Don't Date Cause They're Cute
If you know the numbers of relationships people get into daily all because the person is cute, little wonder why the numbers of break up too are escalating by the day, its not a gamble, mere looks doesn't sustain the affairs of the heart, you can only be mesmerized by the attractions for so long, shortly you'd begin to get disgusted by more important issues that's lacking in the person. We don't want to make choices, especially life choices like who to date or marry just for a beautiful face, or fine or well built body, few months to few years down the line, it wouldn't be the bone of contention any longer and by that time I can only wonder what would keep sustaining the relationship. Beauty fades as we all know for a reason, but apparently we care less about if it fades or not, the ladies still can jump freely to the handsome and the guys to the beautiful. Well who wouldn't want someone who's attractive, I sure do too and I'm sure you do too, so I'm not saying beauty means no brains or beauty means not good for a relationship, but rather let's ensure we go for compatibility, someone who can merge with us and together become achievers, someone who appreciate your dreams and drive and can as well contribute to the success of it. Its lovely to see women succeed generally, because the stereotype that a woman needs to only get a rich man and her life is good to go is in no way sending the right messages. To be truthful it is fastly becoming the hidden agendas of many female, so they write off any struggling guy and made do with the wealthy males. Listening to the older people speak I could clearly realize that gone are the days we see ladies ready to start from the scratch with you, staying with you when you have nothing but ready to grow, work and pray with you. Not that it doesn't happen anymore but it's less rampant compared to before. How do you like it few years down the line, after days of repeatedly seeing that beautiful face, already getting tired of the well shaped body, what then? Do you jump to a new guy or a new girl? This we see every now and then. Its no more true love making people make decision any more, neither is it wisdom controlling their actions anymore but outright mesmerization. Funny enough this could only last a while which makes it a totally wrong choice to making beauty a main reason for selection, i know we all want cute kids too, but there are definitely other beautiful people who can match your compatibility and be great partners. A pure cajole of beauty, haven't you notice how people compliment your siblings oh they are so cute, but it matters less to you, you don't go wow that's so true and stare at their faces for hours, because you've seen them multiple times, same would go for your partner overtime, you'll knoe they are cute but it'll matter less to you soon. Oh she's cute, oh he's fine and that's all you care about, other important questions of does he understands you and how to deal with you, do you respect him, is he supporting your dreams, does he even knoe your dreams, is she having the wifely attributes, can she support the home, even on your absence, and so on, so many wise questions to ask but who cares anymore. Celebrities marriage has often been mostly adored and as you know they too are so fast to ending, if I'm to say what I feel the reason for this could be then I'll say its over excitement created from the thoughts of "can you imagine how it'll be like, me and you", " we'll be the talk of the town", "we are popular so we'll be adored that day, the world would celebrate us", apparently few of this conjunctions has worked fine and the couples Still carry on till date, but few others which I guess skipped the more important aspect, are currently splitted, come on we can't afford to make decisions so sensitive base on beauty or the moment. In a nutshell, our happiness surpasses how we tolerate things, one day you'll wake up to say, how long would I keep dealing with this, I don't care if he's the most good looking guy or Lady in the world now, all I want is someone who truly makes me happy, knows how to treat me right and loves me for me and not just how I look. But all that can be prevented by having discipline enough to think through the urgent feelings and know this is the right choice for me. Its not easy at times but like dey say nothing good comes easy. Go for the future, go for the good of the kids having a great mother or father, go for the success of your dreams, go for one who knows how to gladden your heart with words and actions, beauty is no yardstick for enjoyment, everyone has to learn to treat someone right including the cute also, be cute and be a great partners, this we must do for the happiness of who ever we choose to be with. Don't make hasty decisions guys, always think things through, as we remember beauty fades. Thanks For Reading.
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Most people prefer to choose partner based on the appearance because they are looking for a gf/bf. But if a person find a life partner, someone to be married then manner and behavior is a must. Yes beauty is also good, but it is just a bonus. Personality is better:)
Yes a life partner is a more serious issue and not a cruising. Beauty is good but a right personality would do more.
