Be In Control Over Your Brain

Sometimes my brain is leading me to a direction, where I don't want to be at all. It has probably happened to you as well. Let me explain what I am talking about. If something happens, that you think it should not be happening, because usually it doesn't happen that way. For example you are expecting your partner to be back at home from work at a certain time and they are late. Half an hour passes, then three quarter an hour, then an hour and they still not be back. They are not picking up their phone either although it is ringing. What happens in your mind? What do you think? We have to admit, that usually most of us think of the worst, that something bad happened to our loved ones an accident or even worse, than that. Then we start worrying. But what if it was nothing? What if everything will turn out fine? That's why we need to relax, because when things are not going the way we used to, we tend to worry too much.

This kind of way of thinking creates a negative emotion within us and our mind will be filled with negative thoughts, that lead us to having a bad evening. The thing is you see, that we need to keep calm, because we are not sure at all what is going on. What could be the reason behind our negative emotions? We don't have a clue about it. The only way is to wait, keep your mind occupied, and see what happens. Don't try to explain it away. You can do nothing about it anyway. You can't even check if your partner is okay or not. Nobody can tell you anything, until it is confirmed.

Of course I know this is really hard. You are already feeling vulnerable and unable to control your situation. You can't handle the waiting either. I always say to myself in situations like this, that no news is always good news. If something happened I am sure, that I would be the first to know about it. It helps me to calm down. I think you should always remind yourself of this. The only thing you can do is wait. Just wait and try to be positive.

Don't Let Your Brain Control You, You Lead Your Brain Instead

You have to remain in charge of your own mind, and that's really hard sometimes. Your brain is like a powerful machine, that's always busy, but you are the master of it. You can allow it to control you, or you can decide what it will do. Most of the time, our brain automatically decides what we are going to do, just by seeing something or hearing about it. It decides based on our memories and how it links what we see or hear with other memories.

So What Can You Do?

• You can allow your brain to make of you a puppet. Your brain is powerful and will do what it wants, unless you keep it under control.

• Or you can take control of it yourself and think for yourself. Your brain is making you do things against your will, but you can override this.

In the first case, you are a puppet, in the second case, you are in control. If your brain makes you feel fear, then you should do exactly what it says. Because, as we know, fear is the most important personality trait a human can have. Remain in control of your own mind. Don't allow your brain to take over and make you do things against your will. This is one of the most difficult things you have to learn. It takes practice, but it is worth it and it will help you to get through tough situations.

How To Overcome Fear?

Fear is an emotion, which is very strong and powerful. But it can also be overcome with a little bit of effort. This feeling in your stomach is not there, because you are scared of dying or anything. It is just a feeling of anxiety. An anxious feeling, that keeps on resurfacing. An anxious feeling which tells you, that there is something more going on. This anxious feeling is your brain telling you, that you should remain cautious, and not take any chances. It is a gentle reminder, that you are in grave danger, but it is not an invincible feeling.

Your mind is capable of pushing these apprehensive feelings away, but you have to make this choice yourself. If you focus on the anxious feeling, then it will overwhelm you, in which case the fear might take over. If you focus on the fear, then it will remain in control and you'll be at its mercy. The best way to overcome the fear is with reason. You have to use logic to conquer your emotions. Be aware of the fear, but try not to be under it.

Release Unwanted Thoughts

Take a deep breath to focus. You then enter your mind and begin to systematically release different thoughts. At first, the process is slow and laborious, but you keep at it until it begins to get easier. You start to notice the different thoughts, that enter your mind, some you want to hold on to and some you want to let go of. You try to release the thoughts, which have no bearing on what's going on right now. The thoughts about what you will have for dinner, your neighbor's annoying dog or how much homework you have. All of these thoughts are nothing but noise, and you don't want to pay attention to them. You want to pay attention to the situation at hand.

You approach each new thought like a virus. You'll give it a thorough examination to see if it is useful, if it can harm you in any way or if it is just an annoyance. A few of the thoughts pass the test and are released while others refuse to let go. These are the unwanted thoughts. Letting these thoughts control you is useless. You are a hundred times more powerful, than any fluke of the brain could ever make you. You are the ruler of your mind. With a little more effort, you can only reach your full potential. You release the unwanted thoughts and focus on the immediate situation. Remaining in control of your mind is a lot easier when you aren't being assaulted by constant distracting thoughts. Being in charge of your own mind is a very liberating feeling.

Conclusions

Choose to be in charge of your own mind. It is up to you whether you let the fear rule over you or if you take control. You are aware, that you've been given a choice, but are you sure about this path? It is always an option to back out. The health of your mind and emotions is extremely important to you. If you had chosen the other option, you would have been overwhelmed with a flood of unwanted and distracting thoughts. From now on, you need to keep this in mind. If you are too focused on something else, your thoughts will be taken away from what is important.

You are sure of your decision to conquer the fear within you. This is the first step on your journey towards being a person with strong emotions under control. You have chosen to be in charge of your own mind. Congratulations, you are a person with strong emotions under control. Next up, you need to practice controlling your emotions when you're tired or bored. Keep it up and you're on your way to mastering the mind.