There Is No Friendship Without A Rift

Show me a relationship without misunderstanding and I will gladly point to you two individuals who are receiving themselves - Dr. Wrinkle

Does the above quote sounds strange to you? If it does pardon me but it is true. Friendship isn't a one day thing or a special occasion where we all dress in our best attire just to be applauded by the guests. It is a long term agreement where anger, jealousy, chaos and other hurtful behaviours also strives. This is just the downside of friendship which most people hide it religiously from others. 

I could count the number of times I and my best friend disagreed over something, we even shouted at each other calling ourselves hurtful names. We were both hurt but who was ready to take the first step to apologize was the big deal. I did and sometimes she does too, that shows how much we value our relationship above the chaos that is bound to occur. I still remember the day, we quarreled and she got herself into trouble. We had to lay aside our differences and fix everything together. Nobody dares hurt my best friend without passing through me and that is just one unique character in our friendship.

How Fast You Get Back On Track With Your Friend Matters A Lot!

Humans have different mindsets, way of life and how they react to things. It is similar to the way our body reacts naturally to different food. I may not be pissed when my friend takes my phone without my permission but she could get angry whenever I does that to hers.

Having such vital information could help settle a lot of rift between friends. For example, if you are aware she gets angry whenever you touch her mobile without her consent, you could either seek your friend's permission before touching her phone or you just avoid it to prevent unnecessary drama.

If there is a fight between friends, find a way to solve it before it gets more messier. You don't have to always claim being the victim or the one who was wrongly treated. Friendships should not be based on such principle of who pulled the trigger should apologize first. No! Any of you could apologise without feeling cheated. That is what makes friendship blooms, how fast we apologize creates this beautiful impression in the heart of our friends of how valuable, loved and special there are to us.

So many people think apologizing when you are not wrong shows weakness but to me, it is a sign of maturity and how much you value the relationship. You should not be clouded by the thought of he/she was wrong so they have to apologize but do so if you value your relationship.

Can Two People Go Together Without Any Disagreement?

If I were to throw that question at everyone, most people will boldly say "yes" but deep down we know it is a big lie. It is not possible to live for years with a friend without any disagreement. Even the sweetest love story has a break, that is just human for you. An amazing feature nobody can change or explain. No matter how blissful the relationship is one day they could always be a disagreement. How fast you get back on track is what explains how much you both valued the relationship.

I once told someone " I am not scared of having a fight with my friend but I am only scared when such a fight isn't resolved for a long time. 

If you value someone you will be scared to lose them. 

Have this at the back of your mind that there is not relationship that goes for years without a slight misunderstanding unless both parties were not sincere to each other. Don't be envious of those shiny relationship you see online, in social gatherings or the public it could be mere formality just to cover up for a broken relationship in their closet.

Do have a beautiful day and never stop to stay hydrated. Remember, drinking water calms the nerves, clears the body of bacteria and refreshes the brain. 

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