Warring To Overcome Anger

One of the greatest enemies we all have to battle with are not always from our friends or neighbours but mostly from our habits that needs restructuring, one of the supposed habit that could pose a threat to us is the common anger, yes common anger, it starts off as common until its not so common anymore. Anger exist in us all, and you know as crazy as we can be, we sometimes take pride in the severity of our anger, for instance two people are getting into an argument, you're most likely to hear one of them say " you don't want to see the other side of me". As much as anger is bad, most of us pride in it.

One bad reason why anger should be intentionally war againstis is its controlling power, when it takes over, there is very little to do to return to that calm state, you see someone who is furious already, he or she keeps ranting on and on, going tro and fro causing mayhem. Mostly until the deed is done do we see calmness return, then the deed done Starts playing its part, and that's the crazy thing anger has to offer, it's effects never ends.

That action you took while you were very much angry is the bait in there, and while you were taking actions, you never knew you were taking on the bait, a bait that might as well hunt you for a longer time. This is crazy guys. I have experienced a lot of things gone at the hands of a smoke of anger uncontrolled. Many sweet and enviable relationships ended without a chance of coming back again. The havoc and choas that could have been averted but not, rather it has created a very huge rift, a rift that would take more than a lot to fill up.

Anger works aren't so easy to amends, especially when the actions taken were in deep hate at the moment. Imagine getting into a fight only to injure someone so bad, how then do you apologize after you both has called off the fight and settled it all? Do you have flesh to place back on the others beaten injury. How then do you keep an eye contact with such person in a discussion, when your mind Keeps reminding you that you were the cause, like "take a look at what you did, you did that" you'll think the person hasn't forgiven you yet.

Saying sorry has never been the answer to all disagreements and conflicts, especially in the case of anger, saying sorry can most times cause more hatred, why say sorry now the other can say, so after all what you did, now that's its time for me to have my revenge you are coming with apologizes, no way. Just like a nail it to the war by mistake, after it has been discovered to be a mistake and the nail is taken off, the hole ( which is the bored nail effect would still be dear and cannot be easily closed up.

Deal With It

One way to easily deal with it is to plan before hand. When I'm in a gathering of people who are so annoying, especially with the choice of their words and how they do the things they do. I immediately know this guys may step on my toes, so I say to myself I won't get angry, no I would bear it and stay happy. They aren't worth the stress and anger, I simply choose to stay happy regardless. With this self proclamation, its easier for me to remember not to loose my cool, so I don't go taking actions that I might regret later.

Another better way is to know who I move with. You could choose to go with the first option, but you won't be able to do that every time, for sure one day you'd have had it to the brim and can't take it anymore. So best still is to know who are the people you associate with and know what they are capable of. Those ones who are sure to bring out the worst in you, should have limited time out with you, even as you try cautioning that you're not enjoying their patterns of speech.

Anger truly brings out the beast in us, a quiet guy today who is well respected could be taken for a beast with people drawing far from him because of a one time display of anger. They forget we are all human and we could easily snap out of our cool and just go crazy. But it's detriments are so bad, you don't want to work with that, anger breeds so much hate, learn to dissolved it within and not express it.

The Bible says the sun shouldn't set on our anger, we all can be angry, yes old, young, teens, anyone and everyone can get angry to the extreme, enough to cause a catastrophe, so we all need to work on it, look within do you have anger issues, now is the time. Its good you work on controlling it. If there is one thing we humans need to war against because of our nature, one of it would most definitely be anger. Work on how you act on getting annoyed.

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