21 Years Of Being In Love

I was inspired to write this article after reading @Eybyoung 's work. So girl, thanks for the idea😉.

"Walang forever" we often hear or read these words. But is it true?

This article is about my love story, it might get cheesy so be prepared😉🤣.

Quick story of how I met my husband

I met my husband when I was only 19 years old(fresh na fresh pa😂) and he was 24. He's my neighbor's friend. My first impression of him is not good. I don't like him at first, but when we get to know each other, that is the time I fell in love with him. I like him first and he had a girlfriend at that time. But then they broke up so I grab the chance and confessed my feelings to him. Yeah, I made the first move and I don't feel ashamed of it(ganun talaga kailangan lumandi para magkajowa🤣). I am just being true to myself. So after that, we became a couple and the rest is history.

How are things being together for 21 years?

It's not that easy, it never was. We've been through hell and back. I think in a relationship, the woman is always the most broken when something is wrong. In my case, since I made the first confession about my feelings, I always had a doubt. Questions keep coming into my mind, "What if he doesn't really love me? What if he just used me?

One time, I asked him why does he love me, and he said, "I don't know, I just felt it. Why, do I need to have a reason to love you?" Then I realize, yes, when you love someone, you don't need to have a reason for you to love that someone.

What are the common problems you had faced?

Money

I guess that every couple faced this kind of problem. When you have piled up bills, empty food storage, and so on.

Jealousy

Would you believe it if I tell you that he is the jealous type? Every time I talked to a guy, he would feel jealous(haba ng hair ko🤣). That is always the reason for our fights, jealousy. Before I met him, I had so many guy friends. But just to put him at ease, I distanced myself from them. I often told him, "Ikaw na nga lang pumatol sa akin eh, panay pa selos mo." (Ang ganda ko kasi🤣😂)

There's this instance that we had a big fight. He found out that one of his friends used to like me. I told him that I have no idea about it but he keeps insisting that maybe we had a relationship before we started ours. Of course, that is not true so I told him that he was just jealous out of nothing. Then he went out and returned home late and drunk. He asked for an apology and hugged me tight while saying, " Mahal na mahal kita, ayokong mawala ka sa akin."

Emegesh! Kinilig ang pempem ko dun🤣😂. Then you know what happens next, pang 50 shades of grey, HAHAHAHAHA!

Barkada or Circle of friends(B.I)

I had no problem with his friends when we still live in Manila. I know most of them because they are also my friends. The B.I's that I am talking about are his friends here in Capiz. They always asked him out for a drink. They would drink from morning till the next morning. Then one time, he went out for a drink with them. I got used to it that would finish in the morning so I was surprised that his friends went to our house and asked if my husband is home. So I told them that he was with them so why asked me about his whereabouts?

Then I found out that he was taken to the police station. One of his friends had caused trouble in the store where they had a drink and eventually, my husband got caught instead of him. So I went there and cried a lot. I was crying because I am so mad at what had happened. If not only for our daughter, I would let him stay there for days "para magtanda." After that incident, he keeps his distance from them. I guess he was ashamed because his daughter saw him there. My daughter was 2 years old when it happened so she wouldn't remember that incident and I wouldn't tell her too.

Have you come to a point that you're so fed up with all the problems and wanted to break loose?

Yes, many times over! But then again, my love for him overpowered that urge to let loose. And besides, I'm with him at his best so I should be with him at his worst. (Popoy is that you?😅🤣😂

What is your sweetest moment with your husband?

Our sweetest moment was when he told me that he loves me too. I made the first move of confessing my feelings for him so after he told me that he loves me too, I feel like I was on cloud 9. Parang feeling ko ang ganda ng lahat, HAHAHAHA!

What are your secrets to having a long-lasting relationship?

I guess the common secrets are Trust, respect, and communication.

The thing is, we get too confident of the thought that because we have that person for a long time, it will stay that way, well that's not how it works. The relationship is a working progress, we have to always work for it. Don't be too confident that nothing can break you apart because there are always potential reasons that could break you apart.

Oh, I think there is one secret that might work for everyone, DON'T BE SHY TO BE THE FIRST TO INITIATE INTIMACY, this goes for all the wives. I always do that, I keep my husband happy in terms of his sexual desires.😉

Married or not?

We're not married yet. 21 years of living together. It's not that I don't believe in marriage, I also want to wear a wedding dress. But every time we planned on getting married, shit happens. And also, my 2 younger sisters were married to their first husbands but ended up in separate ways. So I guess let's see if we get married or not soon🤣😂.

So do you believe in "Walang Forever?"

No, because there is always forever. 21 years is already forever for me😉. If "walang forever" then what do you call our grandparent's relationships? Those people who keep saying that are just bitter about what they had experienced. Or they are just too picky, or they just haven't found their forever mate yet.

Author's note

Believe in love, because there is always forever in true love.

Date published : August 6,2021/9:35pm