Where was this post when I was single?? lol.. I did not date anybody before marrying because I had an Indian arranged marriage but ever since that day, i hated myself for the bad choices in life. My husband is a good man, but I had dreams, which I should have stuck to. It is very important to tell girls and guys to be careful who what and why you date
Your happiness is what matters now, just find happiness where you are, life is meant to be enjoyed while we do good. We all have made wrong choices but overall we must find peace within ourselves.
very true and exactly what I'm doing these days
That's very good dear, we all need to do so.
Yes the appearance is not the base for a perfect relationship or having a family. It's the people, their mindset, behavior and attitudes on how they handle the situations. It's the most important. So you have a perfect living as a partner. Take care always Willtravis.🙏😇
Take care always too Ramona, truly appearances shouldn't speak much in searching for a partner. ❤
This one is good advice for people out there seeking love. I also strongly believe in what you said. Go for someone who's having more than the good looks. Someone who has ambition and someone who knows commitment and responsibility. I am grateful that I was able to bump into this article while I'm still single. Now, I know that my choice of being single is reasonable and not just a petty thing for myself.
I'm happy at your comment, the main reasons for such write ups are for the purposed public to get to see it and learn from it, so thank you too.
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This speaks truth to most of the people. Relationship ends like a wink of an eye because the foundation is just based on physical aspects. I hope everyone will learn how to appreciate inner beauty and mind set.
Everyone would surely learn in the long run, beauty is good however a good person who compliments is better.
This sums up all. Very lovely. 👏
Thanks a lot bro. 💪
I agree with this, When you enter into a relationship, you should choose the goods for you, not the ones that are good for your dad, your family or anyone else. You should be well with him and his treatment of you because at the end of the day you will be with him for life, whether in hardship or in comfort you will be with him and not your family.
Yes I agree too, how they are accepted by our families and friends matters less, its how they are to us that is the main issue, so they have to be good by us too.
I agree..being in a relationship takes alot of understanding and challenges.its not only base on looks
At all dear, looks is a wrong choice to fully depend on, there is a place if personality and that must be considered too.
Indeed
Physical appearance is the first that people recognize but if we did deeper, more than physical we should consider the character, in my case, I would prefer in the middle, just balance.
Yeah, beauty is good no doubt, but we can't live with just beauty and no character, it'll be hell.
I agree. We should be mindful of what kind of people to date. We date to marry. If we don't date to marry, we are dating to get our heart broken. That is why we need to ask for God's wisdom in choosing what kind of man to date.
Indeed Gods directions surpasses our wisdom, so seeking Gods say can never lead us wrong.
Exactly! I hope this article reaches a wide audience for the youth badly needs this.
Oh yes hopefully.
Pienso q primero debemos salir conosernos sin apuros para asi conosernos antes de llegar a un matrimonio así no hubieran tantas rupturas. Ya q en las salidas y poco a poco vamos viendo defectos y virtudes en ambos. Felis día mi bello amigo
Don't understand your language but I'm quite sure its good. Holla amigo
I think the most important thing is to boldly follow our dreams.
Yes that would work too.
lo mas importante es seguir al paso que vamos, pero con cambios radicales para hacer de este mundo un hogar mejor para nuestras futuras generaciones.
I don't speak Spanish, but I sure do appreciate your response.
Choosing a partner is not an easy thing because its the matter of whole life to spend with that person we choose.So we should choose our partner carefully,apart from looks all the other things matter too,like generosity,trust and kindness. Because spiritual beauty is more important that physical beauty.
Very true, its isn't a short term plan so we have to thread carefully so as to promote our happiness through out our stay.
Finds someone who will stay with you whatever situation you are at. Beauty will fade but character never.
Very true, if we choose cause of beauty alone then we might be leaving cause things and situations would get ugly.
Love can be unpredictable at times, for we ourselves sometimes don't understand it, but we just got to keep pursuing it.
Yes, if love Is the basis then its good, however if its not love but mere infatuation of looks then one has to revisit that decision.
Being inlove with a persons flaws is one of a great things that we need in a relationship. Love the person inside and out. Love the person not just base on his/her look, looks can be deceiving, looks will change as we grow old, but a pure heart will stay until we leave this earth. Love a person because you love them.
Looks indeed can be deceiving, we need to love rightly and for the right reasons.