"Only the heart can see well. The essence is invisible to the eyes. "
Antoine de Saint Exupery
How many times have you happened to listen to your heart and make a mistake?
Your heart just dragged you towards someone who is not good for you.
You have seen for yourself, as well as everyone around you, that the situation you are in is not good for you, but in vain. The "heart" prevailed.
Or, you feel afraid of a situation. You believe that your heart is telling you that this situation is dangerous for you, and you agree. And in that way you miss a lot of beautiful things.
You feel fear of love, you listen to your heart and you are lonely. Something is wrong here.
Is it really best seen with the heart?
And is the heart always right?
Evolutionarily, the "heart" or feelings are older than the brain. While our brains as a species were not sufficiently developed, it was the feelings that guided us through life. She warned of danger, gave energy for action, connected with others so that we could survive together more easily.
Yes, the heart really shows best. The heart knows best what is good for us and what is not.
And if we always listened to our heart, we would spare ourselves many inconveniences, disappointments, hitting our heads against the wall.
The small problem in this story is that during growing up we become so far away from ourselves and our heart, that it becomes a stranger whose messages sound either like a tuned radio or like some strange foreign language.
We move so far away from ourselves and our feelings that we no longer know when something is whispering to our heart, and when the feelings are caused by mental constructions, ideas of what and how something should be.
Sometimes our heart is so hurt that it needs care and recovery first, so that it can be our wise life counselor again.
Sometimes the situation is really dangerous and fear is a useful signal that we need to do something to protect ourselves.
How do I know whether to obey my heart or not?
Of course, there is no short, clear and accurate answer to this question. There are only guidelines.
Listening to your heart does not always mean automatically following your feelings.
It is important to be ready to hear ourselves and our heart, but also to re-examine what it tells us.
It is important that we make friends with our heart, get to know it, heal it, nurture it and in that way learn to use it for our own good.
THE HEART IS LIKE A COMPASS. IT CAN INDEFINITELY GUIDE US THE WAY WE NEED TO GO TO REACH THE GOAL. AND IT CAN ALSO BE "CORRUPTED" AND GIVE US WRONG AND UNCLEAR SIGNALS.
Most of us have been hurt, neglected and silenced many times during our growing up.
And that’s why it’s hard for most of us to know when our heart is turning and when it’s our brain.
It is difficult for us to know when a feeling is authentically ours, and when it is a reflection of some old injury or wrong belief.
And that is why the hearts of most of us are shy, scared and confused.
In order to bring our heart again to lead us wisely through life, we need to heal it first, get to know it and develop a friendly relationship with it.
It takes time and it takes daily small steps dedicated to just that - as the fox from the Little Prince would say - to taming his heart.
As for everything else - exercise makes a master.
Set aside a little time each day for yourself and your heart. Take some time to listen to yourself, look at your feelings and reconsider them.
In time, you will learn to recognize the quiet voice of your being in the noise of thoughts.
Keeping some kind of emotion diary can help a lot.
When we write something down, we will find it easier and more objective to look at the situation than when we put our thoughts in our heads.
Haha my heart and mind always on a fight. The other one don't want to listen when the other just want to boss around. Lol