Marrying Late An Issue
I will marry you when I grew up and we will end up together in future. Aww, such sweet words I may have said this to someone I can't remember about her though, lol.
What triggered me to write about this topic is that yesterday I got a wedding card from one of my uncles who is now an adult of 35-38 years of age, I can't confirm it. He is like a bro to me irrespective of the age.
He works in the medical department as a sort of Assistant in the Pathology Lab and was earning from the year 2012 to 2013 back when I was in my school days. We played cricket with each together as we grew up.
He was given lots of proposals of marriage at a young adult age as he got the job very early but he didn't accept any, the reason is unknown.
So I and my friends decided to congratulate him and we called him in a field nearby to talk and congratulate him. We pulled lots of teasing and jokes, and all of us including him were enjoying each other's company. And out of curiosity, I asked him, why didn't you marry earlier, you had everything? A question which anyone would hate. But since he was an adult already and he knew my motive was to learn something. As I will never push others' buttons, lol if I don't see them as brothers or sisters.
The smiling face turned into a saddening face. He said in a serious tone, listen guys I need to tell you an important life lesson and mistake which you shouldn't do.
He said - I didn't marry early so that I can enjoy my life and save enough money for my family but after hitting the age of 30, not many suitors were accepting his request due to the age gap. Mostly in India majority of people do arrange marriage and he was like a family guy, even if he has some close friends he never thought of them that way.
He said it was a mistake for him to marry late, as now he calculated that he will reach the age of 50 when his children would cross the age of 18. And you know today's people life living in cities isn't more than 60-70 years. He said his sugar level is also in the danger zone. Another thing he mentioned his father is very old now and probably not in the condition to even attend the marriage. His father is in the age of 61. His grandparents won't be able to take care of his children in future as they are already weak and old.
He said he was thinking of living a single life because it's better that way but after the age of 30, his thoughts and mindset changed as if what to do with all this saved up money, he was feeling lonely. He said he was determined earlier but the situations and conditions totally changed his way to live in future.
Final Thoughts
This post isn't pushing you to do marriage, lol. Just sharing with you some words that with time a person's situation and thoughts can change and depending on the situation it can be either bad or good.
To me, the ideal age should be 25-30 for both men and women. But I know unemployed ones can't even dream of it, haha. Because it will become a heavy liability and responsibility if you try to make a family without any daily income.
Living single is peaceful if you have a lively company. Otherwise one may fall into loneliness.
At present we may prefer the single life but we may not enjoy it for longer period in future just like what happened with my friend or uncle, heh-e. So choose your future wisely. Early, late everyone has different choices. This post isn't justifying anything. As in many cases both early and late couples live their best lives.
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It is false to make conslusion on seeing one man lives my friend. Yeah whether you marry early or late both have pros and cons. So, I believe we must understand each other partnership , we must accept the reality and live on.
In marriage , we can't always search benefits, we need to compromise in some aspects too my dear.