Very deadly is the act called revenge. its normal that we get angry and go crazy, but it's also normal that this rage dies off sooner or later, we just completely overlook it or see no reason to keep being upset anymore. But there are times when the hurt gets to a whole different levels and can't just let go. The hate builds from days, then to weeks, off to months and sometimes years and no matter the duration, the revenge is still in plan, this is a dangerous person, they may appear calm or gentle, but there is a venom residing inside and it is very dangerous, this venom is named revenge. It's not just unforgiveness, some people actually don't forgive you, yet they don't do anything bad to repay you, but others must do it back, this revenge is venomous, highly dangerous.
Closely associated with anger and hate, seeking revenge is quite different and more deadly, it should be well thought of and possibly discarded as it mostly would only lead to more hurting. Cases like anger would linger for a specific time, as it happened recently but as time goes by the heat of the anger should be decreasing. However revenge isn't so, revenge is often a longer term plan to payback a wrong being done, it requires a stronger heart, a heart capable of preserving hate over a long period of time and that's where the issue lies.
Anger and hate is inevitable as we all know, but they were never supposed to stay in for a long period of time, I suppose in the law court there are lenient decrees whenever someone acts in the heat of the moment, that is commuting a crime that moment you were aggrieved, but when they have gotten time to cool off yet they still return to commit such crime, then the court charges harder cause it was a well thought plan. Revenge is often a thought of plan, you were relaxed, the event has taken place long already, but instead of finding a way out of it, you decided to retreat to a revenge that is most likely aside the law.
However some wrong done to us are so painful and we just can't let go, no in fact the more the day goes by, the more it pains and to this we must do something about it. We must do something about it not because we are evil or wicked but because we want justice to prevail and to this we must seek it through the right means. Not planning ways to cause more pain and increase the chain growth of hate, rather taking right steps, right legal steps. For this we must have died down the anger and hate and still be sure its the right step to take.
Learn how to kill the anger and build it up when the time is right. Emotional intelligence is a good tool worthy of anybody possessing. The judges in the court won't rule to anyone's favour because they are close friends or cause they are hurt real bad, rather they judge cause the facts and evidences have been gathered and reviewed and so the verdict is the right one to take. More reason why the court is the best place to seek revenge, taking the law to your own hands would often back fire to hurt you. Rather than revenge seek justice.
What do we stand to gain however from revenge is a question we must know also. For few the revenge purpose is to show that they can't be messed with, just cause of their ego. Some its out of heartbreak and now they are seeking a way to hurt the person who broke their heart. Some still is as a result of embarrassment, they were likely insulted or looked down on so they've made a choice to revenge on those people who took them for a laughing stock.
Therefore you can see that quite a lot of reason being people's quest for revenge are out of selfishness, the quest to be on top and important always, no one should insult them, no one should break their heart, no one should mock them, then I guess they are not ready to be human, cause as human all this things are rather inevitable, as rich as elon musk is, be sure that people still insults and embarrasses him, doubt that go on twitter the Savage land, anybody is dealt with, well he's only human not God. And if this makes you so angry that you result to seeking revenge over a long period of time, then the issue is with you, and you should deal with it, urgently.
Everyday is a chance to get better, if not for any reason but for the fact that nothing last forever, that pain today would matter less in time, nothing would truly replace the pain, revenge doesn't replace the pain, it only creates pain to another, when the wrong done to you is so hurtful then seek justice, if its not justifiable then are you only being self centred? Or is it your pride that has been toiled with? Remember at death ends all worries, but then let nothing stain our heavenly pursuit, not any action on earth.
However I can understand the place of the justice system being tagged as corrupted, so justice could be bribed, to this we can only hope for a repair,however more than the loopholes there are more cases of justice prevailing, good wining over evil, so try seeking for legal actions rather than conclude the system is corrupted.
Are you still pained, what is the matter? what wrong was done to you? Is it truly beyond forgiving? if yes then, what do you hope to do about it? What would be the right thing to do about it? At last peace is the goal, choose peace everyday every time.
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Control hanggang kaya and one think to ease the anger is to filled our mind with positive things.