@Calis

My first time in my hometown Living in Lagos Nigeria is good aside the stress and all that, basically I was born and brought up in Lagos State having no knowledge of me visiting my hometown as an infant even though I saw some pic taking by my parents as withness and souvenir for future purpose. So a day came when my dad told me we would be traveling down to my hometown for the xmas celebration I was super excited, being able to withness how Xmas is been celebrate in my hometown got me on my toes, my heart was racing all throughout the day that i couldn't contain my joy so I had to rush down to my friends place to boast about it,I was like hey ifeanyi guess what my dad is taking me and my siblings to the village,we are traveling this Xmas to my hometown The day came we board a bus going to our destination,first we took a bus to the park before boarding the bus,we board the young shall grow motors,one thing I noticed at the park is you don't need to buy anything before coming to the park as literally you can buy anything you need for your journey use or to feed on at the village in the park, people carrying all sort of things for sale ranging from soft drinks,mp3,phones,rice, Bible,stove, fruits, biscuits e.t.c All throughout the journey I couldn't sleep was just looking out through the window feeding my eyes as the vehicle moves by and reminiscing how it would be at the village the fun,and the big boy shakara I would do at the village On getting to our juntion we took a taxi to my father's house,as the taxi drove into the the compound people where coming out of there houses to know who is back because people have started coming back from there various places of residence for the celebration,I was so crazily shy that I couldn't come down from the taxi,I mean all the people that surrounded the taxi to welcome us and laughing with my parents in greetings and the teens or should I say the children like I made me so uncomfortable,it's like that feeling when you newly transfer to a school in the middle of a term session, so i had to come out when my father told us to come down from the vehicle. It was fun all throughout after I started mixing in with the kids,hey this are my extended family and some are my age mate as I was told by my parents so I needed to know more about them,so one of the day as early as 5.00am when the roosters crow in the morning my mom got up to tidy the environment by 6.30am my cousin brother came by to call on me to go to stream with them of which my mom gave me a 10 liter plastic container to make use of in fetching the water,we got to the stream, oh my GOD was it lovely hell yeah it was absolute beautiful the way the waters was flowing the green environment there,the butterfly's flying from one leaf flower to the other it was a site to behold which was cut short when it was time to go as I watched my cousin brothers all lifted their water containers up to their heads but I couldn't which got me so embarrassed due to the pretty girls that went with us and my cousin brothers of same age with me, damn one of them had to drop his in order to assist me put mine on my head a day I would never forget My best part was mostly some of the days when our mom's, mind and my cousin brothers mom would take us all to the stream and we would swim for hours which was so fun and it build up my skills for swimming,so literally speaking I would say my first time at my hometown was fun and gave me insight on who I am older than as to know my place in the community in case for the future.

The nourishment of the soul through gospel music The fact that spiritual realm controls the physically without a doubt is the truth and the reality of all living things on earth just like the monks believe that there is a jin to ever yin hope I got it right, what it simple means is that there is light and darkness, truth and lie, bad and good e.t.c, we need to understand this and how they work according to them in order to keep our attitude,mind and soul at bay. The soul is an absorber meaning that what ever your brain gets programed to do or perform has an effect on our soul of which when absorbed negative thoughts damages our soul, according to the scripture what ever a man thinks of in his heart is who he is for a man who sees a woman and start having fantasies about how it would be to bed her is bad for such thought has the ability to condemned the soul not only because its a sin but because the brain might start mutating into recording such act and repeating it when ever a woman of such spec pass by the man which might lead the man to commit adultery or rape because the brain has been over empahasised on such thought. The soul is so important to every man because it controls our consience and a man without consience is seen as a devil for he or she exhibit acts that gets one dumbfounded at such inhuman such act is and people would say that such person he or she is possessed which is the truth for no man is without a soul as pure as a dove at child birth but our decision shapes our soul. GOD is so interested in our soul same as the devil for the soul symbolism the man we are, just this should tell you how important it is in the spiritual realm So it is important that we give to our soul things that would uplift it reason I said gospel music, playing gospel music when you are alone at home or in a quiet place would make tears drop from your eyes when you are so immersed in the worship that at such hour make you feel light like something has left your body something heave a burden weighing down on you Please guild your soul so as not to feel regret in life for a man who condemned himself is as good as a body without an owner always feed it the word's of life, love and peace.

