Celebrating A Deceased Loved One's Birthday

October 15, 2021

Good evening, morning or afternoon everyone. How is your Friday going? Before, when I was a student, I felt glad when Friday came because it means its fly day. Fly day means I can go anywhere. But now, this day is not meaningful anymore since we cannot go anywhere we want due some restrictions. But it's okay, what's important is we are safe from the unseen opponent.

Can I ask a question? Do your family still celebrate the birthday of the deceased member of the family? Well, some family still celebrate while others not anymore. Or others only celebrate the death anniversary of their deceased loved ones.

Truly, life is unpredictable. We never know when is our final day on this earth. Today, you may see the beautiful smile of the person, tomorrow you may see it again or not. Death will not give us notice when will our life expires.

But before that death, we usually celebrate enthusiastically the birth of the person on the day they born as long as they are still alive. Well, death cannot change the date of the birth of a person. So, no matter if the person is already dead, his or her birthday is still the same.

Today, we celebrate the birthday of my partner's grandfather. It's been four years since he was gone. But he is not forgotten in the hearts of his family. Every year, they are still celebrate his birthday aside from his death anniversary. All his children will be gathered together in every celebration. My partner's grandfather has 9 children. What a big family right? But not all his children can attend his celebration because some of them are already settling in different places. Those who are near are the ones who can celebrate. But out of 9 children, only 2 are in far place. 1 is in Masbate while the other 1 is in Mindanao part. So, the 7 children together with their families can come together to celebrate.

Earlier this day, my partner's mother told us that we will have a dinner in Mama Iseng's house ( my partner's grandmother). We already know that it's Papa Lolong's birthday today. At 10 in the morning, my daughter together with her father went to Mama Iseng's house to visit. When they got there, Mama Iseng hugged my daughter immediately. She seemed she missed her great granddaughter so much. Well, it's been a couple of days already since she last saw her great granddaughter. My daughter stayed there for an hour. When she got home, she already had a one thousand bill in her hand. My partner said that Mama Iseng gave it to her. He shared that before, their grandparents only gave them five pesos while our daughter received a minimum of 50 pesos or $1 and maximum of 1000 pesos or $20. Well, maybe Mama Iseng find our daughter very amusing and she love her so much.hihi

At exactly 5:30, they started the celebration since everybody is already here. Of course, they begin the celebration with a prayer. They have lechon ( which is the most favorite dish of all ), desserts and other dishes in the table. Right after the prayer, the children immediately dig in that is why I didn't able to take a picture. Everybody is happily talking to each other while eating. That is the good part when family is being together. You can hear their laughter. Though the celebrator is already not with us, the celebration is still a lively one. Each generation has their own group. The young ones stayed in the living room while the grown-ups situated in the kitchen. Everybody is still happy including Mama Iseng.

Family is very important in all of us. Despite the absence of one member, as long as the family is being together, you can still feel the happiness. Looking at them with smiles in their faces made me think that the celebrator of the birthday is also happy watching them. He may not be with us but I am sure that he is happy knowing that his father is still together.

This is it for today everyone. Thank you always for your continuous support and love, especially the people here👇. God bless everyone and have a safe Friday.

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