Friend is something that we treasure in this life. Something that we search and find to the people around us. We came to meet other people and build good camaraderie. We share and comfort each other, but when we should consider someone as a friend?
This question is very subjective that the answer is dependent on who you ask.
I had this new found friend in my neighborhood. We knew each other for quite sometime but we get close to each other just few months ago. She is older than me and I used to call her ate (big sister). She had this bubly but restrictive personality. We goes along very well and we had so many similarities. If I should point out the reason why I consider her a friend I must say it is because of few reasons.
She consider me as friend.
It is important to identify if that person you consider a friend treat you the same way. I found out that this new found friend of mine consider me her friend as well. How did I know?
Because she told me and prove to me. By the time we had each other I don't see her with lots of friends it's because she doesn't consider everybody a friend. And she told me she chooses who she would consider one. As what she said which I would agree " not everybody you consider friend is true and honest". That's why I also apply that to her and observe her. Then the next few reasons would justify that she indeed consider me as a friend and I would love to do the same as well.
She cared for me.
Whenever I had issues and I shared it to her, she cared for me genuinely. How did I know? I felt her sincerity. Since she is older than me I could learn few things from her especially that like me she also experience hardships in life. She shared good things to ponder and she would always remind me of good decisions in life. When people think of my welfare and tell me good things for my own good, I could feel and tell that they cared for me. And I would consider them my friend.
She is honest.
She is really honest when it comes to things. I like straight forward people who tell me directly where did I go wrong but not in a harsh way. I like people who won't sugar coat words just to please others. She is indeed a friend. She would share to me things without filter especially on how she felt or her opinion towards me and my actions. She would rather come to me and tell me directly rather than asked other people or worst gossip. Like me, she hate gossiping.
She trusted me.
Trust is very important to all types of relationship in life. It is an indication that a person rely on you and consider you as part of them, when they trust you. I could since the trust that she gave to me. By the time she open her life to me; herself, her house, and her business, everything. I am very careful towards it for me not to break it. The trust that she give is the foundation of the friendship that she offers to me. Thus I would keep it intact and I would do the same to her.
She doesn't judge me.
We choose friend who accept us whole and never judge us for who we are. This person doesn't judge me. She always reminded me that we are human beings and we are not perfect. She always tell me "who am I to judge". I appreciate and value her because of that. I could open up to her without second thought because I know she won't judge me. That is the best part that I found in her. I found no judgement with her that even my family sometimes failed to do. I can be myself around her. My childish, bubly and out-going personality seems to be around with her.
I can count on her.
We always find someone who we can count on. I only had few people that I count on when things get tough and when life gets rough. And she's one of these few people in my life. I had countless times that she got my back. Not just emotionally, physically but also financially. And I am happy and grateful that I had her in my life. She is a sister that I never had.
Friendship could be found in anyone around us. May it be our neighbors, our classmates, our family or the people that we meet in the street. Life gets easier when we have someone we call a friend. When we do have them we must value them and appreciate them. We could do that by doing the same to them. Be their friend, care and trust them, never judge them and be their for them when they needed someone.
Friendship is not just found, it should be built not by one but with people involved.
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How bout you? When would you consider a friend?
Sometimes you meet a person and you just click—you’re comfortable with them, like you’ve known them your whole life, and you don’t have to pretend to be anyone or anything. A true friend accepts who you are, but also helps you become who you should be. 😊😊😊😊