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Superparents
From the moment man came into being, parents also came into being. We have to admit how many people and parents of different types, nations, races, mentalities… As a child I did not have many encounters with children who have some health or mental problems, or at least we did not recognize it. Children do not make a difference when it comes to other children. He sees them with his simple gaze just as he sees himself. For them, there are no invalids, autists, deaf-mute or blind people. They unreservedly help to solve these obstacles in children's play. But these are all features of early childhood. However, I did not want to write about children with special needs, but about their parents and how they accept the situation with the child. According to the research "Stress in families with children with special needs", back in 2000 in Kragujevac, out of 50 samples made, 18 families were complete, ie. They included mom and dad and another child. Two families were with two or more children with special needs, unfortunately they were single-parent families. The results were devastating… Most parents denied the shortcomings of their children and the accompanying result was that the mothers hid the shortcomings of their children and considered it a disgrace for her as a mother and her family?!?!?! Rarely has a parent understood the problem they face in retardation problems and similar oligophrenological forms of the problem. The presence of depression in the mother was in all possible forms. Self-blame is one of the accompanying elements of parents of children with autism and motor disorders and behavioral disorders. As the cooperation between children and parents grew, so did the self-blame. Great emphasis was placed on rejection from the family, especially in rural and backward areas where children with special needs were selected as a mockery and disgrace for that family, family and even for parents.
One case is the story of a mother with two blind children in whom blindness arose as a hereditary factor. After the birth of the first son, the child's mother asked for the cause of the child's blindness to be investigated, and the findings indicated a DNA factor and that the combination of the father's and mother's genes led to that deficiency. Not believing in these findings and results, the mother gives birth to another child also with blindness. The father is inconsolable, leaves the family and leaves the mother to take care of two blind children on her own.
It is amazing how much energy and positive we found in families where the parents of a deaf person with children are also deaf by nature. "Easy" communication is the key to functioning in all families. Where it is aggravated, the degree of parental depression and accompanying neuroses and psychotic episodes increases. With this text, I wanted to show that where there are children with special needs, parents also have problems in functioning, just like their children. Unfortunately, many triggers are in the difficult economic situation of the society where such families live. Without the support of their society and the help of associates, many such families are in a desperate state. Now that we have looked at other people and their stories, I wish you a happy and joyful day.
The photos used in this article are taken from the site **www.google.com** https://www.google.com/search?q=People+and+machines&tbm=isch&ved=2ahUKEwjhkJKrieDsAhVUIhoKHQZIDz8Q2-cCegQIABAA&oq=People+and+machines&gs_lcp=CgNpbWcQDFAAWABgLGgAcAB4AIABAIgBAJIBAJgBAKoBC2d3cy13aXotaW1n&sclient=img&ei=E_-dX6G7E9TEaIaQvfgD&bih=625&biw=1366&rlz=1C1GCEA_enRS903RS903#imgrc=fkuqJNgp2iLXZM&imgdii=59WbsvxyMo2zmM Literature from the professional library FASPER Belgrade, 2020.
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Children accept children. We are adults to blame .. we see differences and shortcomings. And not just in the disease.Also in the standard of living. In kindergarten we had a mother who left prices on clothes and shoes. So the rest of us could see how expensive clothes her children wear. What can I say ... people like that need help.
I fully understand the parents of children with special needs when they are nervous and reckless because constant stress affects their sanity. However, parents who are ashamed of their children should be condemned because they are the greatest danger to their children
parents should accept the situation as it is and provide all the help to their children, so they will get help from other people and society as well.
The best solution is to focus all your concentration on the needs of your children. The recommendation is the same for parents of healthy children. Children cannot be successful and easily adapt to new challenges if their parents have not trained them with at least basic skills.
Parents of children with developmental difficulties are going through very difficult moments ... That one parent, mostly a father, leaves his children who have a health problem, and his wife, is an increasingly common occurrence, and that only indicates his weakness. In those moments, it is most necessary for parents to stay together and to enable their children to live as good a life as possible.
True, but in our environment where the mentality is totally distorted, it is always considered that the mother is to blame for the child having developmental problems. We even realize that in sterile couples where a man is sterile, it is always the woman's fault because it has been so since ancient times. Men are always in a privileged position and of course they have the freedom to decide what they want.
As people were born Adam and Eve, God created them, there are parents who really take care of their children, and there are also those who really care about their children, so tomorrow they become criminals or take drugs, God forbid.
From historical materials, I found evidence that children born with a defect were killed immediately after birth if the defect was visible or when they discovered a problem in a child. In Greece, there were gorges from which children were thrown into the abyss. Sad
Being parent is so brave role! And it's written in our DNA... Thank you so much!
> Being parent is so brave role! And it's written in our DNA... Thank you so much! Brave and very important for our lives because all the basics of what we will be 70% is in our parents.
This is a very well written article. I think it is a great place to start conversations like the ones already going on. I think one of the first things that need to be addressed in these problems is our vocabulary around it. we can be having debates/arguments with each other over the simple misuse of a phrase.
> This is a very well written article. I think it is a great place to start conversations like the ones already going on. I think one of the first things that need to be addressed in these problems is our vocabulary around it. we can be having debates/arguments with each other over the simple misuse of a phrase. Thanks for the comment Thremos, this is a topic that everyone avoids because it is sensitive to public debates. I have personal and professional experience from that sector and it always hurt me when I recognize all these parental flaws. My child is exactly what God gave me and no one can love him more than me. I feed him, clothe him, and of course I learn together with him to master all the skills like other children. Education primarily because I'll live with it and it should be a good man.
such nice written article dear....i agree with many comments here that these children only want to be accepted by others and living normal life
Excellent topics....everybody shoud love and take care for their parents..thanks for share