Unpopular Opinion: It's Not As Easy As People Think

"If you ask me, I'd say being super attractive is both a blessing and a curse in disguise, as far as things of the heart are concerned" - Talon

I got know about this prompt from @Gianna-B 's article. Time to dive into it. Before I even get to dissecting this prompt, let's talk about what exactly is attractiveness. I'm only doing this because it seems like most people automatically associate attractiveness with facial beauty or 'well developed' a*s and b**bs. I'm not going to say they are wrong, but isn't that a bit too simplistic??

There are all sort of attractiveness and it depends on who you're asking. For example, sapiosexuals do not care for how you look or how well your erotic areas are developed. All they care about is how intelligent and smart you are. That's what attracts them. While I could go on and on about this, I would rather just assume that attractiveness here refers to facial and sexual attractiveness.

It is a highly known but little discussed secret that people that are very attractive are mostly the worst when it comes to handling or holding on to a relationship. Let me clarify here that I'm not generalizing, as not all of them are having such issues. This tells that it's not necessarily inherent in us, it's an acquired social construct. There's probably more a hundred reasons while it's so.

In the world right now, the ability to be with one woman at a time is considered a feat. This is because for every one man, there are probably four women out there. If you happen to be attractive (in whatever sense), you'll definitely get a lot of unsolicited attention and quite a number of advances depending.....

With such a situation, you hardly feel secure in a relationship with an attractive person, especially when that attractive person is always jovial and plays with everybody, without appropriate boundaries, as you like there to be. The fear of not being good enough for that attractive partner can be very real.

With such number and quality of interest and advance, the partner won't be settled cos he or she might be afraid that something they can't say no to, will come around some day, especially whenever they are fighting or having a squabble.

If you're the attractive one in such a relationship, it's important you establish iron-cast level trust, and always flaunt your partner in public too. Another way this insecurity becomes a problem is that the relationship will soon begin to look one-sided as the inadequate partner tries to overcompensate in service. This would eventually cause guilt in the attractive one, and this can cause him/her to walk away if it feels like the thing for everyone.

There's also the fact that these people usually end up in relationships where they are kind of trophy partners. Where their supposed partners do not really know them and isn't attracted to anything or than that facial and/or sexual attractiveness. It's usually one of the biggest fears of such people when they are in a relationship.

There's also the twist that arises from this reality. People of this kind never really get settled or fully commit in a relationship for the fear of the above, investing one part of themselves in their relationships and preparing the other part to brace for impact of the drop, when they possibly realize their fear wasn't unfounded.

There's also the fact that some attractive people kind of get punished for being attractive. What do I mean? Take for example, a very very beautiful girl. Most people who are attracted to her won't even bother to compliment her or approach her, because they believe there's no way one can be that beautiful and still be single/available.

On a normal day, even if an attractive person ain't single, people will still make advances, but there's a level of beauty that can cause the general public to decide that you're meant for the high and mighty of the society,hence they won't even try. There are so many beautiful girls who aren't in a relationship or have had their relationship fail because of this. For a guy in this situation, no girl will ever really take him seriously, cos they'd think he's just trying to play them, use and dump them, as there's no way they'll believe he's single.

There are other things of course that stands in their way. Although these are misconceptions, these people live the consequences of this misconception everyday. For example, beautiful and attractive people are easily labeled as proud, arrogant, player, manipulator etc.

Closing Thoughts

I could go on and on about it and this article might end up being ten minutes read and I'll still won't be done. But the truth is that, while this attractiveness might open certain doors, it does add a layer of extra burden for those born with it. To enjoy the blessings of love and relationship, they are indirectly required to do more, to prove they are for real. For some, these burdens is eventually dropped when they're lucky to hit the jackpot in a good partner that trusts them fully. For most, they don't get so lucky and usually have to live their lives trying to prove they are deserving of love and relationship as equals for more than half the time of the relationship. Worse still for some others,this yolk is never taken away.

If you ask me, I'd say being super attractive is both a blessing and a curse in disguise, as far as things of the heart are concerned

In many ways, it's not as easy a life as most people think. All of the things listed above usually end up serving as strains that often more than not, leads to the end of any romantic relationship these kind of people manage to get/build from time to time.

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