Let's stop self-sabotaging ourselves

“Resistance by definition is self-sabotage.”

Steven Pressfield

Everyone wants to climb the ladder of success, unfortunately, we would be confronted with challenges and obstacles that would slow things down for us. Who wouldn't want a free life where everyone could just stretch their hands and get through their goals? The truth is, we all do.

Many of us have found ourselves in self-sabotaging, and this definitely could hamper our progress and create fear in our minds, before we know what is happening, we are scared of trying because we feel we are inadequate.

Self-sabotaging is driven by negative self-talk when we think we aren't sufficient or do not have the ability like others. We keep getting scared of trying because we've already concluded that we would fail while trying, so of what use should I try?

I know many of us, including myself, have found ourselves looking at others and how they are doing well, and because we compare ourselves to them, we focus on what they are doing, rather than what we can offer. No one will know what we are capable of doing if we do not showcase our potential.

Just because you feel like “I can't do it, it's beyond my power and strength, she is doing better than me etc”, we bring ourselves so low and stop trying.

When you sabotage your effort and project, you might be getting in your way.

Another way you sabotage yourself is when you put yourself down. Surely, we would always meet with criticism and judgement from people because no matter what we do, they aren't good or pleasing in some people's eyes. They stab you with negativities, and seeing or hearing that, you add to your problem by believing what they say about you. Allow yourself to recognize what your abilities are, and bring out the skill hidden in you because the world will not know what you can do until you show them.

When people sabotage themselves, they hinder their success and when they take these destructive steps, it would thwart their lives and relationships with other people.

Though, many times, we may consciously or unconsciously self-sabotage ourselves. How does this happen?

A conscious sabotaging is when you are overweight and you have the intention to reduce your weight, but you are still eating a whole carton of cake and ice cream because you concluded, you can't achieve your aim.

Unconscious sabotage is when you unintentionally fail to meet the deadline of a project due to some circumstances, and instead of trying to submit it, you are afraid you might lose.

There are things we can do, if we do not give it a try, we might be missing out on some huge opportunities because if you fail to try, you may never try anything at all, and that is one of the obstacles to getting higher in life.

We all are different and have our purposes in life. We can't be the same as other people and that is why we are unique. Recognize your capability and work on your skills. There is nothing bad in taking risks in life. You might not know what will work out best if you do not give it a try.

Stop speaking negative words to yourself. This means you are limiting yourself and you will always be confined to your comfort zone when you should have gotten up and given it a try.

When you wake up each day, look into the mirror and feel the same person you are. Say positive things to yourself and believe you can do it. This life is all about giving it a try and knowing what we are good at. Let's prove to the world what we can do and stop sabotaging ourselves as you are only pulling yourself down instead of pushing yourself up and higher.

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