11 Tips For Men: A Cheat Sheet For Avoiding A Life Off Misery
Men face a major challenge in navigating a complicated modern world. Few of us have had any meaningful male leadership, and most of us struggle in the face of a brazenly anti-male society. To make something of ourselves, we need all the support we can get. Here are some ideas. They could be of immense help to you.
You Must Take Responsibility For Everything
Society expects men to have a handle on everything. You can’t expect anyone to help you up when you’re down. This is a good thing because it teaches us early on that it’s all on you. The minute you blame others for your misfortune is the moment you embody the frail figure of a victim, and you will make life impossible for you.
Women Will Never Love You Unconditionally
A lot of personal heartache would have been avoided had I seen this. As soon as we signal that we no longer have our stuff together, we could lose her, and ‘love’ will have nothing to do with it. ‘Love’ relies on many variables being in place, from self-confidence to your access to resources and demonstrating your ability to provide, to holding your emotional frame. You are not entitled to her because you both have heartbeats. She is earned (and so are you).
Happiness Is A Choice
Happiness is never conditional on your life being a certain way. You don’t suddenly become ‘happy’ when you reach a particular milestone. Thinking this means you are continually chasing and continually unhappy. No - happiness is a decision. One you make every day as you start the day fresh.
Marriage Is The Most Significant Risk A Man Can Take Today
Think extremely carefully before opening yourself up to potentially huge losses surrounding divorce in the context of a court system that is rigged against men. Many men have lost decades of their lives because they jumped into formal marriage agreements with little preparation. Get prepared, or seek alternatives to formal, state-tied contractual marriage agreements.
Porn Use Puts You At A Major Disadvantage
Porn is not like it was in the 1970s. I feel sorry for guys who get hooked at a young age. It is akin to getting addicted to the most potent drug. You are losing every day that you continue to open up your soul to the demonic energy of modern pornography. Stop; go through your withdrawals, and return to being human again.
Never Take Anything Personally
A common trend among struggling men is their making everything about them. They think it’s ‘alpha’ to get offended over someone seemingly giving them disrespect. I see my past self in them, and I see a weak man. Instead, approach life with a light-heartedness that acknowledges the ultimate meaningless of your ego. This is true strength.
Showing Your Emotions Is Not A Strength
Crying in front of your partner might be all the rage right now, but it will lose you respect. There may be a place for it as catharsis in a men’s group or in therapy, but not elsewhere. Society doesn’t want overly emotional men. It is craving stoic men who we can rely on for their stability. Sure be human - laugh, smile, be playful - express yourself, but don’t release your emotions unnecessarily just because Oprah said so to an applauding crowd.
Being Nice Is A Losing Strategy
Many men take on the ‘nice guy’ strategy to get their way in life, owing to a sense of insecurity they have about themselves. They believe something is wrong with them (thanks, society), and they compensate with niceness. Don’t go there. Serve. Be real. Be valuable. Be willing to upset other people if it ultimately serves them. This is to live with honesty and integrity as a man.
Stress Is Not Circumstantial
Men are experiencing stress at massive levels. They are killing themselves in vast numbers each week because of stress. Much of this would be avoided when more men realise that stress is internally-generated. Managing our thoughts and letting go of rumination is the solution.
Learn How To Make Good Money Quickly
Yes, happiness and money are not directly correlated, but you want your foundational income in place as soon as possible. Spending your life stressed about money will set you back and weaken you physically and mentally. An energised man knows how to enter the marketplace and make money when he needs to.
Aesthetics Matter
The mainstream media will tell us otherwise, but they are lost. How you look and the degree to which you take care of yourself physically significantly affect how others perceive you. Do everything you can to maximise your appearance given the cards you were dealt. Don’t rest on your laurels around this. Your appearance requires continual maintenance.
Final Thoughts
Whatever you do, do not allow society to make you feel small or inadequate because of your gender, just because it’s trendy. Never apologise for who you are and go for what you want.
Recap, 11 Tips For Energised Men
Take responsibility for everything
Women won't love you unconditionally
Happiness is a choice
Marriage is a risk
No porn
Don't take things personally
Showing emotion is not strength
Don't be nice
Stress is not external
Learn to make money quickly
How you look matters
These are thoughts of a friend of mine. The words are totally his. No subtraction or addition from me. I would like to here your take and opinions on these matters in the comment section below. Thanks for making time to read this article of mine
Yes,i agree that happiness is a choice and contentment is related into it... Money is important as it is needed in daily living, so men or women should be financially stable as possible before entering into marriage.