Forced Marriages

Silly!
What were you thinking? What exactly were you expecting?
Finding a soul mate is all but a lie, cooking up weird and lame stories just to satisfy our longing for fantasy and fairy tales.
If falling in love or finding one's soul mate was real and not just a myth then our forefathers would have first experienced or encountered it.

Why do you even believe in love at first sight? That's not even a thing, I mean how do you fall in love by just meeting someone for the first time?
Cut the crab Sophia, its high time you accept your fate and get married to Mr.Johnson, and stop dreaming or talking about finding love and soul mate. That is never gonna happen, maybe not in this lifetime, you can try again in the next but for now, you really should get yourself prepared because Mr.Johnson will be coming with his family members soon to ask for your hand in marriage.

Hello!
I am Sophia, 19 years old. I wish to live a little longer and experience life for myself before thinking about marriage but my mom already thinks I should be in an old man's house whom she calls my husband.
She doesn't want me to talk about love or soulmate of a thing. She doesn't believe in falling in love or finding true love and happiness.
She thinks that being married is some kind of an achievement, not minding if it is at the expense of one's happiness.
My mom doesn't care any less, she just needs the dowry, and she does everything in her power to make sure she gets it even if it means marrying us off at an early age.

Speaking of such, my elder sis is already married with two kids. My mom forced her to marry a businessman in Lagos and she did this at the age of 18 years. Quite early right? Now you understand why she thinks I have overstayed my welcome at home.
She wants me out, yes she wants to send me off.

Crying every night seemed to be the only resolution for me since I can't do anything about it. I have pleaded with my mom many times but she has already made up her mind and there is absolutely nothing anyone could change that.
And this is what I believed until after receiving a call from Richard which later made me have a change of heart and speak up for myself.

Richard, my very good friend called one night and realized I was sobbing, he asked me about the situation at my home and what has been going on. I couldn't tell him my mom wanted to marry me off.
Richard wouldn't take it lightly. No! It wouldn't settle well with him.
Richard is a very good friend that knows me rather too well. He knows the plans I have for marriage and the things I expect. So him hearing about such a thing might make him lose his mind.
I wasn't going to risk it by telling him so when he asked about home and everything, I only told him all is going on well which is an obvious lie.

How much I wanted to let Richard know the truth about what's going on back here at home.
How much I wish I can scream and be let loose as this is suffocating.
I really wish I could tell someone everything and let them share in my pain and burden but I can't.
It seems this burden is mine and mine alone, it can't be shared and shouldn't be.
I realized I needed to deal with my problems and not get others involved.
I made up my mind to let my mom know that I wasn't going to married anyone except my heart says so.
I wasn't going to be forced to marry an old man. I can't be forced into marriage because I knew too well that I will suffer the whole of my life.

I had to muster all the courage to let the truth out. To let my mom know my decision on this issue.
And even though she wouldn't treat me the same again after that, I don't care I just can't do anything against my will or heart and that was final.

PS: This is just based on my thought about issues of arranged and forced marriages

What do you guys take on arranged marriage?
Are you a supporter of such actions or activities? Do you feel or think it is right and there is nothing wrong to force marriage and marital life on a person even when they aren't ready for it?
Let's hear your contribution and opinion on this, thank you!

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16 August 2021

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