Is It Easy To Have A Life Away From Home?

No:81-03

November 08,2022

I grew up with my grandparents , three of us siblings actually. Not only my mother was a single parent but because she's working far away from us ever since we were a kid. She had most of his life away from us , away from home...

Fortunate are those who can bring their family with them when working or migrating to a foreign country. Though in every place your into , working hard is a must to achieve your dream life but if you are with your family atleast the problem of homesickness will lessen.

Of course , adjusting to a new environment , culture and the people are given . Dealing with those is not that easy but there are Filipino communities all over in different parts of the world that can help to lessen the anxiety in a foreign place. Meeting a "kabayan" is a relieve for every Filipino whose new to a certain place.

But how about those individual who want to have a better life for their families? Who sought working far away from home to atleast raise their way of living? The breadwinners? Single parents who need to feed and provide for their kids necessities?

I know how hard it is coz as i've mention , we grew up with our grandparents coz mom had to work in a foreign land to provide for all our needs. From food , clothings and education. She sacrificed a lot for us. There are days that she keep on crying coz she's missing us badly. Days she can't eat good meal coz she's thinking if we were eating the same good meal that she's about to partake.

Special event and holidays that she can't be with us coz she can't go home as much as she want to. Counting the days that seem too slow when stricken by homesickness. When she was sick and not feeling well and no one will take care of her but herself was really saddening. She has to stand up , self medicate and yet still thinking of work coz of us.

Have cousins in NY chatting me at wee hour in the morning here , telling me how tired she is from work yet she has to go to the laundry shop to do her laundry and how she almost cried while pushing her trolley on the way to the shop coz no one will do it for her .

An Aunt in Canada though all her family is with her , also crying as she's telling us how her salary almost went to bank for their house monthly mortgaged that is payable for almost a lifetime.

A cousin's wife in Australia that has to go to the hospital alone for her chemotheraphy coz my cousin already used his work leave and need to go back to work after sending their children to school so he could no longer accompany his wife for treatment.

Aside from the regular job most of our kababayan's are doing extra work so they could send more money to their families. Some are sending their siblings to schools , some are paying loans, some are building their dream house , some are saving for a business back home. Some are paying for medications of a certain family members. A lot of reason but all of them are surely having a hard time working and living alone away from home.

See? It's not easy to live away from our homeland. There are price to pay. They are working really hard , they are not just picking easy money. Of course , they are not going to post pictures of their daily routine of hardwork and struggles so as not to create worries from their love ones here.

My relatives though having struggles in their chosen land , still is fortunate having the life they want but for some of our kababayan's who struggle more to survive , working double or triple to meet both ends for their family is not a joke.

Let us all be considerate , appreciate their hardwork. A mere "How are you" without asking for something is a delight for them. Let us give them reason to go on , make worthy of their sacrifices.

Study hard while your parent or siblings are working away from you to send you to schools. Invest their hard earned money or atleast don't spend it with nonsense things.

If they send you something , say "Thank You!" whatever it is , don't ever think it's their obligation. If you have a chance , send them something too. Don't forget they are family and not a money machine.

As they are working hard , you should work hard too. Either keep your house tidy , study hard , save and most of all show them you care. Not just on the date of remittances but as often as possible.

I remember my mom's brother whose living in California with his family too , telling us. Hey ! i'm collecting some soda cans in our area so i could sell it and have some extra bucks so i could send it all to you this Christmas. Is'nt it heartwarming? They have a stable life there but still think of us and does not forget to send us something every holiday season.

We don't ask anything from them they are just happy giving something to us. Something they don't forget , that wherever they are living , we are and will always be a family , a Filipino at heart that knows no boundaries when it comes to family.

I let my kids dream high , yes probably away from home too but for us , i don't want to leave home for good, travel i guess in the future but not to live outside my world. At the rate of inflation here is quite really hard but i still choose to stay and fight to survive.

For the meantime , i'll make sure to make their wings strong enough , their values firm yet their heart is soft in preparing for a tough life ahead of them. Let their wings soar high in time... and let them know that they can go back anytime with their first home. To all dreamers out tbere , goodluck in chasing your dream life even if it's away from home , fight!

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