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Learn to say “NO”

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Written by   68
8 months ago
Article # 49
Date: May 21, 2022
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Roma was always a pure-hearted sweet little girl who used to care for others more than her own self. She always felt this urge to assist others in their chores. It was not because she wanted to show off, but she did every kind act out of the goodness of her heart. She was an orphan She lost her parents when she was 6 years old in a car crash. Since then, she was raised by her maternal aunt and uncle. They were good to her, but obviously, nothing could replace the affection of her parents. She used to miss them all the time and felt this vacant place in her heart that could only be filled by the love of her parents. But she had to live with that hole, because it’s a common fact that once our loved ones have been gone, they never come back, no matter how much we cry or miss them. Those ones gone are gone forever and the rest of the world just continues to move on.

Pain and sufferings affect each person differently. I have noticed this myself. There are some people who get heartless after sufferings. They become revengeful and can’t see anyone happy after they have suffered. They are of the view, that if life was so cruel to them, why is it good towards others? I feel so sorry for such people, as they must understand, that not everyone’s fate is similar. Every person faces trials in his or her life. But true happiness comes when you are kind towards others. Being envious is going to take you nowhere in life. But these people destroy their life with their own hands by jealousy, hatred, and enmity. While on the other hand, there are some people who get soft heartened when life gives them hardships. They can’t even imagine others going through the same as they did. 

So, Roma was the second type, always there to bear hardships for others. She could not say “NO” to others for anything. Even if she didn’t feel like doing anything someone else asked her to do, she could not say no and she would do it to make others feel at ease.

This habit of hers was going to hurt her badly in the future but she didn’t know this as she was innocent.

When she was at school, her friends would ask her to get their homework done. So, she would spend her entire break doing homework for her friends, while they would enjoy the break carelessly eating and playing. In college, her classmates would bunk classes and ask her to mark their proxies. Once, while marking her friend’s proxy, her teacher caught her and scolded her a lot. It was not the only time, she got herself into trouble for someone else, but it had happened multiple times before as well.

While growing up she fell in love with her classmate named Ron. He loved her too. During free time, they would sit together and dream of their future and laugh joyfully. She was just waiting for the end of her college to spill the beans in front of her uncle and aunt. 

The day her result was announced, she was so happy as she got distinction. With this great news, she decided to let her uncle and aunt know about Ron. As she got home, she saw some guests sitting in the drawing-room. She met them with a nice smile, which she always used to wear on her face. When they left, her aunt and uncle came to her room and gave her the news that they have decided to give her hand in marriage to the guy she just met in the drawing-room.

Roma felt as if someone had given her a 1000 volt electric shock. She stood there numb, without being able to tell them what she had been waiting to tell them for so long. Her aunt asked her if she had any objection, but she could not tell them because all she could remember at that moment was how kind they had been towards her after her parents died . She bowed her head to respect their decision because as always Roma could not say No. Her marriage got fixed, she buried the love of Ron in her heart and got married to the other guy with a heavy heart. But she could never forget Ron. She still misses him every single day and wishes:

“If only she had learned all those years ago to say NO”.

Closing Thoughts:

Helping others selflessly and caring for others is a sign of maturity and a good heart. But when you start taking yourself for granted, then others also do the same. You must never give them the right to hurt you. When you don’t feel like doing something that others ask you to do, you simply learn to say NO, or else you will always end up getting in trouble. If someone is nice to you, respect him/her but it does not mean handing over your entire life to him, allowing him to do whatever he want to do with it.

Disclaimer:

Every word written in this article is my own and doesn’t involve similarity to someone else’s article. This entire article is checked by Grammarly and is plagiarism free.

Thank you for reading this article! Stay happy & blessed!

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Unfortunately, I can't say no because I'm afraid of hurting the person in front of me.

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8 months ago

If you won’t learn it because of the fear that you might hurt people, then they are going to hurt you really bad! Believe me

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8 months ago

Unfortunately it happens as you say. while I'm afraid not to hurt them. they hurt me so much

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8 months ago

That’s why it is important to “learn to say no”

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8 months ago

yes dear you are absolutely right

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8 months ago

That is really a great lesson that I learned, it is really good to say no to some options that you are not comfortable with. There are people that when they know you as a person who do not always like to interfere the will like to used it.k

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8 months ago

Unfortunately I can't say no. and I don't know how to get rid of it

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8 months ago

Just think of all the problems it will get you in. Dont take yourself for granted! Try to speak up for yourself. Because if you don’t do this, no one else will

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8 months ago

Yes you are right. and i'm afraid to offend people by saying no

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8 months ago

This is really touching. Before, I didn't know how to say no because I was shy but right now, if it's going to affect my life negatively, I'll say no. And I feel like some people want others to respect them or show them the love they give out and its not possible

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8 months ago

It’s good to know that you have learned to say no! Stay blessed

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8 months ago

Your word just hit my heart, so true dear raheela it's not necessary that you will always gain the same love as you give it to others, we should keep our expectations as low as possible, i am not saying that i am the best version and soo much kind hearted and all the peoples around me are cruel but there are some peoples who don't even care for tye love and respect you give them and unfortunately i am not able to say no, and now i am fed up of my this habit, reading about roma i just felt she is too close to my heart as i know her, dunno why? Stay blessed, very well articulated 😻

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8 months ago

Yes there are certain people around us who don’t deserve our love. By the way if you feel like Roma is close to your heart it means you must have interacted with someone like Roma😃

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8 months ago

Haha...Yup but with some friends who were so close to me.

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8 months ago

It is heart breaking story. All the time we can't follow the trend yes. Sometimes we have to learn say," no". She sacrificed love due to this Habbit. She should at least discuss later for love to her maternal aunt. It is sad when someone failed in love. I died many times when it happened to me. Good story sister, you are really good content writer.

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8 months ago

Thank you so much! It’s all because of this platform, my writing skills are getting better.

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8 months ago

This is my biggest weakness "inability to say no", now i am Learning

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8 months ago

Glad to know you are trying to learn.

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8 months ago

It's not always easy to do

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8 months ago

Still you have got to try or else you will always get hurt

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8 months ago

Aw. Why am I so sad for Roma? She does not deserve it. That is one of the reasons why, if we live with other relatives, we must always do what they say, since it is difficult to say no. But in situations like that, when they decide who I will marry, I would be opposed to the idea.

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8 months ago

True that

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8 months ago

I have a friend like that too that can't say "No" to people. She sees it as being selfless but I told her sometimes she is being taken advantage of. We need to hold our ground. We need to learn to say no even if it doesn't appeal to others. It doesn't have to appeal to them anyway. It's not their life.

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8 months ago

I too have this habit sir. But I am learning to say No. As I often hurt my self due to this habit of mine. I am glad you are so sincere to your friend sir

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8 months ago

Yes, those users are the ones to benefit while you keep hurting yourself. They are exploiters and I don't like people like that because they show selfishness at the expense of others. Just learn to say no and think about yourself first before anyone else.

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8 months ago

You are right’ I will Sir! Thank you

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8 months ago

🤗🤗🤗

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8 months ago

Maybe she said yes to her uncle and aunt coz they are taking care of Ruma since her parent's death. but I think this should be thought by elders that they should ask for proposals acceptance or rejection not to tell that we have fixed it.

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8 months ago

Yes, guardians or parents must take care of this thing. Rather than imposing a decision they should ask first

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8 months ago