The concept of Marriage differs among people in different places. Its purpose and how it is often seen differs among many people owning to diversities of religious beliefs and personal beliefs. So I will be discussing about its concept both from the religion point of view and from other point of view not relating to religious beliefs.
God ordained marriage and he has a motive for doing that. Marriage by God is to promote companionship and also for procreation and enjoyment. It's often considered sacred as God commanded that marriage should be done by pure partners. God frowns at defilement and therefore people going into marriage must be pure most especially sexually. Marriage is founded because God realized that it is needed to curb loneliness and weariness of Adam back in the first days
Looking at marriage from another perspective. Marriage is another form of union which when formed help to strengthen social cohesion and of course is needed for the continuous survival of human race. Some regarded marriage as a just means to satisfy sexual urges. Sociologists opined that marriage is a social construct and is cultural universal. That is, it occurs almost in every societies or places.
Though the objectives of marriage over the ages still remain the same, marriage has taken the form of dynamism. How it is done and the procedures in doing it has taken new forms in the contemporary age. Long time ago marriage can be done just within the confines of the families alone. Blessings are shared between the partners solemnly by their family without noise which of course has taken a little change presently. People now wed in churches, mosques, temples or in court (Court Marriage).
In light of the recent developments. It is only logical that you don't bump into marriage without any motive. Many entered into marriage for wrong reasons why many simply enter without any reasons at all. These two set of people will always have marital challenges because marriage is a lifelong journey, let's regard it as a journey of permanence. This discourse is not aimed at knowing what challenges they will go through, instead it aim at letting people understand what they need to know before going into marriage. I will be discussing some of the things you need to be prepared for and know before going into marriage. If you want to read on why marriages crash often in our present time, you can read it here,
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1. Financial Commitment. You see, you must be prepared financially before you marry. This is very vital and important, marriage comes with many expenses and spendings. You need to spend during your wedding and of course after that. It's not that you have to be excessively rich before you can marry but you can't be poor too and be considering marriage. Have some streams of income which will help you in meeting some of the financial challenges eventually when you get married. You need to take care of your family and you can't do that without money. This is what differentiate a ready man and a teen in the issue of marriage. It's expected that the ready man knows how much financial sacrifice he has to offer to keep his marriage. Have a good plan for your family, don't rush if you aren't ready financially.
2. Beauty is not enough. If you are considering a lasting marriage permit me to say this, beauty shouldn't be only the prerequisite for marriage. There are other things you need to know about your partners. Keeping a lasting marriage sometimes doesn't have anything to do with beauty. The fact is that study her character too and check if you are comfortable with that habit. Sincerely old habits die hard and beauty is ephemeral. There's some time in marriage when you will realize that the beauty you once cherished has been depreciated, all you will see is the actual person he or she is with their character and traits. Don't marry only because of her sexy body which will fade along the way, marry her because of something worth more, something of substance.
Know who she is both in her manner of approach and how she talks. "Better to live on the roof than share the house with a nagging wife"(Proverbs 21:9)
Check out the level of neatness. All these may be insignificant to you but they really matters. You don't want to marry a woman who can't keep a room clean
3. No perfect partner. You must have heard the saying that nobody is perfect. Well the same goes for people in marriage too. Marriage can only work if the partners want it so. It's not one sided. There's no perfect somebody anywhere, that's why you need to have tolerance before embarking on voyage of marriage. In marriage there's no perfect person, you need to work together as a whole, identity your strengths and work on your weaknesses together. If you can't exercise a lot of patience when dealing with matters please don't go into marriage. Marriage is for those who are emotionally matured and can watch out each other's backs. You don't always have to prove yourself as "Mr always right" in marriage, you won't gain anything from it.
There are many things that are needed to know before marrying. It's not just something to rush into. Take time to reach out to happy people that have been in marriage for quite some times and learn from them. Learn from their mistakes in order to improve yourself.
Great post, knowledge is needed in every aspect of life and marriage own is very important