On some other occasions, I have written about this same subject. Today I bring it up because I read a gentleman who practices an ancient discipline in his country and he commented on what I had tried to say at the time I wrote.

He, like me, assures us that we cannot be affected by the things that are said to us if we do not allow it. That is, if some person threatens me with a rude thing then I must control myself to such an extent that I must not show or feel in any way that what they have said has affected me.

We can complain if we prick a finger if we cut ourselves with a sharp object because we inevitably feel pain for that physical injury caused to our organism. If, on the other hand, it is not a physical injury but a bad word or a gesture of a person, we have two options.

The first is to feel offended and return the bad word or gesture to the person who inflicted it. Or we avoid feeling bad about what we have heard or seen and simply turn away without that moment having meant anything important in our life.

When we are very sensitive people, everything that happens around us affects us. At the end of the day, we end up being very unhappy people because people have achieved what they wanted. That we would be disturbed to such an extent that we would have a bad day.

It is not that day only because there will come another and another day. Because our personality is to accept the words and actions of others as an offense. It is not easy to avoid getting upset, it is all a matter of practice.

They say that practice makes perfect. When we begin to laugh at the bad acts of others towards us we will begin to have a better and healthier life. Preparing ourselves to not feel anger or the need to return an offense is hard for those of us who have become accustomed to not staying down.

It has been hard for me, but I continue to practice every day to avoid feeling bad about the mistreatment of others. When that happens I just think about taking a deep breath and letting the moment pass.

Let the moment pass to respond and tell me that it's not worth responding and I better go on my way. After a while, I feel good about myself because I didn't give that person the pleasure of me absorbing their venom and I continue on my way feeling peace and tranquility.

Let me know how long it has taken you to master this feeling of allowing others to bother you when they want you to. Or if on the contrary you still don't practice deep breathing and let it go until you get used to it and nothing affects you...

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