Is this love or what?

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3 years ago

In a relationship, be it friendship, dating or marriage, trust should be the foundation.

Without trust there's likelihood that there would be a bridge in the relationship. Where one would start suspecting the other.

I saw a post online today of a man who after going through the wife's phone decided to send a message to a number that is unknown to Jim but saved on his wife's phone.

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The picture above shows the details of the message. The person was seen to have greeted the woman. And the man replied 'I love you' hoping the wife was cheating on him. But was surprised with the person's reply.

Wife's friend: Its been a while

Husband: I love you❤💓😘

Wife's friend: 😳😳

Husband: 😂😂😂😂 it's her husband chatting, just trying to know if you are part of the people messaging her behind my back. You passed the test sir.

Please, what kind of a man does that?

Isn't that overprotectiveness? Or do we think we can classify this as love?

Your spouse goes to work and you are not at peace; your partner got a message and is about to reply but you can't accept that it's just a message from one of their friends in school.

You have an hidden secret but aren't sure if your partner will keep the secret as well with you.

Why Is Trust so Important In A Relationship?

Trust is the foundation upon which a relationship can live even during the hardest of times.

In fact, without trust, you cannot hold your relationship for a long time.
I feel one of the reasons for relationships to fall apart is due to lack of trust. Here is why trust is the major driving force in a relationship:

  • You cannot love without trusting a person. 

    As stated earlier, trust is the building block of love. Just like how a child trusts her mother and loves her dearly, your partner needs to know that you can be trusted and won’t dump when things are tough.

    When the going gets tough, will the tough get going?

    This feeling is important for love to sprout and flourish.

  • Trust helps in overcoming obstacles on the way

    Trust is the binding factor for all cracks and differences that might come up or occur in a relationship.

    You know deep within you that you can overcome the problems and feel safe and secure with your partner.

    Two are better than one, for when one fall, the other will lift him up.

  • Trust helps in healing. 

    When you are hurt in your relationship, you get over it quickly due to the deep trust that you have in your spouse. Trust serves as a fast healing balm, it makes one free from whatever one is holding on to.

  • Trust helps in controlling emotions. 

    The degree to which you trust a person will tell how much of yourself you want to give the other person. If you are hurt or annoyed at them, it is only trust that tells you that there must be some reason behind their annoying behavior.

  • Trust is reassuring.

    Trust gives you the assurance that your partner loves you despite whatever arguments and fights that you might have or whatever might have caused it. This is the key to a long-lasting relationship.

  • You don’t need justifications. 

    When you trust your partner absolutely you don’t need to start explaining or justifying everything your partner says or do.

    You have the assurance that your partner will understand and trust your actions and decisions.

  • Trust teaches you about personal time and space. 

    When you trust, you don’t feel insecure about giving your partner their space.

    In fact, trust will help you stay close in spite of the obstacles.

So, MARRY the person you LOVE and can TRUST and TRUST the person you can LOVE AND MARRY.

So what's your take?

Should a man do that to his woman? Chatting up people on her contact list, to see if she's cheating.

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Trust is very strong and the key to long lasting relationship. If we can't trust our partner, love can't grow and will crumble at last. To be able to trust each other, then both of them would have gone far to always remember love conquers all even when trust is available.

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3 years ago

If you don't trust your partner, then that is not a healthy relationship. Every relationship is built on trust. To do that to your wife it just means you don't trust her at all. On the other hand, her suspicion could be based on the wife's previous cheating for example. Then I couldn't blame the husband for doing that.

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3 years ago

Exactly. Trust is key. But as you said on your last note, it could be based on the wife's previous cheating act, BUT I don't think that's a yardstick for him to do that.

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3 years ago

I don't agree with what the husband did. It just shows that he doesn't trust her wife. I mean, if you can not acquire peace in that relationship, why stick with it? You both deserve peace of mind.

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3 years ago

The man was wrong in all sense.

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3 years ago

The man shouldn't have done that. It's not right. He must trust his wife. I don't think it's love.

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3 years ago

Yes. Trust is very much expected in relationships

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3 years ago

This husband is so funny and needs help. Why won't you trust the woman you marry. Why use her phone in message her contacts

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3 years ago

As in, very funny

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3 years ago

What the man did was wrong, there's nothing bad if I tell my friend I love you. So far i never meant the other way round. What if the man has replied with I love you too,does that mean the woman is cheating? No,but he will think she is. Trust like you have said it the foundation for any kind of relationship. Thanks for sharing

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3 years ago

That's the place of trust in a relationship

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3 years ago