How to deal with stress

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While working on some research on the topic of children's stress and fears, I came across very interesting and positive definitions and theories on how to overcome all that. But to make it clearer to you, I have to explain all that from the beginning.

We are in a time of information explosion and fast life in which resilience is a necessity. Did you know that in psychology, coping with stress is called resilience. 

Resilience is a term derived from the English language (resilience), appropriated in other languages ​​in the absence of a translation that would include everything that the term resilience encompasses as a very broad term.

The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines resilience as "the ability to become strong, healthy, and successful again after something bad has happened" or "the ability to easily recover and adapt after bad events or changes," and Oxford's vocabulary as the ability to "feel better quickly after something unpleasant, such as shock, injury, etc."

There are currently a number of different definitions of resilience. This, on the one hand, may seem confusing, but, on the other hand, it is only an indicator of how comprehensive and important resilience, as a property that can be viewed as a whole set of traits, is.

Some authors define resilience "as a positive end to the distribution of developmental outcomes among high-risk individuals."


Others, such as Robert Brooks in the Handbook for Resilience in Children, define resilience as “a child’s capacity to deal effectively with stress and pressure, overcome everyday challenges, recover from disappointments, mistakes, trauma and adversity, develop clear and realistic goals, solves a problem, talks casually with others, and treats himself and others with diligence and respect, and as "the ability to meet life's challenges through truth, trust, meaning, responsibility, empathy and hope."

Many see resilience as "the capacity to adapt successfully in the face of challenges or threatening circumstances," and Charles Darwin's paraphrase of Leon Meginson, an American professor of management and marketing in 1963, wrote in his book Lessons from American Business : "According to Darwin's Origin of Species, it is not the smartest species that survive, nor are the strongest species that survive, but those species that best adapt and adapt to their changing environment." And it is precisely these species that are resilient.


Resilience as a trait in today's sense has been studied relatively briefly - since the middle of the 20th century. Norman Garmezy and Emmy Werner are considered pioneers of resilience research.

In 1973, Norman Garmezi published the results of a research on resilience. Namely, in his research, he relied on earlier studies, in order to discover risk and protective factors that can contribute to the definition of resilience and later give scientists "tools" and a way to approach the topic. He is also known for research on atypical schizoid patients (1970) and children of schizoid mothers (1974).

Amy Werner was one of the first scientists to use the term resilience in the 1970s. She is best known for researching children from Kauai Island (Hawaii). Children from this island grew up in very unfavorable conditions - they were quite poor, and many of them grew up with parents who were alcoholics and / or mentally ill people, often unemployed.

Werner noted that: about two-thirds of these children develop and exhibit destructive forms of behavior later in life (such as drug use, persistent unemployment, teenage pregnancies and childbirth), but one-third of these children did not develop such behaviors, but grew up independent. responsible, confident and caring people.

Amy Werner called this group a "resilient group". She believed that resilient children and their families had certain characteristics that distinguished them from other families, and that thanks to those characteristics, they developed differently during their lives.

During the 1980s, resilience became an increasingly important topic - both for research and for the development of the population for the sake of a more stable and prosperous society and environment that can cope with the challenges of the new times.


In Belgrade, Zana Borisavljević and Jelena Želeskov Đorić founded the Resilience Development Center in 2011 as the first such center in our region. Through an accredited program of professional development of employees in education, various trainings for personal development, trainings in the fields of business, health and programs for providing support to vulnerable groups, families and youth.

The Center strives to contribute to the development of resilience in this area and thus provide support to individuals and society.

 All these definitions are exact definitions of resilience depending on which aspect resilience is viewed from, and in many ways they are similar.

Resilience, therefore, can be defined as the ability to adapt to change and the capacity for successful adaptation, despite challenges and difficult circumstances.

Resilience can develop, and in the 21st century, in a time of rapid change and new challenges, increased stress and information explosion, work on developing resilience imposes itself on us as a need for education and support in solving problems and meeting challenges, overcoming conflicts and stress, and time management. 

