My husband and I created a special bond. A string that connects our hearts and mind. And that string we made it stronger throughout the years. We didn't start so perfect, we started broken. But as time goes by if love is true and you are fit for each other despite differences then love grows stronger giving smile in your heart and your life full of happiness.

It feels so good when you share the same level of thinking with your partner. I love the fact that my husband is full of humour and fun to be with just like me. It's funny when he gave me that look and I know exactly what it means. I can play a song that is running through his head and would be amazed how could we be thinking the same thing. We can laugh at the silliest thing. We enjoy each others company.

It's not easy to find someone that can fit perfectly in the gap in your hands. But there are instances that you are willing to compromise because you are sure that it will work out with some polishing and some healthy changes.

One thing I love about being in healthy relations is that I am me and He is him and that is important. We are both aware of us being an individual, our flaws and differences. We didn't try to change each other, well I tried and found out it never works that way.

I don't like him smoking and I tried my best to stop him but I didn't push it. One day, he just stops smoking and never tastes one after. People will change if they want to. I used to be an over jealous woman. I'm serious. I used to check his phone and everything but those were the days. You get used to the system and get to know the right path for a better relationship.

Let me share these golden words with you about men, "Men will not know what you want unless you tell them". Women, if you want something from your man, you have to tell him straight. Don't give hints because they don't get that. Don't make faces because you didn't get what you want or your partner wasn't what you want to be, you didn't tell him!

Communication is very important. It was as simple as when you asked, what do you want to eat? And you say anything. And he comes with pizza and you get mad because you were expecting spaghetti! Why didn't you say so?

If you want a happy and healthy relationship you should know how to communicate effectively. If you want your needs met, then tell your partner so he/she can work it out. Don't expect that he/she should know it. Say it.

Let me share these tips with you:

1) Respect

This will always be number one. You should always respect each other. I know that in a relationship there will be a time that you will not agree on the same thing. You both have to listen and understand each others point of view and be open in each others opinion. In decision making, there will always be two of you who made that decision.

My husband respects me and I respect him. There's no one way of giving respect. My husband is the one making money in the family but if he wants to buy something big, he will ask me first if I say yes it's yes but when I say NO, then there's no more question ask. If he wants to go somewhere with friends, he will tell me first. It's not being under but a man who knows how to respect his wife.

2) Know each other's love language

I learn from my Psychology class that there are five love languages and it's according to Dr Chapman. These are:

• words of affirmation

• physical touch

• quality time

• acts of service

• receiving gifts

Now, you have to know what are your partners love language and that will guide you on keeping the fire of love alive.

My husband's love language are all of the above but most especially the physical touch. He will play with my hair with his hands, he loves holding my hands and love hugs. There's no single day we didn't say "I love you." We always do. Every time I make dinner, he will thank me and say I love you. And the way he appreciates what I do, I do more with a happy heart.

Remember not all are showy or vocal with how they feel. They show their love in different ways. He/she might not tell you "I love you" often but surely he/she is showing it in different ways.

3) Spend Quality Time together

No matter how busy and exhausted your daily life is, find time to be together even for a night movie on the couch. It doesn't have to be grand. A good chat while lying in his arms is the best.

We always have our weekly date doing our shopping for the whole week. We take out food and go to the nearest place that we can enjoy the view. We walk hand in hand and it's the same feeling as the first time.

4) Teamwork

If my husband put food on the table then I will be turning it into a dish, I cook. If I wash the dishes, my husband will dry them. If I wash clothes, my husband helps me put them in the line.

If he sees me getting tired, he will ask me to rest and massage my head or feet. My husband will always help me when he is around but not on kids homework.

5) Dream and Plan together

We dream together. We plan together. We talk about it. What we want in the future we enjoy dreaming about it. If you are not dreaming about your future together then there must be something wrong.

We want our Bread and Breakfast in Spain or France, somewhere in the heat. I will be the chef and cook for the guest. The land is cheaper there and many Brits in that place so it will be easy to adapt.

Men that I know including my husband doesn't like a nagger. They say girls love and good at yacking. But why we yack, it's never for anything just. There has to be a reason.

Do we fight?

We seem to have a perfect relationship right, but do we fight? Of course, we do! Misunderstanding, arguments but never a physical fight. But you know what? If someone is mad, the other will walk away so our heat won't clash.

We grow in that. We know when to say time out. Give space. Sleep apart and when we cool down then we apologize to each other. And that's how it should be. Not, we fight we break up. I hope I share some good words with you.

Thank you for reading.