Old Filipino Norms That Needs To Be Changed
In the world we are living today, there are norms that we can always find everywhere. As the world evolve some of it are changing too however some continue to remain throughout the time like a standing still statue. This article is not intend to bring down other people but based on the current happenings inside the society and for me it's time for us to wake up from this nightmare.
It is so sick to live in a place where everyone thought something is okay but in reality it's not. It is like being stuck inside the box and you have no choice but to stick to it until someone will take you away from it. This is what happening to the society today and how Filipino seems to believe that these things throughout our daily lives are acceptable simply because they think it is all fair.
Do not talk back to elders
My father is living a wrong mindset about this. Whenever there's a chaos at home, he always wanted to talk so much and punish us physically whenever we talk back. How are we going to say the things we want to say if we cannot speak for it? It is a toxic culture in Filipino that when you talk back to elders you are disrespecting them. It is a form of communication when a human talk back especially if the words spoken are decent then there's nothing wrong in talking back. Let us cut the one sided talk and speak what should be spoken.
As a child you should pay back to your parents one day
We always hear about being grateful towards our parents. Yes we should always be but what about when you are given all the responsibilities as a breadwinner for the whole member of the family inside the house? It is very wrong. I have made an article before where I talk about "A child is not an investment." This got so many reactions. It is not okay to raise your child as an investment fund for the future.
It's okay for a young boy to enter a relationship but not to a young girl
This is one of the commons norms where a Filipino parent is excited to see their young son getting a girlfriend for the first time but not to their young daughter. The young daughter is always reminded to study first before entering a relationship while they are pushing the young son to court a girl. This is like a gender discrimination and biases. It's time to treat both gender fairly and equally without favoritism.
Having a backer in the job
Mostly, when you apply for a job here in Philippines you will only be hired once you have a "backer." A backer is someone who are in the highest position and has a great influence to a certain job. If you have a backer, you'll easily land a job but if you have none then expect that you will not be the priority.
You are selfish if you refuse to give
If you are living a good life and somebody ask to lend a money but you refuse it then you will loathed as a selfish person. For me, rejecting for a valid reason is understandable besides you have work hard for the money you earned. Most of the time, lending money will make them think that it's okay to borrow over and over again and if you will refuse you will be called selfish in the end.
Not because the society normalize a certain thing doesn't mean it is right or acceptable. We need to have an inmate awareness and knowledge that some things shouldn't be tolerated. They need to be cut and they need to be change. I strongly believe that it only takes a person to change the world and the society. May it be you who will change it and break the wrong stigma. Society can mold us at the same point they can destroy us one by one. We shouldn't let these things be happening and have voice on our own to speak the things that we know is right.
March 9, 2022
All these points you noted are typically correct when looking at is from the perspective you saw it. The first one, TALKING BACK AT ELDERS, it's very bad when someone is not allowed to express himself because the the opposite person is an elder. It's very bad