My first time wooing a girl as a youthful male in Nigeria It was a good day the sun was smilting down on me like it intend to fry me,which was so uncomfortable as the ceiling on in the factory was adding more issue to it,well yes I was working for one of the factory company in Lagos as I need some money if I am going to get some of the things i need to make life more easy for myself before heading to the university back then,so on this fateful day I was told by my supervisor to go to the ladies section to collect something from the supervisor over there for him,as I walked to the place dogging the sunlight not to shine on me and get me sweating more than I already was,on getting to the entrance without a doubt you could tell that this is truly the females section because of the noise coming out from there like a market place,gosh!! So on entry the section my eyes started to feed himself with different type of beautiful ladies there with each having a unique kind of different shape,leg,head but the most thing my eye was looking at was the size of their breast,the size of their ass,then I looked at my right and saw this damsel or my God she was very beautiful,such a gorgeous looking bebe so I walked up to her and ask her that am looking for their supervisor "Mrs Stella by name"she directed me to where I would see her but I was already so immersed by her eye 👁️ colour that while she was talking to me and giving me direction to were I would see their supervisor i was not aware when she stop talking due to how lost I was in those eyes,so I meet with the supervisor and completed my giving task. I just couldn't keep it to my self so I went to my pal to tell him what I just saw over there,I was like bro if you see this girl my God she literally looks like an artwork done by a good and talented artist,equally I told him that her beauty was not what got me hooked at her but her eye colour and how it looks like they are wispering and communicating to me,she has a deep dark Irish with a pupil that has a light dark colour of the moon shadowing in the stream at 11.00pm. all throughout that week I was looking for every chance to see her if it's to go out of the company early and hang around so that when she is coming during closing hour I would act like I forgot something and needed to go back to the company which will in turn provide me a chance to thereby take a look once more at her eyes,i would have approach her but the fear of rejection which am not common with is holding me back ,it's all due to the fact that my gees were saying I should forget it as she is a hard nut to crack,that her act of hard to get is on the high level and exhausting because most of them have gone to woo her and It was a failure and they get tired. So on this faithful day I made up my mind to approach her as a man,I mean we both don't work in the same section so even if I get embarrassed by her I know I have a chance of avoiding her and her friends so that she wouldn't see me and say to her friends "*that is the guy I was telling you girls about*" so due to the fact that the company run three shifts and we both were on afternoon shift that week I saw it as an opportunity to do the do.we closed from work after the shift time was up,I came out early to wait for her, when I saw here coming out I acted like I was waiting for someone,she passed with her friends so I started stalking her because I know her friends would take a different path when they get to a particular b/stop,after they did I walked fast to her, approached her an said Me:how far She:I dey ooh Me:men that una place be like market the other day I came there,you ladies can talk for Africa She:na woman matter be that na,naso God creat us Me:did you know I was shocked when I saw you that day She:why Me:your eyes dey seduce me She:how Me:I no even know,your eyes looked very dark coloured and have a part that shine and brightens wey dey entice me She:na you know wetin you dey talk Me: issue dey ooh make e no be say you don't charm me Shay with your eyes She: Abbey ooh,Shay you mean say I be witch abi wetin you dey talk Me:i don't know day one I Shay dey go church vigil on Friday so I go confirm am with my pastor She:chuckling Me:so I hear when your friends were calling you amaka,is that your name "amaka" She:who is amaka Me:ah I thought your name is amaka,so what is your name then She:I don't know Me:what do you mean you don't know is it that you don't have a name. She:yes Me:so you mean your parents didn't give you a name She:yes Me:ah no problem then let me give you a name then since you don't have a name She:na you Sabi To be continued...

