9/10/21
I read a news online today,of a young school boy killed by his roommate out of anger. You can read the story via this link.
The comments of people under the post brought about my topic today. We need to learn how to manage our anger.
I know and agree that it is very normal to get angry. But we should be ready to get our anger under control.
You can start controlling your anger by considering the following anger management tips.
Always try to think first before you speak
When in the heat of the moment, there's possibility that you will easily say something you will regret later. Always collect your thoughts well before speaking. Also, allow others that are involved in the conversation speak their minds too.
Once you're in a calm state, express your anger as lightly as possible
As soon as you know you've gone down on the anger you feel within you, and you are already thinking clearly, you will need to express the frustration you feel towards the person in an assertive but not in a confrontational way. Make the person aware of your concerns and needs very clearly and directly, without hurting others or trying to boss over them.
Ensure you get some exercise
Observing basoc Physical activities can help us to reduce stress that can make us so angry. If you feel your anger is getting more intense, go for a brisk walk or take a run, you can even spend some time doing other physical activities that you enjoy doing.
Try to Take a timeout
Taking timeouts isn't just for babies. You need to give yourself the treat of short breaks at intervals during times of the day that seem too stressful. Having a few moments of quiet time might help you feel so prepared enough to handle what you have ahead without getting irritated or angry at all.
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Instead of feasting all your anger on what made you mad, try to work on resolving the issue you have at hand. Do you get angry or driven crazy by your child's messy room? Is your partner always late for dinner and that gets you angry? Schedule meals for later in the evening when they would be back or agree to eat on your own a few times a week. Always remind yourself that anger won't fix anything for you and it might only make things worse.
Stick with the 'I' statements
To avoid placing blames on people which might only increase the tension between you two, try to use "I" statements to describe the problem at hand instead. Be very respectful, accurate and specific in your explanation. For example, say, "I am upset that you left the dishes on the table without even attempting or offering to help with the dishes" instead of "You are lazy, you don’t do any housework.
Don't hold grudges at all because life is so simple
A powerful tool we should all ensure we have is forgiveness. If you allow anger take over you and also allow other negative feelings to crowd out all positive feelings you possess, you might find yourself being eaten up by your own bitterness or your sense of injustice. But if you can forgive someone who made you angry, then both of you might learn from the situation and it might strengthen your relationship.
Use your sense of humor to release tension
Lightening up at all times can help diffuse tension. Use humor to help you face what's making you angry and, possibly, any unrealistic expectations you have for how things should go. Avoid sarcasm, though — it can hurt feelings and make things worse.
Endeavour to practice relaxation skills
When your temper is about flaring up, try to put relaxation skills to work. Practice exercises that would make you breathe deep. Keep imagining a relaxing scenerio, or try repeating a calming word or phrase, such as "Take things easy dear." You might also try listening to music, write daily activities in a journal or do a few yoga poses too. Whatever it will take to encourage your relaxation.
Please know when to seek for help
Learn to control your anger, it is often a challenge for most people at times. Always seek help for anger issues if you know your anger seems too much out of control, or if you know your anger issues causes you to do things you regret or if it hurts those around you.
I was unable to post yesterday. I have 10 more days in camp. So, let the countdown begin.
I know how anger can ruin things and would leave the victim regretting. I have always been an angry person not until I discovered I am only causing moe troubles to myself. Anger is bad and I hope people get to see and put into practice Anger management. I really felt for the friend who is dead now due to his frend's anger.