Based on AQ, people can be quite different, because our attitude towards stress, challenging situations and difficulties shapes our actions and attitude towards life. Consider the percentage of some of these statements that relate to your relationship to yourself and life:

  • I often regret the decisions I make, I rarely take risks, and I prefer to play it safe in life.

  • I feel satisfied with what I am and what I have in life, and I take risks sometimes - and when that can't jeopardize my goals.

  • I like to take risks in life, I accept challenges, I have a lot of energy and I am a constantly active and very persistent person.

 There is division according to which on the basis of AQ people divided into 3types:

  • Give up (Quitters)

  • Tray (Campers)

  • Winners (Climbers)


Description of these types of people is quite extreme, to make them easier to illustrate, but hardly anyone of us is the sole odustajač, procrastinator or conqueror in practice.

Quitters are mostly mostly found in statement number 1. They do not take any risks, nor do they accept life's challenges, but only play it safe. They can often be depressed, emotionally cold and bitter. They regret their decisions, become jealous of people in the environment who are in better work and life positions, show a minimum of ambition and are not interested in work.

Procrastinators take risks but only until they become too difficult or until they achieve what they have defined as success. They are satisfied with what they are, but they lose the opportunity to see and experience what could be. When they work, they show some initiative, desire and strength to work, but often only until they achieve what they have defined as success or goal. An example of such behavior at the faculty are the very common "campaigns".

Conquerors continue to conquer and climb, that is, they go forward no matter what life brings. 

Conquerors are characterized by a high level of energy, constant movement and activity, taking risks and accepting challenges that bring hardships and difficulties throughout life.

They are persistent, persistent and very resilient. If we think about the context of the faculty, it is the colleague who has a good or excellent average, trains, volunteers, engages in various projects, deals with various things and hobbies, maybe works along the way, and most wonder where that colleague came from. , ie colleagues, time and strength.

This branch of psychology is very young and is still in development, and unfortunately more and more of us are being put into these formats by circumstances and way of life. It is important to notice in time and apply the right therapy in order to continue with a normal life. 

Whether you’re a procrastinator or a conqueror, all the same just don’t give up. I wish you a successful day.

The photos used in this article are taken from the site www.google.com

Sources are listed during the text.








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My opinion is that we can cope with stress only if we find out what is calming for us. There are many situations where you cannot avoid stress. You just have to be angry and mad sometimes, because of that, it is important to find out what is relaxing you. Find a balance. Balance is the key of happy life.

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My opinion is that we can cope with stress only if we find out what is calming for us. There are many situations where you cannot avoid stress. You just have to be angry and mad sometimes, because of that, it is important to find out what is relaxing you. Find a balance. Balance is the key of happy life.

yes, a balance needs to be found but stress is a natural phenomenon that happens in response to some bad situations we cannot change. Stress should be fought and one should not drown in agony and despair. Find a way to empty, find yourself some peace and tranquility. That's the story.

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It is definitely best to be a conqueror who, despite all the problems and stressful situations, goes forward, life is difficult and unpredictable and therefore you need to be resilient and adapt to new situations.

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It is definitely best to be a conqueror who, despite all the problems and stressful situations, goes forward, life is difficult and unpredictable and therefore you need to be resilient and adapt to new situations.

life is a struggle and we have to fight every day. If we open our eyes and look around, we see people struggling to open their eyes, to breathe the air on their own with their lungs, to step on their feet, everything is a struggle ... and we have to fight

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I am lucky to live in a small town surrounded by forest, whenever the time for a walk is decent, our children are in the forest, I think the forest pulls all the negative out of us

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I am lucky to live in a small town surrounded by forest, whenever the time for a walk is decent, our children are in the forest, I think the forest pulls all the negative out of us

Yes, I agree with you. The forests are truly magical.

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I really try to help my students and save them from stress because of the materials at school.

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You have to help with good support, otherwise it is difficult to cope with this new system of online schools.

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This is exactly what I needed, thank you.

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I’m glad I helped you at least this way.

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Very interesting ..stress is everyday, so with us and with children, now we are all under stress and we need to know how to live with it, try to relax and help children to overcome all difficulties at school as easily as possible

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Be like your mother. Recognize your child's need. It is not a science, just observe your children and talk, talk and of course listen to your children and be in focus when they tell you about their problems because there is nothing more important than their health.

