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Bella: The Life of "Granny"

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This is a true story of a woman's remarkable achievement of love, strength and compassion in the face of adversity. A story of a wonderful woman who was born in 1874 and died in 1952 (aged 78).

Bella was born in County Kildare in Southern Ireland. At the age of fifteen, she went to live in Scotland and worked as a cook plus other duties in the kitchen at the Balmoral House. Whilst working there, she met her future husband James Robertson who was a gamekeeper on the Balmoral Estate. James was born in Scotland.

At the age of eighteen, Bella married James who was nineteen and she had her first baby who was stillborn when she was twenty. Bella and James moved to Southern Ireland, where James continued to work as a gamekeeper. James was a heavy drinker and a bully who would beat Bella when he had been drinking. In Bella's own words "the only time he didn't hit me was when I was pregnant." Bella went on to have four more children in Southern Ireland, Hermione, Allan, Tynan and Jessie. Tynan died aged eight. When he died, James was in the pub all day and didn't even attend his own son's funeral.

They moved to Northern Ireland, where they had four more children, James, Agnes, Ethel and Eric. James' work as a gamekeeper was on a large country estate in Downpatrick, County Down and the relationship between Bella and James continued to deteriorate.

Subsequently, the children grew up and left home:

Agnes went to England, married and live in Berkshire.

James married and live in Belfast.

Ethel married and lived in Hollywood, Northern Ireland. Allan emigrated to America as did Jessie and Eric stayed at home.

James eventually left Bella and went off with another woman. Bella could no longer stay in the house in Downpatrick as it was a tied house (attached to James' job) so she relocated to a small cottage in Killinchy, County Down with her youngest son Eric and an adopted daughter Veronica. Eric and Vera were both still at school. To pay the rent, Bella worked for the owners of the cottage who were farmers and did household duties and odd jobs on the farm (the rent was two shillings a week).

Her daughter Agnes, who lived in England, sent her money regularly, which was a great help but she was still quite poor. After a while, she decided that since she was always so happy around children, she would become a foster mother. At that time there appeared no rules or regulations on fostering. Babies were advertised in the Belfast papers daily with a caption such as "home wanted for baby boy" or "home needed for baby girl". Bella would answer the advertisements and the mother would bring the baby to Bella and no official person was involved.

  • The first baby was a boy named Jackie. The mother brought him to Bella and paid her the first month's money but then never paid her again. Bella discovered that she had emigrated to Australia. However, as Bella was such a caring person, she kept the baby and brought him up.

  • The second baby was a boy named Alfred (Alfie) who was paid for monthly as agreed. He died at the age of 15 and the reason was unknown to them.

  • The third baby was a boy called Herbert whose mother paid the initial payment, then disappeared. As usual, Bella kept him.

  • The fourth baby was a girl called June whose mother and father were in the armed forces. They paid monthly as agreed and visited when they could.

  • The fifth baby was Florence (Rona) who was Veronica's baby and the sixth baby was Derek.

Bella was a fantastic parent to all the children and they all called her "Granny".

The foster children that Bella had were all loved and cared for. They all called "Granny" and she taught them to respect other people and would not tolerate any rudeness. She had a large garden which she tended herself and the children were allowed to have friends to play in the garden but never in the house and none of the children was allowed to go into anyone else's house.

The older children were often sent to run errands for other elderly people but were told by Granny, that they must never, ever, accept money for this. They were also taught to never take money from strangers.

On Christmas Day, June and Rona were walking home from church and a local Publican was standing outside. He came over to wish them a "Very Happy Christmas" and gave them each a florin (two-shilling piece) but they dare not take them home, so they threw both coins in the pond on the way home!

Bella although very poor was always dressed smartly when she went out. She always wore a hat, with smart boots which had laces and buttons on them and a double-breasted coat. The children all had smart clothes and shoes to go to church and school and Bella kept a spotless home although her furniture was old and shabby.

