Learn to say “NO”

Article # 49
Date: May 21, 2022
Saturday

Roma was always a pure-hearted sweet little girl who used to care for others more than her own self. She always felt this urge to assist others in their chores. It was not because she wanted to show off, but she did every kind act out of the goodness of her heart. She was an orphan She lost her parents when she was 6 years old in a car crash. Since then, she was raised by her maternal aunt and uncle. They were good to her, but obviously, nothing could replace the affection of her parents. She used to miss them all the time and felt this vacant place in her heart that could only be filled by the love of her parents. But she had to live with that hole, because it’s a common fact that once our loved ones have been gone, they never come back, no matter how much we cry or miss them. Those ones gone are gone forever and the rest of the world just continues to move on.

Pain and sufferings affect each person differently. I have noticed this myself. There are some people who get heartless after sufferings. They become revengeful and can’t see anyone happy after they have suffered. They are of the view, that if life was so cruel to them, why is it good towards others? I feel so sorry for such people, as they must understand, that not everyone’s fate is similar. Every person faces trials in his or her life. But true happiness comes when you are kind towards others. Being envious is going to take you nowhere in life. But these people destroy their life with their own hands by jealousy, hatred, and enmity. While on the other hand, there are some people who get soft heartened when life gives them hardships. They can’t even imagine others going through the same as they did. 

So, Roma was the second type, always there to bear hardships for others. She could not say “NO” to others for anything. Even if she didn’t feel like doing anything someone else asked her to do, she could not say no and she would do it to make others feel at ease.

This habit of hers was going to hurt her badly in the future but she didn’t know this as she was innocent.

When she was at school, her friends would ask her to get their homework done. So, she would spend her entire break doing homework for her friends, while they would enjoy the break carelessly eating and playing. In college, her classmates would bunk classes and ask her to mark their proxies. Once, while marking her friend’s proxy, her teacher caught her and scolded her a lot. It was not the only time, she got herself into trouble for someone else, but it had happened multiple times before as well.

While growing up she fell in love with her classmate named Ron. He loved her too. During free time, they would sit together and dream of their future and laugh joyfully. She was just waiting for the end of her college to spill the beans in front of her uncle and aunt. 

The day her result was announced, she was so happy as she got distinction. With this great news, she decided to let her uncle and aunt know about Ron. As she got home, she saw some guests sitting in the drawing-room. She met them with a nice smile, which she always used to wear on her face. When they left, her aunt and uncle came to her room and gave her the news that they have decided to give her hand in marriage to the guy she just met in the drawing-room.

Roma felt as if someone had given her a 1000 volt electric shock. She stood there numb, without being able to tell them what she had been waiting to tell them for so long. Her aunt asked her if she had any objection, but she could not tell them because all she could remember at that moment was how kind they had been towards her after her parents died . She bowed her head to respect their decision because as always Roma could not say No. Her marriage got fixed, she buried the love of Ron in her heart and got married to the other guy with a heavy heart. But she could never forget Ron. She still misses him every single day and wishes:

“If only she had learned all those years ago to say NO”.

Closing Thoughts:

Helping others selflessly and caring for others is a sign of maturity and a good heart. But when you start taking yourself for granted, then others also do the same. You must never give them the right to hurt you. When you don’t feel like doing something that others ask you to do, you simply learn to say NO, or else you will always end up getting in trouble. If someone is nice to you, respect him/her but it does not mean handing over your entire life to him, allowing him to do whatever he want to do with it.

Disclaimer:

Every word written in this article is my own and doesn’t involve similarity to someone else’s article. This entire article is checked by Grammarly and is plagiarism free.

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