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We face stress every day.Against sress I am doing relaxation exercises and walking in nature.These helps me a lot.

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When you are in silence and peace your thoughts get some natural flow. Everything made sense. a walk in the woods is something invented to save from stressful situations.

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I really needed this article to read, I've been very exposed to some stressful situations in the last few days and I don't really like it, I usually know how to do it well, but your article is great ...

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I am always at your disposal and if you want, I can refer you to life coaching training that deals with this topic.

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Very wonderful of you, I will keep that in mind <3

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It is natural to want to solve the child's problems. But when parents want to solve every little thing, their children do not have the opportunity to learn healthy skills of dealing with problems. Allow your children to try to cope with the problem on their own and they will gain the confidence to be able to cope with stressors and failure.

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It is natural to want to solve the child's problems. But when parents want to solve every little thing, their children do not have the opportunity to learn healthy skills of dealing with problems. Allow your children to try to cope with the problem on their own and they will gain the confidence to be able to cope with stressors and failure.

We have to make a difference, it is not the same stress about learning in school with the stress that children experience in families where violence, alcohol, drugs and schizophrenia reign, or they are thrown out on the street to manage on their own. A very complex area and well, that direction has been initiated in psychology, which deals only with such issues.

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Now children face stress and fear at school, they spend too little time in school, and a lot is required. They ask for knowledge from them as if they were going normally, as if classes were not shortened. This situation is very stressful for children.

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Now children face stress and fear at school, they spend too little time in school, and a lot is required. They ask for knowledge from them as if they were going normally, as if classes were not shortened. This situation is very stressful for children.

Yes ... they lost their work habits and now there are big problems. We need to talk to children and reduce their spending of free time on video games. The best results are given by ordinary reading of children's adventure novels. Try it, it doesn't cost much

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When we were children, we had the most tension in our studies and because of this, children often get irritable, get stress, and make a difference in their behavior with everyone else. But today's children are worried about a lot of things.

Children must be relieved of stress so that they can understand everything and move forward calmly.

You have explained the details very well

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When we were children, we had the most tension in our studies and because of this, children often get irritable, get stress, and make a difference in their behavior with everyone else. But today's children are worried about a lot of things.

Children must be relieved of stress so that they can understand everything and move forward calmly.

You have explained the details very well

Today's time of the digital era, where everything is on the click and everything is formatted in a "smart" style, brings devastating results on a spiritual basis. Desperately high number of families with violence, mothers with schizophrenia or postpartum depression, children inert to everything, simply numb. Instead of progress in society, and that progress brings us a much smaller number of problems, unfortunately the situation is getting worse. Realistically, there is a growing need for psychologists in schools and never a smaller number. Sadness. Thanks for reading RaemaKhan, I'm glad you're interested in a topic like this.

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Yes, why not? You have stated the truth. In my opinion, there are children of some families who live in the most difficult conditions. And especially the disease you have mentioned is a very bad disease. Children who see their parents suffering from severe stress or a disease like schizophrenia need more comfort and special care than normal children.

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Yes, why not? You have stated the truth. In my opinion, there are children of some families who live in the most difficult conditions. And especially the disease you have mentioned is a very bad disease. Children who see their parents suffering from severe stress or a disease like schizophrenia need more comfort and special care than normal children.

I had a mentally healthy family but my cousin was abandoned by his parents and went from house to house in the family. He spent a year with everyone. Very problematic in behavior. It was incomprehensible to us. However, today he is the most responsible parent of all ours in the family. Caring for his parents even though they didn't deserve his attention. There are few such cases. preserved by God.

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It is a joy to know about such people and a heartfelt prayer for them, that they despite the worst life but they have improved their lives and the lives of those who will come,

People who learn a good lesson from bad situations are more likely to succeed.

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It is a joy to know about such people and a heartfelt prayer for them, that they despite the worst life but they have improved their lives and the lives of those who will come,

People who learn a good lesson from bad situations are more likely to succeed.

A story with a positive effect and it could have been horror and had a justification for its actions which is bad

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