Why every man should strive to be a daddy to their kids and not just a father. First of all every man is a father because every man has the tendency to father a child,every man releases semen which will then fertilizes the female EEG to become a baby, only in some situation where the man is facing some challenges that it would seem like he is not complete, but not every man can be called daddy by their kids heart warmly. Who is a father?ever man is a father because that is who we are or are made to be during creation by the almighty "GOD"as long as we have the male sexual organ during birth,but how do we differentia a father from a daddy,well some fathers do display this listed characters of which when you see such display you know where he belongs. Some men think being a father is just providing for the household,sending your kid to school,very bad and most times you will see them not smiling much with their kids but rather would laugh out loud when outside with other people because they see their kids as liability with the need to provide and Carter for them that is why you will see some men stop somewhere to drink and wine before going home so as to take their mode off the thought about their home, because they feel furstrated. Some fathers are like lion of the jungle.you will see their kids playing but immediately they hear the horn of their fathers car or their father greeting people at the compound you will see them quickly run and act like they are sleeping or reading, they will just pretend that they are doing something because they know that fire and brimstone just entered and the peaceful place is now a war zone. Some fathers are fond of manhandling their kids all in the name of discipling them and most times would cause injury on their kids body which might have an effect on them phycologically and grow a seed of hate in them. As much as disciplining your kids is good the act of shouting at them is very bad as it might grow a seed of fear in them and affect then phycologically as well which would push them to all kinds of drugs in order to gain back their confidence. Some fathers lack the act of comforting their kids when they go through hard time,maybe by falling behind in the exam ,the truth is every thing that has life must go through hard time no matter your age only that the levels are different,we are giving trails based on what we can handle in life. Some fathers find it hard to hold or have a conversation or discussion with their kids expecially the male one's, because they have drifted their kids far away from them due to the manner or approach that they take to handle their kids. Some fathers do not talk anything good about their kids when out side or when their child's friends comes visiting,and would not hesitate to compare the poor child with his friends thereby causing him the child to have inferiority complex when around kids of his mate. All this are far from a daddy,a daddy is a man who would go to extra length or mile to make sure they create a child who would be able to withstand what the world have to trow at him by giving him guildance, empowering the child or children emotionality,and having an ear to their hard times or when they need an advise. One should be sound and unbaised when dealing with his or her child for tomorrow or the future.

Reason Why Igbo men sometimes marry late. So a colleague of my at my work place came to work with a suprise that he is getting married,was I shocked? Hell yeah I was,I mean this dude is still at a stage where he should be planning on creating his own investment rather that putting all his hope on the company and getting married at such youthful age which might take a toil on him when kids start coming.am not against early marriage,if there is enough resource to Carter for your family and live comfortably then I see no reason why a youthful person should not get married. So my friend who is planning on getting married is from the south west,to be precise he is "*Yoruba*" and it seems like a given for them to get married early just like the northern part of Nigeria as well,but when it comes to the "*igbo* *tribe*" nope,in Igbo land getting married is good but there are some financial status you must have attained before having the thought of getting married. 1)Igbo men love to be financially self sufficient Igbo men just like men from every other tribe wants to be self sufficient financially,but they seems to take theirs to an extreme by working hard,serving their uncles,brothers e.t.c in order to get settlement money and business ideal to start up their own before starting a family. 2)igbo men do not enjoy their family paying their wife pride prize or sponsoring their wedding fully. No Igbo man like the ideal of receiving assistance in paying their wife pride prize ,am sure someone would ask why is that? well the reason is because nobody is perfect and for that confrontation will likely arise between you and the person who sponsored the pride prize,so for that reason they prefer to hustle enough money to be able to at least pay for that first before involving any other person be it his family or friends for assistance if not having enough,no body wants to hear "I *paid your wife pride prize or if not me would you have married,you that don't have money to pay for your wife pride prize*" 3)igbo people take pride knowing they trained their kids in the university. To tell you the truth no one else will tell you,igbo people are competitive even in a family of two boys not to talk about the extended family,they compete a lot, everybody want to be greater that the other, because in a family meeting or towns meeting he who has more money have already made a point,what ever he says goes,that is how they compete with others in making sure they train their kids so as to stand bold in the community. 4)no igbo man likes child begging One thing Igbo men despise a lot is their children begging in the street,school or community,they see such act as if they have failed in parenting and become ashamed of themselves in their village or hometown gathering.because of such they would rather make their child to like work or go and serve someone just in order to avoid such. The list is much but this is the few that I can come up with,thanks for reading.

