I saw my parents struggle on raising us 3 especially that when we were kids we had this convulsion that made our mom rattle. I saw how our mom handled things unexpectedly just so she could do everything. She’s the one who cooks for us, the one who takes us baths, the woman who cleans the house and most of all the one who loves and understands us even if it seems no one can handle it. I saw how my father financed us even if he didn't have what he wanted. I saw how challenging it is for him to bring us to school by carry when the road is muddy and choose to walk barefooted so we don’t get dirty. I saw how difficult parenting is and I know it will never be easy.
• Giving birth. Is one of the most painful experiences yet memorable one. I saw how happy it is though I haven’t experienced it yet. I can’t imagine how unbearable the pain is looking at how big the baby coming out from the v*gina made me shiver. C’mon I feel it just by looking at the different videos adding to the moment where the doctor and or nurse cut just so they could fit when they came out.
• Sleepless night. When we are born there are a lot of night’s that our parents didn’t sleep, just so they will know how we are. When we are hungry we cry and that wakes them up. When we want to change our diapers we cry and that makes them do so even if they wanted to rest for a little bit. When we feel hot or cold we tend to cry and sometimes they don’t understand what we really meant.
• Depression. Most women after giving birth experience having a postpartum which is surely difficult for both partners. A woman always think that she’s ugly and not worth it that’s why it usually results to suicide when their partner didn’t understand them. A woman’s depression is way too difficult to handle that even they can’t understand. They easily cry for no reason, having a mood swing that results in chaos and sometimes women tend to release all that she feels to his/her child. It is important that a man knows how to understand her partner so she can overcome it.
• Insecurities. When a woman gives birth a lot of body changes happen, from being slim to fat or vice versa. Her face changed as well and that made her think she’s ugly. Skin color and texture mostly changed that made her insecure especially when she saw other women that had the most perfect body. Mostly, body shape changes, if there’s no curve, some have a lot of curves and are full of fat. Underarm, and even neck gets dark and they choose not to wear an exposed shirt. Some women didn’t have time to put on makeup just so they could feel they are beautiful, even tying a hair is difficult since they don't care about them anymore but you know mostly what’s the reason? It is that they have no time since they are busy with everything from the child to the household chores. Instead of sleeping while their children sleep they choose to clean the house.
Both men and women play an important role in parenting. A lot of things change for both of them. They are not living as a teens anymore that care all about themselves, how they dress, what they look like and even buying unnecessary and expensive things. When parenting hits it is far from what we used to be, what we are now focusing on is the future of the family, the future of the child. I just hope that the woman will find the right man who understands her when she can’t understand herself. The one who never gets tired saying “I love you and you are beautiful “. The one who never gets tired of kissing the forehead just like before. Hopefully, the man will find the perfect woman as well who loves his imperfections, who understands and loves him more than before. Parenting is on a different level but hopefully God allows them to meet in the perfect time with the perfect person.
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That's why as much as possible , teenage pregnancy or early marriage should be avoided coz life of a parents has lots of responsibilities. Being a mother in particular requires us physically to be strong and healthy to carry our baby for 9 mos aside from being emotionally stable so we could handle postpartum after birth and lots of responsibilities afterward. Spiritually full so we won't easily give up from life's adversities that parenting and being a spouse has stored.