Do not Blame Jerry for Tom's Fault

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3 years ago

Here is one more interesting proverb, that I would love to use as a topic for an article. I am sure that you have already heard this proverb, and now I would love to talk about it a bit.

From this proverb we can see something very important. Fault is sometihng personally. Fault is connected to person. If Tom has done something, only one who can be fault for that is Tom. Jerry cannot take it from him. Jerry can not be responsible one. Nobody, except Tom can be responsible for what Tom has done. Tom knew what he was doing. He wanted it, he wanted to make it, to do it, to skip it. He wanted consequences, and even if he did not wanted that, he knew that consequences can come. In that case he accpeted it.

Source: NursingStandard

When I have said all those thing about responsibility, fault and the one who should accept it. ]

But, there is always a 'but', andf that but sometimes can destroy everything.

What when we are Tom?

What when we are the guilty one?

What about our fault?

What about bad consequences that we caused. What are we going to do? Who do we blame for the bad things that we are doing? Well, sometimes we are blaming some other people for bad things that we are doing.

Of course, sometimes, we are making mistakes while we are wanting to do good things. As you already know, way to the hell is paved with the best intentions. It is normal to do some bad things by accident. But, when that happends, accept it. Do noy try to find the culprit in someone else. Even if you did not wanted it. Instead of trying someone to put your guilt on him, look around and see what you can change. Give your best to change things that still can be changed.

Even if all other people accept that someone else is guilty, and not you, you will not accept it. Deep inside of yourself, you will know that you did that. You made a mistake, and instead of being strong and correncting it, you put someone else in a problem. So, you made two problems.

Source:Psychology Today

That will just make you feel even worse. You will feel bad for what you have done. And, you will feel bad for that innocent person, who now has a problem because of you.

Now, I undesrand that some people have problems with accpeting bad things that they have done. They feel like they are not good enough, like they are not worthy to be where they are and have what they have.

You are worthy, even if you are mistaking, even if you are doing bad things, even if you feel like you cannot control the situation. That is okay. You will be okay. You should concentrate to correcting your mistakes, and fixing situations. If you can destroy it, you can also fix it. Just calm down, confess that you did it, and see what you can do to fix what can be fixed.

That was it. I just wanted to say this to you, and I hope that you will think about this. I hope that this will make you make a change. Small change is better than no change. Just make that first step. Step that will bring you a bit closer to the better version of yourself.

That was it.

See you in next article very soon!

xoxo,
SuncicaZ!

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Every man sins, let someone tell me that he has never made a mistake or done something bad to someone, or that someone has done something bad to him, but that is why it is human to know how to forgive people, to know how to say sorry to someone we have done wrong or done something bad. one looks at the greatness of man

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Everyone is old enough to accept responsibility for what they did, looking for the culprit in another is a sign of immaturity.

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3 years ago

You are totally right that is a sing of immaturity! When we grow up, we should learn to accept our mistakes.

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3 years ago

As far as I know for myself, as an older sister, I was guilty when my younger brother did something stupid, after that it was transferred to the school period, etc, etc ... all that was accompanied by the famous song Bora Čorba, Žika Živac is the culprit on duty :D As time went on I learned to deal with it ;)

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3 years ago

Well, for mistakes that our younger siblings are making, we are almost always guilty. Those situations are not very dangerous, but they can make bad habits.

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3 years ago

Well, for mistakes that our younger siblings are making, we are almost always guilty. Those situations are not very dangerous, but they can make bad habits.

Luckily, the situation changes as a person matures

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3 years ago

If someone guilty or done bad thing that he(she must to take responsability for his(her own mistake.I would never said that someone else is guilty if I done mistake.

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3 years ago

Person who made a mistake, should learn whatever can be learned from that mistake.

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3 years ago

When I hide something, I admit it :) useful and very interesting written

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3 years ago

We should be ready to confess when we do something wrong. Mistakes are okay, they are usual and they are important part of every person's life.

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3 years ago

I have both Tom and Jerry in my life: D we should accept our mistakes and say sorry when we make a mistake, and not hide behind other people's backs. Nice article, hello

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3 years ago

We should never try to make outher people seem guilty for sometihng what we have done. That is not good for those people, and also is not good fro us.

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3 years ago

we all have one Tom in the house, when he does something wrong he blames the others

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That is almost usual, we all have at least one Tom, unfortunately.

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