To this topic. I am just curious about this things. I am living for almost 20 years here at our world and this is the first time that I curious about this doings. Actually, this topic is not new to everyone. Because we experience this already. The reason why everytime We do this is for Good. It is really for good?
Some people who always do this and experience this kind of situation is the people who is Good at Pretending, Giving up easily, Tired and so on. Esp to relationship for example:
People who are giving up their love ones because their love ones is already in love with the other. I am thinking why they are doing this? It is not the solution. If you really love that person you don't need to give up, you should fight for him.
But of Course, They are doing that because they don't have a CHOICE. Fighting for your love is useless when the person that you like/love is not interested to you anymore. So the best thing that everyone will do is, to surrender to make his/her Love happy. It is hurt doing that but, you need to it is for the better.
Another example is:
If your bestfriend, friend, sister, brother, cousin want the same thing that you like but that thing is just one piece already.
Again, people who are good at Making the others happy giving up because they don't have a CHOICE. Even if they want it if they want the important person Happy they don't have a choice but to give up and choose another one instead.
Everyone who is Good at that doing that is the persons who are Hurting the most. They priorities the others first before theirselves.
The Question is, It is really for the best and Good for everyone? It is really good to act like that everytime? Thinking about others and don't think about yourself?
Sometimes, It is not bad to be selfish. Hurting yourself,If you want the things and persons and all that you would like to own Do it. It is not good to be like that everytime if you want to be kind to everyone you can do that sometimes. Don't spoil the people around you because in the future, they will get use to it and hurt you. Sometimes, they need to give up the things that you want too. If they really consider you as a Important Person to their life. They will also consider your feelings.
So instead of being just you to let go and you will just the only one to endure the pain and suffer, everyone need a Propertalk about this matter. In situation like this, it is important to talk about it in a Good and calm way. To avoid being hurt in the future. So, in Situation:
No.1 : both side needs to Talk properly esp. You and your love one. The most important thing to do is to be mature in talking and consider the feelings of both person important. It is important to know about how they feel to confirm it and know it if really it is the best thing to do and let go of each other. So that they both accept this situation and of course if how they feel. It is not good to let go each other without propertalk it is cause of bad mouthing behind their backs. Posting in social media about each other and so on. No that's is not good. So to avoid this, you need to Talk so that everyone will not be hurt.
No.2: You both need to choose. If the Item is just the one piece. You both need to find another pieces that has a two or different kind and find another things that will caught your attention and it is also better if you will compare the things that you first choose, to other things so that you have a reason to find another and if that is a person, you need a proper talk to each other. Don't hit in a one stone. You should tell how you are feeling to that person so that they are aware. It is also the person that you like and he/she like to decide if who should that person choose and if they choose one of you, both will accept it in a good way.
This is one of the most hard situation in Relationship. Everyone choose to let go for the happiness of the other better than choosing to make happy of themselves. because they want to make other Happy. But they didn't know that it is not healthy. It is bad to endure some pain and not talking about your side. It is important to others know what you think so that they will not commit a mistake and sin.
People who are good at that is they are the one who is Kind hearted person. Just like me, I am good at giving up and make myself endure the pain better than to choose and make myself happy. But everyone think that I am always okay, if i will let go they think that it is really okay and they didn't ask or making sure if it is really okay. Of course, I feel that I am not important to them because they just think about their own and not considering my Feelings.
My purpose of writing this is I want to share some Advice to everyone. It is okay to be selfish sometimes so that everyone around yoh will learn to give some chance to consider your feelings too. Don't just endure some pain and share what you feel. Because I learn that the more I am being Kind to everyone, the more betrayal I get.
So, if you want some things that you want get it and enjoy yourself to be happy better than anyone else.
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those things are common among us, some people might be sturbborn not to giveup but giving up and moving on is the best option...but the second must it be you to giveup...I mean what if the person is your elder sibling will you have to give up on that thing or the elder should