How READY Am I to Get Married

What's Mi amigos mi amigas! Howdy? It's Monday Already huh, hmm next week another month will bring us another fun and surprises! Shout out to APRIL BABIES out there.

Who's been missing in action for almost two days?

ME!! YEAH MY APOLOGY.

I was feeling under the weather yesterday that is why I've missed to write an article, but since I got a good sleep last night. Now I am right as rain! whooohoo.

Yesterday, my boyfie and I went to our church at exactly 3 in the afternoon to witness the 3-days EGR (ENCOUNTER GOD RETREAT) graduation. I told him to come and fetch me as early as possible because of the gloomy weather. And after an hour the sky pours out a heavy rain as expected, as a result the program starts quite a bit late because some delegates are not yet arrived. Fortunately, the program had finally started, the delegates was already lined up at the church entrance for their graduation march yay hehe. We offer a song of praises and prayers to God afterwards. What makes me feel so glad and blessed is when the delegates stated their testimonies (experiences, promises, messages). Some of where emotional and we are so happy that they finally encounter God's presence, love, and sacrifice.

Shortly, my boyfie told me that he is hungry Lol because his tummy is constantly rumbling since the start of the program. We immediately went outside to find something to eat and we found some puso ng saging nearby and they sell it for only 10 pesos each. He bought six of them and I was a bit confused because I thought he is too hungry that he can't take it anymore. Surprisingly, he asked me to cooked tortang puso in their house and when we arrived his siblings most especially his little sister was surprised seeing us bringing a bunch of banana flowers lol.

I began preparing my ingredients and asked him to buy some spices in the nearby store, while waiting for him I cleaned their kitchen area since their parents were one of the staff/guides in the three days EGR and obviously they were in the church within those days to assist the delegates. Their house was quite messy so I helped her 11 years old little sister named SHEKAINA to clean up their house.

After all the cleaning, cooking and eating we took a rest and all of a sudden Shekaina asked me an awkward question.

"Ate, kailan kayo magpapakasal ni Kuya Macky?" (Ate, when will you get married?)

I was seemingly speechless for a moment and I responded her with just few words.

"Soon Kai, pag ready na lahat hehe" (with a smile)

(Soon, when everything is ready.)

I feel so overwhelmed and pressured at the same time, because I really appreciate that they want me as their son's/brother's soon to be lifetime partner. However, we still have a long way to go before we decided to become one and state our individual vows to each other.

The term READY that I am talking about was these;

• We want to get married if we are financially ready. Of course, one of the major conflicts that was normally struggled and faced by married couples in the financial problem. So before entering the world of marriage we have to make sure that each of us are financially stable having permanent jobs, and personal properties such as a house and lot that we can call our own, because we both don't want to live in our parents crib. Para walang magaganap na tampo at dependency.

• We want to get married if we are spiritually ready, I believe in the sanctity of marriage and stating vows to each other is not just a mere practice during the wedding day, hence it is like a thick thread that binds every couples. Aside from that, God is the ultimate witness during that day and as we all know promises is meant to be broken. In short, I want to make sure that all words that I've said to him during that special day is mapapaninindigan ko somehow, and that God is glorified to our relationship.

• We want to get married if we are both mentally and emotionally ready. We've been through a lot, and for almost six years I would say that the we've already survived the adjustment period as well as the storms of our relationship. As of now, we are a bit ready with this kind of aspect. We are now transparent from each other, however I believe that we still have to face the true battle when we both reside in the same roof.

• We want to get married three years from now, our initial plan was to get married when we are 25 but then since the both of us were already 22 parang matatagalan talaga to haha. 3 more years to go wala pa kaming naipundar haha. However, we don't want to get married soon because we need to help our parents first because they are getting older, and it's time for them to rest and hopefully mabigyan namin sila ng kanya kanyang businesses para hindi na sila magtrabaho. Ito talaga major priority namin before kami mag-asawa.

Author's Viewpoint

I know that no matter how big our plans for the future it still depends on God's will. Still a huge thanks to God for giving me such a genuine and righteous man. I am not telling that he is already the ONE or the so-called Mr. Right because we don't hold the future. Furthermore, I don't really depend on standards alone because nothing is right,ideal, and perfect in this world, and that's the reality I used to inculcate to my mind. And yes, everyone commits mistakes, that is why I want to be ready for that possibilities alam mo na hehe.

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