From I to We

Yes, from I to We, as time flies, a complete transformation from being "totally independent" to "reach upto others expectations". To be precise, from freedom to responsibility or from single to marital life.

Being single means you are free from responsibilities unless you are forced onto something. Here you get the liberty to choose your way of life. Though we have our limitations from parents side, we gain a great support from them when need arises.

When you are alone you have your fun and freedom to enjoy your life to the fullest. A freedom controlled by ourselves and parents only. We are given the freedom to spent time with our friends and relatives. A freedom to go anywhere we wish. A freedom to purchase things of our choice. A freedom to choose our career. All these and much more.

But for everything there is a time period. Say a clock is set. When time is up, we should be prepared to give up our freedom to a certain extent for the smooth running of our permanent side of life. One of the toughest part of life, because we are taking up responsibility which was never in our bucket list. An endless job where things should be executed with utmost care.

Once we are married we get settled in life with great expectations, to a certain extent we lose our freedom and take up new responsibilities. In the beginning everything is difficult for us. But as and when time passes by, we get used to all those. This is called life.

Not everybody gets a life of their dreams or choice. As time goes by, it is of great significance to realise how "we" becomes important than our carefree "I" life. Because our life is no more ours it just rotates with spouse, children, in laws and their relatives.

Most of us try not to give a loophole for any arguments. But then, sometimes it will happen and life should move on.

Somethings that we give up and accept life when "I" become "We".

• We learn to give up and adjust with what we have.

• No more decisions to be taken alone. Interactions with your spouse is very important.

• Utmost care is taken while executing even a small thing.

• Our patience increases as time goes by. We get to understand nothing can be done in haste.

• We learn to put a smile even though we are experiencing a painful time.

• Most important we learn to share and care for eachother.

• Most of us lose financial independence but we learn to live even if it's a meagre income, with no complaints.

• We learn to appreciate life by finding happiness in the little things .

• In some cases, our close friends are also limited to "hi" and "bye". This is not purposeful but due to some reasons it happens.

• Most of all, we try to please others than ourselves. May be once upon a time we had an adamant nature and pleasing others was never our cup of tea.

How I wish I get my beautiful days of freedom, that I once enjoyed. Time flies so fast that at the blink of an eye, my children are grown up, Iam getting aged and busy, no "Me" time for me. Just like a fairy tale, even we have our fun, laughter, sadness in this magical world.

Changes happen for good. And the one who is adapting to the new changes by accepting the foregoing challenges is the winner. So in some phase of life we all should definitely be a winner than a loser. Hope you agree with me.

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