I'll Be More Kinder and Compassionate to Myself, 2023 Res.
I'm not sure if you already know this but in my recent article (months ago), I shared how I forced myself to move on or if ever I'm in pinch I always use the harsh way for me to be able to overcome it. I don't sugarcoat my words just so I can make myself feel better because for me, the harsh way is much easier and it is more effective. Well, just for me. I'm not sure about the others but that's actually helps me specially when I am in pain.
Saying bad words to myself is what I'm used to. I also used negativities in me just so I can move forward. It's harsh and it's enough to shattered the little hope I have but, that's what I want to happen. That's the sole purpose as to why I am doing it. It maybe cruel but I will live. It helps me to become more stronger and braver. I don't have any mental issues because I use the brutal ways on dealing my own satan. It is helpful, in some ways.
I mean, if I am use to that then those incoming problems that was still on the way to get me can't penetrate my wall anymore. Because I know how to deal with it and I already know what to do. I know that, problem is getting bigger as time pass by but, at least right, I am already accustomed to it. And just like the old days, I will just face it head on and get use to it again. That's the right thing to do if ever I want to get stronger.
Problems can bully me, but I can be more of a bully to myself. I can spit more harsh words than the reality of my problems. Being soft is never an option. I have to do it because that's the only way I know to prepare myself for the pain that is just about to come. It's maybe wrong, but it is a big help to me. Do you also do that? The problems can bully me all they want, but I am already used to my own bullying of myself; that's just how it is.
But then, I just thought, maybe I have to be more careful to myself. Like I should be sweeter and kinder. But should I just change it if I am already doing good with my way? But thrn again, there's no harm in trying right? What's my purpose on doing this? Nothing, maybe I just want to be much stronger by doing this? I am really not sure. So the questions is:
How can I be kinder and more compassionate to myself over the next year?
When my inner bully comes out, what can I do to show myself more kindness and love?
Year 2022 is about to end and I noticed that I am being too harsh to myself this year. So for the next year which is 2023, I want to change a little. I want to he more kinder to myself, for my own good and growth. I am not sure if I can do this, but let see. There's no harm in trying. This is like a 2023 Goals, or new years resolution
How can I be kinder to myself?
(1) From now on, no more "You are not good enough so it is just natural if no one will like you." No more of that, I will chance thr way I console myself and only say good words to make myself feel better. For me to be more confident to myself. This bad talk to myself is also one of the reason why I have a low self esteem. I only want to heal immediately without thinking the possible side effect of those harsh words I spit. Me bad.
(2) From now on, I will only say "You are doing good, no need to please anybody. You are special on your own way." If this can help me, even if it is too cringe, I will use that and more others, for me to be more confident to myself. Who knows, maybe 2023 is the year where I can finally go out to my comfort room (zone.) Use only positive words and EKIS ❌ for any negativities.
(3) And when my inner bullies come out, I will just use my kindness to counterpart and never let negativities beat me. This will be hard for sure coz once it wreck havoc to my system, only acceptance is all I can do. As I've said, I am not sure yet if sweet words will be effective but I can always try it
(4) "I love you self, forget it." Charrrrr, hahaha. Something like that.
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So, that's it for now. I actually got this questions HERE. There's a lot to choose actually but I only chose one. Maybe I'll try to answer the other soon.
Thank You for reading!!!
November 27, 2022
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It's good to train ourselves to be tough but better if we are kinder too :) All the best to you as you begin those things you mentioned :) Like Tito Ed often say, tell yourself that you're awesome!