My Ex wants us to be friends

2nd, January 2022.

I don't know what to do! My ex-girlfriend/boyfriend just messaged me and wants us to be friends. What should I do?

Let's say you got these message from your friend, what advice would you give?

Well, I feel that it all depends on what you want. If you're looking for closure, talking to your ex might be the best way to get it. However, if you're still harbouring feelings for them, it might be better to stay away.

When you break up with someone, the idea of continuing to have a relationship with them can be really daunting. You may be wondering if it's really worth it - can you really be friends with your ex?

It all depends on the situation. If you're still hurting from the breakup, it might not be the best idea to try and be friends straight away. Likely, you'll just end up getting hurt again.

However, if you've both had some time to process the breakup and you're both ready to be friends, then it can definitely work. Just make sure that you take things slow and don't jump into anything too quickly.

At the end of the day, it's up to you whether or not you want to be friends with your ex. But, if you do decide to try it out, just make sure that you're careful and take things at your own pace.

It depends on what you want. If you want to stay friends, then go ahead and chat away. But if you're not interested in remaining friends, then you should probably steer clear. It can be tough to stay friends with an ex, but if you're up for the challenge, it can be a great way to stay connected.

I don't think it's a bad idea to talk to your ex as long as you have boundaries. If you're just catching up on old times or trying to get back together, it's probably not going to work out well. But if you can be friends and stay civil, then it might be worth a shot.

I just feel it can be tough when an ex wants to stay in touch. On one hand, you may feel like it's a good way to stay friendly and on good terms. But on the other hand, you may worry that it could lead to renewed feelings or drama.

There's no right or wrong answer - it's entirely up to you! If you do decide to chat with your ex, be clear about your boundaries and expectations. And if things get complicated, be sure to talk to a friend or therapist for support.

So, you're saying that you want to be friends with your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend. You're not sure what to do because you don't want to seem needy, but you also don't want to lose the opportunity to be friends.

Well, the first thing that you need to do is assess what you want out of the friendship. Do you want to stay friends because you still have feelings for them? Or do you want to be friends because you want to keep tabs on them? Once you figure out your motivations, you'll be able to better communicate them to your ex. If they still have feelings for you, they may be more likely to want to stay friends. If they're just looking for a way to keep tabs on you, they may not be as interested.

The majority would say they don't see any harm in it, and it could actually be really beneficial for you.

That, First of all, it'll give you closure and allow you to move on.

Secondly, it'll show your ex that you're mature and capable of having a civil conversation.

Finally, it could even re-spark old feelings, and reignite the flame between the two of you. If you're still interested in getting back together, this could be the perfect opportunity.

In any case, you must be honest with your ex about your intentions.

Let's say you also got this message from your friend, what advice would you give?