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My Childhood and best friend would be celebrating her first year wedding anniversary on the 15th of August and I really appreciate God for her home.
I went to visit her on Friday and on seeing her, I was happy and I wasn't happy. Why? I was happy because I saw her again after a year and I wasn't happy because she wasn't looking good. We both talked at length. She said to me "Since I have been married, life has been boring to me. I jokingly told him I wasn't in an hurry but he didn't listen to me".
I smiled and only said "all will be well". What do you expect me to say than that? All will be well for her.
She said many things to me and all I could do was to keep them on my left hand so I don't forget. She was talking but at the same time, advising me which she didn't know, I am not married yet but I already got some things to take home even though I have read many articles regarding such but I am seeing and hearing this from my childhood friend and it's an experience for me.
After everything, I summed it up into three parts which I gave it an acronym "P.E.S"
Many ladies have the mentality that marriage is to go and enjoy yourself and depend on your husband. You feel he has the full responsibility for everything and you as a wife won't do anything?
God said a man would leave his parents and cling to his wife and both of them would become one flesh. Both are now helpmeet and not seperated again.
The reason God ordained marriage is for both of them to come together and in unity do things as it ought to be. When you now leave all to your partner, then I think you want to kill him or her. The responsibility of one person is different from two and even more when children comes in.
As a wife, there are three things or more you should do for your husband to have a better and long lasting relationship in marriage.
The first on the list is the "P" (PRAY FOR YOUR HUSBAND)
"A praying wife is a strong woman"
She told me how she used to wake up every 5:30am to pray and her husband would still be sleeping. I smiled and said the wife has a lot to do in that aspect. As a wife, you should always be interceding for your husband even if he isn't waking up to join you.
God answers prayers through the wife to her husband. If you are a wife and you haven't been strong in prayer, then I don't think you can handle a home or even help your husband.
Whenever he is out or at home, you should always be in the mood to pray and intercede for him. If he wants to join you, he will do that and don't ever make the mistake to force him to pray. Let him come at his own will except for the fact that you both have agreed to be coming together on days like observing morning devotion. It is your duty as the wife of the house to stand up and pray for your home.
The second on the list is "E" (ENCOURAGE HIM)
There are most times he would feel sober or sad. Days he would return from work having a bad day. Days he got frustrated and having a difficult moment in his mind and he needs someone to encourage him and you as a wife can't stand in that gap to do that, it's a shame for you.
This is why we have been told to always be prepared as ladies or women to have something to bring to the table. I am not saying bringing food to the table. You have to learn how to encourage and inspire your man. You have to be intelligent enough to give a wise advice to him.
You should create that Quality time to talk to him, observe his mood whenever he is around, go close to him and encourage him.
"I know you are bothered and it seems things are going bad with you. I believe God is with you and I also want to believe this phase shall pass. Stand on your feet and go get that project. I know you can do it. I trust your ability etc
These words alone has already awaken the moody spirit in him. He will be happy to have such a wonderful partner. His morale would be ignited. Why? Because he has seen an encourager in his wife. He knows he didn't marry a dull or stupid woman. Lol
As a wife, be an encourager to your spouse and wake that spirit up in him.
The third on the list is "S" (SUPPORT HIM)
My friend told me of an Uncle who got married to a woman, I know the Uncle very well. He said to her one day that ever since he has married her, she has never contributed anything in the house. The man's salary is $30 every month and he would have to pay the bills, pay the school fees of their two children, still have to put money for food but this woman will never contribute as a wife and she is receiving a higher salary than the man. Does she want to kill the man?
Perhaps she thinks since the man married her, he should carry all the responsibilities.
This isn't done at all. Husbands are trying and they need to be supported too. Be a supportive wife to your husband. Let him know you understand and are concerned about him. You don't have to carry all but at least both of you are in it together. Help him so he doesn't get tired.
My friend said "I really appreciate all husbands because they are trying" but I said something
"Not all men are to be appreciated, there are real men who deserves such kudos because we have some men who are so lazy and not hardworking to cater for the family".
So, when we are praising all men, let us remember not all men are in that category 🙄
Real men are to be supported by their wives.
When two people come together, there would be peace and things would go smoothly.
Thanks for reading
|August 08, 2021|
I like the supportive part. Some women wouldn't bother to support their husbands since they believe that their husbands have to carry all the responsibilities including their expenses as stated in the bible. Though the bible has confirm man will sweat to cater for his wife as God said to Adam, the father of creations but that doesn't mean women shouldn't help sometimes. I will advise that those women with this bad mentality should stop.