The Makings of a Playboy

Dear Prof,

This is Natalie. I am a 23-year-old intern at a law firm. A few weeks ago, I have broken up with another guy who I was dating for several months. Just like some of my previous relationships, we broke up due to a third party on the guy's side. I don't know, maybe I just have a knack for attracting and falling for troubled guys.

My question is a simple one, and I hope that you can enlighten me a bit and make me understand what on Earth is wrong with me or anything. Why are there playboys? That's my question, I mean, when I enter into a relationship, I always jump right into it with everything that I've got. I give everything that needs to be given but still, everything seemed to not be anywhere near enough.

Thank you for listening, and I wish to hear from you soon.

Sincerely yours,

Nat

Response:

My dear Natalie,

First off, on behalf of all the male population here on Earth, I would like to apologize for what you have been put through. It is such a shame that you have to go through and experience the dark side of our existence.

Also, I pray that you don't take it the wrong way and think that it was your fault or that there is something wrong with you. Being cheated on is not and will never be your fault, it was the cheater's fault, he or she made that decision for himself or herself. You may have had your inadequacies but those aren't reasons enough to justify what has been done to you.

People always have a choice in that situation. Being honest to your partner and breaking it off is the most civilized thing and is the right thing to do, although it may be hurtful and a bit difficult, that's the way to go, not cheating, never cheating.

Well to try and answer your question, let us clarify some things first. By being a playboy, you mean that he's down and around with another person aside from you, right? So this is the act of having multiple partners without the consent of the other. Also, this isn't that playful magazine with some interesting content right?

Alright, I want to emphasize that content thing, not all males that have multiple partners are what we can categorize as "playboy". There are open-type relationships that allow multiple partners both ways, we have throuples, and group relationships. But those are topics for another day.

Human Nature. Well, one of the reasons why a male usually seeks more than one partner is just pure animalistic instinct. They often say that human males aren't born monogamous and they are quite right. It's just the social normalcy that dictated that it's "wrong" to have multiple relations.

This could easily be controlled though. This may be true but this could never be a valid excuse to allow cheating in any romantic relationship. It's a matter of control, communication, a whole lot of respect.

Another reason is what I would like to call the Ben situation. Ben was a normal teenage boy. He was also living a normal life and he experienced a normal youth. Ben met a girl. Ben innocently got close to her. Ben developed feelings for the girl. Ben fell in love with the girl. Ben is rejected by the girl. Ben obsessed over the girl. And Ben cursed the whole female population.

In other words, a severely broken heart can trigger that vengeful part of our personality. And in Ben's case, to exact revenge on girls, he made sure that he break some hearts along the way.

Psychological. This might be a bit vague but psychopathy and sociopathy could play a big role in this sense too. Some people are just wired differently than the majority of humankind.

And of course, there's that reason that the person is just a total a$$hole, a jerk, and a lowlife. It may just be to feed their egos and they may just want to wreak havoc across the world. It may not be specific but their reasons are just boiling down to they do it cause they can, or because they want to. There's no reasoning with people like that.

And to end this one, I just want you to remember that it's really not on you. You are just a victim of fate's bad joke. You can rest and sleep soundly at night knowing that you did not do anything wrong and there is nothing even remotely wrong with you. People like you who dive head-on into romantic relationships are rare and are very special, may you not get tired of believing. Who knows, one of these days, you'll meet the guy that will make you forget that "playboys" exist.

And with that, may your heart finds what it wants.

Love,

Professor.

Hi gorgeous!

Alright! It's been a while since we heard from the professor. I wonder where he's been wandering around today. It's good to know that he sounds like he's doing fine wherever he is doing his business nowadays.

As you know, this is an ongoing series called "Letters of the Heart". This is the 14th installment of the series and I hope that you enjoyed it. You can also click the link above if you want to read the previous publications.

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And as always ...

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Series    : Letters of the Heart
Title     : The Makings of a Playboy
Episode   : 014
Published : 29-Sep-2021
Author    :  © RB