I have always avoided this topic to a certain degree. I mean it's none of my business what people tend to do with their lives.
And I don't really like being so judgmental, so whatever it is one does with their life shouldn't affect or bother me in any way.
If a person chooses to be the way they are and act they were they want, it's not in our place to question them.
But then, some matters should still and always be addressed no matter what.
I was going through some articles from my fellow writers when I stumbled over one particular article from @Davinchysax titled "Why do you see it as a means of Payment?"
In the article, he gave his own opinion about the said topic and what he thinks of it, and what it really should be for both genders.
But here is my question and what saddens my heart whenever such issues are been addressed or such matter/topic arises.
Is Sex All You Have To Give?
For whatever reason one decided to go into a relationship, I don't know but I am asking, did they actually sign some sort of documents or agreement about making payments in the form of sex in the relationship?
Why must they offer their bodies in exchange for whatever flawed reason there is? Why must they see sex as the only payment for whatever it is a guy (most especially) is offering them in the said relationship?
If it isn't mutual then doesn't it appear more like a payment? Because you feel indebted to this person so you think the only way to repay them or pay them back for whatever it is or thing they do for you in the relationship is to offer yourself as their sex tools.
Was relationship all about having sex for crying out loud? Is that all you've got to give? Can't two people just decide to date each other and think of something else and do another thing aside from sex?
When did sex become some kind of payment or responsibility in relationships?
What's about self-development and improvement? What about each other's growth? Can't those be used as better payment in relationships?
That you see your partner is struggling in one area of his or her life should be the best payment you can give such a person by helping them in those aspects.
I believe there is more to relationships than sex and having fun. There are better ways to make a relationship an enjoyable one for both parties and not more like trade by barter thing. Or a give and take.
Guys, making your partner feel they are indebted to you because of what you do for them as such asking them for sex beyond their wish or desire is the worse thing there is.
Ladies, giving your bodies even when you aren't ready for it or want it, but just so you can prove a useless point to your partner or not feel indebted to them is the lamest thing you could ever do.
Both parties should know and appreciate each other's worth and value whether sex is involved or not.
Sex shouldn't be seen as payment or reward for being in a relationship.
The day you start seeing sex as a reward for finally stepping into a relationship, the day you start making a mess of yourself and lowering your self-worth.
But all the same, we are all entitled to our lives, we do what pleases us and we are answerable to our decisions and choices in life.
So there is no need to be judgmental.
Whatever one chooses to do with their life shouldn't be your problem.
We all have our opinions about certain matters in life and our understanding of all these things is different too.
If you have no problem offering yourself as sex tools to please someone or repay them for whatever lame kindness they are showing to you then have fun! :)
Anyway, be wise with your choices and let it speak for you ;)
Still your baby girl ;)
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24 July 2021
Giving it because you feel indebted? That's definitely not very nice