag na ndi mapunt sa knya
***Ay ang saklap ng batang yan sis. Pag ganyan yung attitude ng bata, kawawa ang magulang niyan pag lumaki kasi di yan papayag pag di nakuha ang gusto***
Ewan ko kung makontrol pa nila un, kya naman cguro nila provide dahil teacher at sundalo sila
***Sa ngayon siguro sis ma provide nila, paano kung lalaki na ang bata, sila ang kawawa niyan kasi di sa lahat ng oras May trabaho sila***
Saying no is an act of disciplining to the Child. Hindi lahat ng gusto mabibigay.
***Yes exactly..Mag No para malaman na hindi lahat ng bagay na gusto nila ay makukuha nila***
For a child, there can be no teacher on earth greater than his mother. We are mothers. We always wish our child well. And that's why we give the best education to the child.
***True mate, we mothers are there best teacher that's why we should teach them what's right and wrong and explain it to them well***
Di jud maayu sis nga tanan na lng ihatag mski out of budget na jud. Dili jud ingon ana Ako eldest sis ky kblo na sya nga budgeted ra jud pirmi ako kwrta ba. Tag 10 ra dw iya toys sauna pero c kulot dw ron mga mahalon. Iya mn sd papa nagpalit ana.
***Lage sis kay kung Atong tumanon permi ang ilang gusto, kita man pud dayon luoy pag dagko na sila..Aw, tag 10 ra d i tawon, kaluoy pud pero at least nagdako siya nga masinabtanon sa sitwasyon sis***
Lisod na ug tumanon tnan murag ta ug datu nuon maski daginuton ra ato sapi. Barato pa mn sauna sis naa jud tg 10 nga tarak tarak nya dugy bya maguba. Matured nmn mghuna huna ako eldest sauna sis.
***Na Mao jud sis, di ra ba ta datu Mao di jud patumanan sa gusto...Lage sis nakaremember ko sa una, year 2000+ nindot ug barato pa ang mga dulaan. Maayo kay matured maghuna2x ang imong eldest sis. Di sya sakit sa ulo***
Sa inahan rna sis kung unsaon pgpasabot ky muana mn ko ana nya daan nga ayaw pgpili ug mahalon ha ky di nko kaya. Ako ra bya naa pangwarta sauna sis ky way trbho iya papa ato nga time.
***Tinuod sis depende ra man pud jud na na'to unsaon na'to pagpasabot sa Atong mga anak...Aw Mao ba, tambay pa d i iya papa ato na time***
Not saying no to children is how most of them grow up becoming spoilt and entitled, they go into adulthood believing the whole world owes them something
***Yeah that's true and those individuals will become one of the problems in a society.***
When someone say NO to their children not because they don't love their children but because they don't want to spoil her/him. Sometimes it is really necessary to say NO it will help us not only in present time but also future too.
***Exactly! Saying No is part of disciplining a child and it will make him/her be a better someone in the future***
Often some people takes this thing in a negetive way and curses the mother of that specific child for her rude behaviour, it is totally wrong, We need to understand that sometimes saying NO to our child is not a bad thing.
I agree po na dapat hindi lahat ng gusto ng anak mo ibigay mo.. huwag mong hahayaang sya ang masusunod kaysa sayo. Dapat turuan mo sya kung pano ang simpleng buhay.
Minsan ang hirap magsabi ng NO pero kinakailangan
***True sissy pero kailangan din kasi para din yun sa ikabuti ng bata***
Tama ka jan sissy, kelan pa cla matututo kung bata pa lng is hahayaan nlng natin db. Iba talaga mag discipline ang mga nanay
It's up to us how we learn to say no because saying yes everytime will only cost loss
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