What Hurts The Most Doesn't Kill Us, But Makes Us Stronger

Everyone has their own battle to face, that's why we need not bug people who choose to be on their own. The world today is a battlefield, vast with different problems and situations. Most times we are forced to question our existence. Research shows, not everyone can be happy at the same time. While you are struggling with your demons, another man is celebrating his victory. The Bible talks about, ' time for everything'.  

The good part of our struggles remains: they bring the best out of us. I still remember the first day, I learnt how to ride a bicycle. I wasn't able to control the pedals, which made me fall into a ditch. I knew the only way to get off, that trouble was to know how to balance the wheel. That really shaped me into becoming a better rider. 

Another instance was during my high school days. I had a poor performance in school, and I wasn't happy about it. Going home with such a result, usually earned me some beatings from my dad. I had to sit up and study, it wasn't because I wanted to, but to avoid being flogged. Today, I am a better and successful person. This clearly explains the fact, tough times are always  there to make you a better person.

Here is a list of struggles, which could shaped you into becoming a better person:

1) Heartbreaks: Almost everyone has gotten their heart broken, either from their partners, close friends or family members. You might be thinking of just a lover breaking your heart, cheating on you or failing to keep to their promises. That's no doubt, heartbreak. But let's look at it from a different perspective, heartbreak could also stem from close friends. Imagine, your friend refusing to help you, even when you know they have all it takes to do so. It will leave you heartbroken. 

Such feelings could last for a while, could span for months or more. But when such an individual bounces back. He/she will be careful not to make the same mistake again. That is the beauty of tough times, he/she will trust less, love less or even stop associating with such people.

2) Rejection: Nothing hurts like being rejected, that feeling of not being good enough could dampen your day and make life terrible for you. Let's assume you went for an interview, and you couldn't meet up with the requirements, you were dismissed. That feeling of being rejected will shape you into becoming a better version of yourself. I have seen people who couldn't get their desired job, due to a qualification they lacked, invest their time and energy just to get them. That is a boost to themselves, aside from them getting their dream job, they have also added to their bank of knowledge.

3) College: This phase is when we get to learn, the rudiments of life. How and when to reacts to situations. Moment you need to wake up even when you slept late, so you don't miss morning lectures.  Other times, you could be blessed with bullies, both as lecturers and colleagues. So you learn to deal with such people. 

This is all the training you need, to become a better person. Knowing when to win, lose, celebrate your wins and mourn your losses. College is not just an institution of learning but also a place where morale standards are augmented.

4) Relationships: This is a different learning ground. You tend to meet with people of different ideology, and philosophy. How you connect with them matters a lot. This also shapes you, into adapting to whatever situation or people you find yourself in. 

In relationships, you also learn how to compromise, that is, put others first. This simple attitude could shape your life into becoming a great leader in future.

5) Your Past: Have you ever remembered a past and either gotten angry or happy with the way you reacted? That's awesome if you do, it shows you are trying to become a person, different from who you used to be. The old saying of experience being the best teacher still stand till date.

It's very rare seeing people go through the same hurdles over and over again, if they do, then know they are not learning from their past. A wise person will have a myriad of events in his/her mind, to always reflect on regularly. You may not be able to change your past, but you can learn from it. 

There are other numerous life challenges, which I will still talk about in future articles. All this contributes to making us better individuals. 

So while going through tough situations, you don't need to rush out of it, without learning something new. Maybe you were meant to go through an abusive relationship for you to appreciate a better one. Your boss shouts at you every time and you are already tired of the job, be calm, develop a thick skin and this will help you in other jobs in future. 

No one was meant to be sad forever, every situation in life is a lesson for tomorrow. Cheers!!!

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