Its not enough to see the bold faces and hard body built and feel they are impenetrable, no one is impenetrable. Even the strongest of men can get broken by situations that's gone past their control. We need to constantly pay attention to everyone who matters to us, because we can't possibly pay attention to everyone else, so we pay attention to those who are within our reach. No minding how they look or who they are, or how they appear, looks aren't emotions, looks are way different from emotions and emotions can make one break or excited.
Many have seen their sons and husband go through emotional trauma and all they said was "you're a man, deal with it as a man", as though therapy comes automatically as a man, as though God inputted a strong impenetrable gene in all men, so that things dont get to us. As much as this is wrong, its currently the stereotype of people's thought currently. Growing up with this school of thought has made many sink in the feelings within themselves, feelings so toxic to the body and should be left out are being sunk in till we can bear no more.
Pour it out, its paramount we know how to really care for ourselves, I don't mean the actual doctors syringe and prescribed drugs, I mean the actual care for our heart. No only are sickness caused from external organism, it can very much be caused from the inside, emotions too can give way to the craziest of sickness and to this men are not excluded, even the strong men are not immune to it. Checking the rate of high BP and it's high increasing effect on men, you could feel its should be from the excessive salt intake or cholesterol, but then when the doctor asks what have you been thinking about, you'll know there's more to it.
A man really can break down, and it should be accepted in the society, the environment should recognize this fact and make it a norm, this way it could seek ways out to proffer likely solutions. Likely solutions and likely preventions to prevent it from hurting so deep. Some days they are so deep in debt that they are in a verge of being humiliated or embarrassed and all we can do for them is to expect them to find a way out of the mood themselves, without knowing what is really going on, even when we know sometimes, we'd still want them to be fine and be a man. Other times they might have been heart broken from a relationship and still not allowed to cry out the feelings, expecting that they just get off it with a snap of the finger.
It's fine to be secretive, it's fine to be strong enough to deal with the issues yourself, it's fine to not want to bother anyone about your businesses but it's also fine to let someone in. Not everyone ofcourse then that would be a crowd. Let's someone in at least, someone who can listen and care, this really does help. They say a problem shared is a problem half solved and this is all because the heartfelt words are gradually leaving the heart to the environment and this is just like breathing. Same way we breathe out the carbon dioxide which is not needed by us, same way the heart needs to let go of those burdens.
Many times I've heard people say oosh I really needed to get that off my chest. Like yea we need to, taking it all in would mostly lead to an emotional breakdown even as guys. We can only act up for so long but we know when we've really had it to the brim. A lady could easily cry and get everyone petting trying to put her back in mood, telling her all the right words she needed to hear, shocking among those trying to put her in mood would be guys too. However when the tables turn and a guy cries, wait a guy cries, everyone is already laughing, taking him for a weakling, this is wrong and is the cause of many emotional breakdown between men, we need to know it's ok to pour it out.
If you ever gets close to a man be ready to give him the supports he deserves, already life mandates so much responsibilities from us, to which we all want to accomplish in the shortest time possible. therefore the quest for success Is hitting so hard on us. Should any still be lacking behind while his mates are making headlines, reaching their goal, that man begins to question his competence. Now imagine a time like this, which is a very sensitive moment, a little more frustration could lead to total giving up, and his friends and family or spouses are not encouraging, then they aren't helping matters, similarly we men can help matters by talking to someone about how we feel, then help can surface.
Well I'm not saying a man should cry at every slight hurt, we still maintain the pride we have, but in situations you know are soon to burst from within, then I guess its best we deal with it the right way, the right way Is by letting it out, crying if need be, explaining to someone and even therapy is cases be more severe. Emotional breakdown are real, in fact so real and more men are falling victims without having permitted Avenues to pour them out. You know its very ok for men to be vulnerable too at times, so they can quickly get back on their feet. Even the strongest of men breaks too, and its completely fine.
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