When Bella decided to foster children her own family were very hostile towards them and rarely came to visit. The daughter and son who still lived in Northern Ireland came occasionally but obviously, those who had emigrated were rarely involved. Her daughter Agnes who lived in Maidenhead, Berkshire realised that the house her mother lived in with the children was too small for all of them and bought her a much bigger house in Lisbane, County Down.

This house had quite a large garden and a field containing a small lake. There was pike in the lake and men would come and pay Bella to fish there. The fish was inedible but the men used to enjoy fishing recreationally nevertheless. Agnes always sent money to Bella but remained hostile towards the children she fostered and only ever spoke to them when she had to. She only stayed for a short time when she visited, usually a week and would constantly undermine and criticise them. The other daughter and son rarely visited as they disapproved of the children being there.

On leaving school, Jackie worked at a garage and trained to be a mechanic eventually renting his own garage and working for himself.

Herbert works on a farm before joining the army and eventually settling in Zimbabwe for a while. In later years he worked in the antique trade.

June went to work at a company called Crepe Weavers in Newtownards but as Bella was concerned about the dangers of her cycling to and from work in the dark, Agnes sold the house in Lisbane and bought Bella a house in Comber, County Down and June went to work at the mill there.

Rona first went to Comber school and then went on to the Technical College in Comber studying commercial subjects such as shorthand typing, bookkeeping and also normal "o" level subjects.

Bella always went to Belfast on a Friday and bought books to read from the market. When she had read them, she would take them on the "workhouse" with the people who are "down on their luck" were housed. She would then go to the café for a drink before catching the bus home.

When Bella was seventy years old, she was sitting in the café when a lady joined her at the table. The lady, who was very well dressed and well-spoken, started to converse with Bella and asked if she knew anyone who would be willing to take over the care of a newborn baby. Her daughter was a nurse and unmarried and did not want anyone to know that she had given birth. The baby was born while she was on duty and no one had even suspected that she had been pregnant until the birth, as she had kept herself well corseted to hide the bump. None of her family knew including her mother, and her mother was the only one in the family who knew afterwards.

To keep it all secret, she said that she was willing to pay well, so Bella said, "I foster children and would be willing to care for your baby." The baby boy, called Derek was brought to Bella the following week and arrangements were made for payment. The lady agreed to pay Bella forty-five pounds a month (a huge amount of money at the time.)

Derek had an umbilical hernia and had an operation soon after his arrival. Bella was always concerned the something was not "quite right" with Derek and despite him being a bright and happy baby he just didn't appear to be progressing as he should in some aspects. With her vast experience with children, Bella was well qualified to spot any defects.

Bella travels to several hospitals in Northern Ireland carrying Derek on her back, trying to get answers as to what it was that may be wrong with him. Eventually, he was diagnosed with Cerebral Palsy and Bella was always convinced it had been caused by the tight corsets his mother had worn during her pregnancy to disguise the bump. Derek was bright and responsive but one side of his body did not function properly. Bella as usual, however, was determined to keep him and care for him to the best of capability. He had great difficulty learning to walk and would regularly fall over but he was a delightful little boy.

When he started school he went to Comber Primary school and had to be taken and collected after school as he was too unsteady on his feet to get to and from school without help. Rona who was at the technical college would take him to school in the morning before college and leave early to collect him from school. And also June who would carry Derek on her back wherever she goes, people even thought that he is her son.

Sadly, when Derek was eight and June was eighteen, Bella died. Derek's mother arranged for him to be collected and taken to a "cripples home" (as they called them in those days). He was just collected from school and taken to Newtownards by a care worker and left in the home. June was married and pregnant and said that she would happily have taken him in but the authorities said she was too young.

He was eventually taken to a foster home in Lisburn and then sent to a boarding school (Friends School in Lisburn). His foster mother rang June when she found out how distressed Derek was at not seeing her as she had visited him every week when he was in the "cripples home". Derek was extremely clever at school and obtain a place at Manchester University which led to a very successful career in Computer Technology. He married a lovely lady and has a family of his own. He is now retired.

