Train up a child

How did you train your child? Maybe every parent has their style of taking care of their child. A child is easy to cry and they always call "mama", when they get hurt or they feel pain.

I just want to share with you this photo, What did you notice in this picture?

It was a young boy, almost 2 years old, and as a mom, I was just amazed at how did he walk down the stairs alone without nobody to help him. His mom was just around and watching him going up and down, and his uncle too.

One thing I noticed, was that her parenting style was different from mine. When my kids are still small like this baby, I never allow them to walk anywhere, instead, I put him always inside the house and in his crib because I was afraid he will get hurt.

But, this baby boy was very independent, when there was one time that he fell to the ground because he was running fast, and his mama told him to stand without holding his hand, and he stand immediately. From my observation of the mom she ;

Let her son explore the surroundings

She just let a child run around the place, on the ground, and walk on the stairs. it's not that she's disregarding her child but she wants to train him to become independent. Even if the child was messy and picking some stones and grass on the floor, she never shout " it's dirty".

Her treatment of her child was different from how I grow up. Our mother always calls us every time we want to see our friends outside, or we want to have an adventure time with friends. My mother always warned us about something that they find very dangerous. We grow up always asking mama about anything, and our decisions oftentimes result after we heard their opinion.

I appreciate how this mother that I saw in the church helped his son in growing to become independent. I didn't mean that we do the same, it's just that her way is unique I always saw with some young women today.

She let her son feel the pain

One time this young boy fell to the ground while he ran, she never take the boy immediately, instead, she told him to stand up and walk again. I was impressed by that, you know because my mother will get mad at me when my child will go outside the house and play with his friends. My mother always told me that my child will be hurt and cry if I will let not watch him closely.

She's always there to guide him

Even if she's letting her outside, she's always there to get his back every time, she's giving instructions to the child but she leaves him with a choice.

Though we will allow our children to decide for themselves, as a parent we should be always there, every time they need someone to lean on. Setting our children free wasn't easy, at the back of our minds, we do have fears, but it's a sort of sacrifice to teach them.

She just let him eat his food with her bare hands

Did you let your child eat too with their own hands? This boy was eating a passion fruit juice that is in cellophane, and it's just too cute, that he did it, without the help of his mother.

Sometimes we do have the wrong usage of words when it comes to talking with our child. Just like the word dirty, when his just eating ketchup with his hands, we used the word, "dirty", even if it's not dirt. When a boy touches a ball from the ground, we too said it's "dirty" or yucky though it's not. The child will now come to think that everything is having dirt.

As a mom, I also have this kind of word, "don't go there, don't climb up, it's too dangerous "when it's not really in danger. But, there is a parent who just says" be careful".

This improper use of words, can develop in a child's mind a feeling of hesitation, fear, and always unsure.

There's just one thing that I've learned on how to train our child to become independent, "forget perfectionism".

Most of the time, we don't want them to make a mistake, we get angry if they fail. But, always remember that they are human just like us, who have strengths and weaknesses. What matter is that we will never get tired to remind them and show them how they should live the way we want them to be.

These are the tips from an imperfect mother who also hoping to be a role model to her children.

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