Disadvantage of office romance for a hustle youth Ok nobody would denial the fact that been in a healthy relationship is bliss, especially the fun, the trill if your partner is someone that love exploring and do some craze things with you.but does having a relationship with a female who work in the same company,same section with you healthy. *Most youth of this century are more interested with the number of female you have had sex with,they glorify the number like it's an award,price money and wear it like an achievement and having a multiple girls people call your "bebe's" seems like or make most of them feel on top of the world* . Now let me talk about why I said dating a girl working in the same department with you is not good the reason is because.. 1)the act to look good Am sure every male want to be seen as alpha male especially we Africans,every man want authority,to be in a position where people request for your knowledge,seek you attention or your permission before undergoing and doing thing with that in mind every man want to look good,dress well e.t.c,such attitude or behavior is good but you see a hustling guy go to the extreme of buying extravagetly not just for looking good sake but to impress his office girl.now with that mindset you would see some guys spending unnecessary to aquire the best outfit to put on to work which might take a toll on their savings,thereby making them not to plan more and save for their life. 2) distraction Just like I said about some guys trying to look good for their woman with money that should have been put into good use for the betterment of their life and their future thereby distracting them from setting a goal, while some guys are able to balance it,not all are mentally capable of keeping their mind intact without been distracted with all the lovel dovel stuff that comes with being in love .office relationship most time cause lots of distraction from always trying to stay close to her,to mark to other guys that she is yours so they should stay clear, to checking out why she is laughing loud to a coversation she is having with some guy. 3)the mindset of providing for her Most of our ladies are exhibiting entitiment mentality and are somehow demanding,now as a guy hustling and having a girl with such a mindset is like the worst nightmare to ever have reason is because the guy would always be putting more money in his wallet because he don't know what she might request from him or wish to eat and he wouldn't want to be putting her off because of fear to see her being snatch from him. 4) fighting you co worker because of her Tis tis.. making some of your pals enemy just because he talks with her a lot or see her collect something from him.

Masturbation in males,does the gain outweighs the danger. So most people will say that masturbation is equally good for a healthy living,other would say rather than get STD by sleeping with all this girl's around it's best to masturbate till the right one comes,hell yeah but is there no price to pay for such act, truth be said everything that has good might likely have an ugly side except when not taking note of it just like masturbation. But first lets talk about masturbation,one of the best feeling in life is when you are masturbation and that urge to release comes,maybe you hold it a little bit then shoot your cum,gosh that feeling is second to none, then you felt weak and slept it off to wake up recharged after some hours but... Yes that's just it till when next your mind would be drifted to perform the act again,you start asking your self what did you gain from the act,well aside the feeling nothing,but what did you lose to the act 1)*your sanity* Yes you lose your sanity when you get to that point where you notice there is no gain to it but just can't stop performing the act because your brain has now been program to perform it once in a while,you now start getting depressed because you just don't know how to stop it,for it has now become an *addict* 2) you start loosing balance on your feet Take it or not masturbation take away lots of nutrient from you which make you become fragile due to constant involving much in the act 3)you lose nutrient that aids your eye Yes you might start having blurry vision due to lose of nutrient necessary for your body 4) the spiritual dark side of it Of cause it have a negative side to it spiritually,which only when you are observant would notice it but I can't go into this because it has so much many things to talk about,so I would stop here for now.

How stressful being a first son in an average family in Nigeria is. Don't known if it's me,but seriously nothing is as stressful physically as being the first son in a poor family, when I said poor home am not talking about the extreme poor home that can't feed or resolve to street begging, if you can't eat what you feel like eating because of the amount such meal would cost but resolve to eat what would fill your stomach to save for tomorrow meal then you might be poor but there are levels to it.just like someone with a million in account might be said to be rich but in truth such person is poor because a little emergency might blow out the money in a seconds. Now back to the discussion the worst being a first son is getting drain mentally with the thought of how to survive in Nigeria with your siblings on the other side. You are consider to be a second parent in a poor home where you have to provide for the family with what ever you have if you are working,except you are the type that have a heart of stone who would say no,but it's being proven that 75% of all first son are quite, calm, introverted e.t.c Even the cold one's are not left out because of feeling guilt and their conscience judging them later on in life. Now imagine this scenario where the first son due to assisting their parents financial gets a job helping out in feeding expenses, then the junior one got admission into a university through the first son sponsor, finish schooling got a good job because he or she got a certificate but the first son is still doing meanie job, now what is the percentage that he would be compensated for helping out. As a first son the strive to success and struggle to make it in live in order to help your junior ones and claim your place as the first son leave some emotional imbalance.am sure that most if not all first son in such home might at a time suffer depression.