And this is the story of Bella and her fostered children who she took care of as her own. For not because of her determination and loving nature, the children would never have become the close family that they were and still are.

From left to right, Alfie, Herbert, Jackie, Rona, Bella and Mum June

Thank you for reading. ❤

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reminds me of the lady i saw in soc med because she had 8 foster kids aside from her own and they're all still studying but they're all managing fairly. these people are good UwU

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They really are. That's the time of war and if they are like Mum that parents are in the armed forces they just look for someone to look after the child but the thing is Mum since she was rare by Granny didn't want to be with her parents.

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mum... as in your mum-in law? she was rared by granny? OnO

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Yes, that's Mum's granny. That's her in the picture on the right side. The two boys are dead.

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6 days ago

whoah- then your mum was raised by such a kind granny 😯😯😯 I'm surprised tbh

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6 days ago

Halaa si sisy buti kapa ang dmi monang kita dito Masha Allah ako wala pa talaga hehe wish someday mging katulad mo. Mgaling

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1 week ago

Amazing! She gave those children a family. Thank you for sharing. Is mama June the same as in your article of her getting the vaccine?

Recalibrating mistakes, we all need to!

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Yes, that's Mum. Glad you remember! That was the time of war and Mum's parents are both in the armed forces and had her fostered by granny. ❤

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A very moving story dear.Bella had a big heart and a lot of love for those children.I admire such women,which raiseing children,which are fostered.In my country social services take care of foster children and the families in which these children living.

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Yes to love someone that is not blood related and cherish them like your own is pure love. Thank you love xxx

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Great story. One lesson I learned from the story is that we should not look to money as security. People should be our security. It brings happiness and contentment. Money is fleeting. It never lasts but if you love people and surround yourself with them, you will never lack entertainment and comfort. Bella has this secret that was why she was always having foster children.

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Yes, some kids they just left to her and emigrated but even though she didn't get money to support the child she take the responsibility and raised them well.

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1 week ago

Omg! Bella have a very big heart for children, what an extraordinary life. She's an angel in human form talaga.

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That's why before she died Mum got married because she don't want to go back to her real parents as Granny is the one raised her.

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1 week ago

How caring nman ni momi Bella. Though marami xang anak ay kinaya nyang palakihin ang mga foster children nya ng maayos at itinuring na sarili nyang kadugo

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Truth at maayos nyang pinalaki. :)

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1 week ago

Ay real story pala to madam? Napakabait nyang ina. Buti nahiwalay sya dun sa asawa nyang walang kwenta.

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1 week ago

Granny ni Mother in law Ruffa. Ay uu. Grabe si James.

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1 week ago

Ehhhhh, why she's so mabait. Kaya mabait din Mother in Law mo ano 😍🤩

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1 week ago

All l say that this is the model of real women that devote and sacrifice her time for her kids. You are wonderful tiredmomma in u story dont be absent so much

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Yes, sorry about that as I just finish writing this. Took me a week. :)

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No problem darling , l just miss u on the site. You are the most lovely filipina l love her . l cannot write anything when you are not here

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1 week ago

Galing.. Minsan lng meron ganyan na dami adopted kids

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Panahon kasi pala ng gyera non madam, maraming nakikituloy sa mga bahay bahay. Yung sa mother ni father in law ko 26 ang pinatira at pinapakain nila. Tapos alam mo ba, saka lang nila nalaman na di talaga sila magkakapatid at hindi yung alam nilang apelyido ang apelyido nila nung 15 sila magttrabaho na. At dahil alam ni nanay na mamatay si granny, nagpakasal sila ni tatay kasi ayaw nyang pumunta sa London at tumira sa magulang nya kasi di naman sila nagpalaki sa kanya. Maganda story yung kay nanay, ang haba lang.

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